“Be gentle with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe
“Guilty,” admits an offender. “Guilty,” proclaims a jury. Things are pretty black and white in trial verdicts and courtroom pleas (although there are still plea bargains and hung juries, mitigating circumstances and appeals).
Life is rarely as cut-and-dried as the criminal justice system.… Read More
“He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” ~Lao Tzu
I’m at war with enoughness.
My stomach isn’t flat enough; I’m not extroverted enough; I don’t have enough money in my wallet; I’m not creative enough; I’m not getting enough work done.
There are times when the Jaws of Life cannot free me from my expectations and negative self-talk.… Read More
“I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind.” ~Khalil Gibran
I recently travelled to Malaysia for a friend’s wedding where I spent four delicious days communing with wild monkeys and feasting on sticky rice. The people were kind and warm, the culture rich, the trip magical.… Read More
“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” ~Benjamin Disraeli
When I entered into a relationship with my ex-boyfriend four years ago, I felt I had found a kindred spirit. We met at a meditation retreat where we both volunteered in the kitchen.… Read More
“Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.” ~Swedish proverb
I’m a worrier by nature, and I come by it honestly.
My mother was afraid to cross bridges, and ride in elevators, boats, and airplanes. Her mother died of cancer at the age of 40, and my mother spent many years—including those of my childhood—thinking every sniffle, fever, or headache might be the start of something fatal.… Read More
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts
This year has been one of unprecedented change for me. From January to March, I traveled to Mozambique, Africa to do volunteer work. I did not speak the language; I did not understand the culture.… Read More
“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today. “ ~Michelle C. Ustaszeski
My brother Greg and I were the closest of friends growing up, even if you weigh in the occasional tiff or disagreement we sometimes had.
We discovered our favorite toys together as kids, rode bikes side by side, and conquered video games as a two-man team.… Read More
“To have a friend and be a friend is what makes life worthwhile.” ~Unknown
I am fascinated by friendships.
Not the acquaintances you see occasionally or the Facebook friends who wouldn’t recognize you on the street.
I’m talking about your real people. The people who know and love the deepest parts of you.… Read More
“Worry looks around, fear looks back, faith looks up, guilt looks down, but I look forward.” ~Unknown
I moved houses a couple of weeks ago. It was the perfect opportunity to take a break, pause and reflect, and decide on the directions I wanted my small business to take.
And I did just that: I rested, took the time to think and get über clear about what I wanted to do next and how, revamped my offerings, made a super duper inspiring goal list and… decided that getting to know our neighbors’ cats was far more fascinating than, you know, work.… Read More
“Change is not a process for the impatient.” ~Barbara Reinhold
I love it when change happens quickly. Sometimes things just click, and everything shifts all at once.
When I met the man who’d become my husband, we were married only thirteen months later, and in those thirteen months we both transformed to our very cores.… Read More
“On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind what you do” ~Eckhart Tolle
I was recently speaking with a friend about what it feels like to connect with your underlying, always-there state of well-being. I attempted to describe the indescribable—the feeling underneath the mental chatter that is who you truly are.… Read More
“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” ~Raymond Lindquist
I’ve been processing my beliefs on courage since I turned 31.
When I was in my 20s and teens, my idea of courage was that you fight until the death, never give up, be the one to say the last word, and always, always prove your point.… Read More
“It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau
A couple of years ago my friends and I went on a weekend retreat to honor our dear friend’s 40th birthday. It was supposed to be a relaxing weekend filled with yoga and meditation at an ashram in the mountains.… Read More
“It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.” ~Aeschylus
It’s crazy, isn’t it?
Your best friend enthusiastically shares some big news. You say all the right things and display the right emotions. But inside you’re burning up. Instead for feeling truly happy, you’re filled with uncontrollable envy.… Read More
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” ~William James
My mind wasn’t able to percieve the reality around me. It had been ten days since I’d woken up with a feeling of constant energy flowing through my whole body.
It was so intense that I didn’t want to let it go.… Read More
“What is my purpose here and how may I serve…in the midst of all this confusion?” ~Wayne Dyer
Your life is a mess and you can’t do anything about it, right?
You may be closer to the answers than you think, even while right in the middle of the chaos that showed up.… Read More
I credit yoga with transforming and possibly saving my life, so I knew I wanted to get involved when I learned about Yoga Dudes for Movember.
In case you’re not familiar, “Movember” is a mustache growing charity event that takes place during—you guessed it—November.
Every year, men around the world grow handlebars and Fu Manchus to raise awareness for prostate cancer and other men’s health issues.… Read More
“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” ~Alan Watts
When I was in third grade, I loved to hang upside down on the monkey bars on the playground of my all-girls school in Philadelphia.
I would lock my little pale knees over the gray steel rods and then carefully let my hands go to swing upside down, like a pendulum in a pleated skirt.… Read More
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” ~Brené Brown
When I started graduate school, it was safe to say that I was running away from things. I’d recently ended a nine-year relationship and I wasn’t planning on dealing with it.… Read More
“Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you” ~John De Paula
Remember the Tasmanian Devil?
That crazed Loony Tunes cartoon character spinning out of control, crashing into everything in his path? Arriving in a blur. Leaving chaos in its wake.
That was pretty much me and my approach to “living my passion.”
This is hard to write but here goes (deep breath)…
Not too long ago I was seriously trying to accomplish all of these things at the same time:
- Play in a rock and roll band of middle aged men living in New York City, rehearse regularly, play live shows, tour, and still play dad to a family of four.
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