“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” ~ Pema Chodron from When Things Fall Apart
Don’t run away from your fear, Pema says.… Read More
“I vow to let go of all worries and anxiety in order to be light and free.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
Whenever worries and anxiety overwhelm your life, people tell you, “Just relax.”
Thanks, that’s wise advice, but how the hell do you do that? You’d love “to be light and free,” but that seems impossible when you’re feeling heavy and enslaved.… Read More
“We must never forget that it is through our actions, words, and thoughts that we have a choice.” -Sogyal Rinpoche
I grew up deep in the “Bible Belt” in Texas and along with that came the teaching that certain beliefs were never to be questioned. This kept life simple and reduced choices but it also left me with the baggage of dogmas I no longer accept.… Read More
“Stay away from what might have been and look at what will be.” -Marsha Petrie Sue
When I look back at some of the most painful moments of my life, I see myself sitting alone feeling either immense shame or regret.
It’s bizarre how we can get so offended and angry when other people hurt us and yet repeatedly choose to torture ourselves—far worse than they possibly could—through repeated mental rehashing.… Read More
“If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.” -Lao Tzu
In my quest for personal development, I’ve done a ton of processing, meditating, reading, praying, exercising, eating well, and helping other people. All of these things are amazing, and I still do them regularly, but none of it matters if I don’t guard my thoughts as though my life depends on it.… Read More
“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.” ~Proverb
It’s been a year since I stumbled upon Tiny Buddha. At the time I was in a difficult place emotionally, mentally, and physically.
I felt as if life were pointless and that there was nothing for me in the world: no room, no hope, no opportunity, no relief from the chronic tiredness and pain, and no love.… Read More
“Whenever something negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
The most common conversation I have with other people includes the blame game.
The one where your job, your wife, your dog, your mother-in-law, your neighbor six doors down, the media, the government, the receptionist at your doctor’s office, or the dress maker who measured you wrong is somehow responsible for the problems you’re having.… Read More
“The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.” ~Barbara De Angelis
When we were kids, my dad used to measure us as we grew taller. On the back of the door of the laundry chute, he would keep track of me and my two sisters.… Read More
Three years ago, I was living in the Bay Area, working for a start-up website as a Community and Content and Manager. Every day, I signed online and wrote for hours about a topic that meant absolutely nothing to me.
I accepted the position because it was a dramatic pay increase from my previous temp and freelance lifestyle and it afforded me my first solo apartment.… Read More
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~Robert Brault
As a fairly recent grad student at the time, it was painful when I had to pay for things that were out of my control.
While in Tahoe one weekend, I found my parked car without a right side view mirror.… Read More
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu
Ten years ago I thought I was going to marry my college sweetheart and become a young bride, which made it all the more devastating when happily ever after didn’t pan out. When we broke up, I felt literally like I lost a limb, complete with phantom sensations of his hand in mine.… Read More
“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown
Like so many others living in Florida, my family was deeply affected by hurricane Charlie in August of 2004. We have completely recovered financially some years later but the gravity of the situation leaves feelings close to the surface.… Read More
“Be bold, be bold, and everywhere be bold.” ~ Herbert Spencer
I’m actually much more of a proponent of “going with the flow” then going against it. And sometimes forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do can be considered going against the flow.
But I do that for a different reason, and not everyone would agree.… Read More
“The only Zen you find on the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there.” –Robert Pirsig
The other evening I was I was laying in the bath following yet another hectic day in the office. As I sat there in the bubbles, I could feel my tension rising.… Read More
“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.” ~Unknown
The idea of “loving yourself” often seems cliché. We throw around the phrase, but do we really understand what it means? Do we actually know how to love ourselves?… Read More
“Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand – relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.” ~Osho
As I drove home today, I embarked on a familiar exercise: planning out—in ridiculous detail—the next week, month, and year of my life.… Read More
“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.” ~Lao Tzu
It’s common among overachiever types: we like to push ourselves.
Sometimes it’s to get from A to B. Sometimes it’s to create the illusion of change when in all reality you’re just spinning your wheels.… Read More
“As for the future, your task is not to foresee it but to enable it.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Have you ever heard the expression everyone loves a cheerful giver? While there’s a great deal of truth in the philosophy of offering without hopes attached, what about the flip-side?
Sometimes we become so focused on providing antidotes or anticipating what we perceive are the other person’s needs that we steamroll a conversation, taking center stage in our interactions.… Read More
“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Bernice Johnson Reagon
The last five years of my life involved a lot of self-inflicted stress and in the end, tremendous spiritual growth.
In 2003 I made a decision that would have a major impact on my life without realizing my true intentions.… Read More
“We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.” ~Anonymous
Before September 2009, I thought I wanted to run a personal development blog—a place to share the lessons I’ve learned and generally build a community around the idea of teaching people to improve their lives. Then I realized that wasn’t my vision.… Read More