“The world doesn’t happen to you, it happens from you.” –Unknown
It’s easy for me to drown in the sea of day-to-day things. How can I not when technology, social networks, phone calls, and the pressure to be successful in spite of the economic downturn constantly bombard me?
It’s almost as if catching a breath of air—and not a forced one—has become increasingly difficult.… Read More
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” ~Proverb
A friend of mine once said, “If there’s a word in the English language I detest, it’s ’should.’ What a pointless, useless, waste-of-space (euphemism for other choice adjective) word.”
I think he’s right on the money. At the risk of sounding hypocritical, you should consider the definition of should, as defined by dictionary.com:
Should: must; ought (used to indicate duty, propriety, or expediency): You should not do that.… Read More
“Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown
CNN reports that psychic businesses are thriving in this challenging economy—and the clientele has expanded to include more business professionals who are worried about their financial future. According to Columbia Business School’s Professor Gita Johar who studies consumer behavior, the greatest motivation for visiting a psychic is to feel a sense of control.… Read More
“To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.” ~Unknown
You’d like to start presenting to clients, but you’re afraid of looking like a deer in the headlights if they ask questions you can’t answer. So you keep thinking about it, waiting for a time when you feel more prepared.… Read More
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
You have a dream. Right?
Everyone does. Maybe it’s buried, but it’s there. You probably have a rainbow assortment. Your life is made up of choices. Why not choose your dreams?… Read More
“Open minds lead to open doors.” ~Unknown
We start forming opinions at an early age and continue all through life.
We decide what we think is right and wrong, what’s good and what’s bad—not just on a larger scale (religion, politics, ethics) but also in every-day interactions.
How people should act.… Read More
I write a newsletter every week and last month, a subscriber emailed me with a question I thought was worth exploring.
“… I guess what I’m getting at is if everyone had a choice, treating sewage would be the last thing one would want to do. Isn’t it? Well yes I’m making that judgment.… Read More
“Peace is not something you wish for. It’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.” ~Robert Fulghum
Recently I’ve been spending a lot of time visiting 1000 Awesome Things, a blog devoted to the many simple pleasures in life. Some of them remind me of being a kid, like this one about celebrities on Sesame Street.… Read More
“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” ~Samuel Johnson
Just after my mother’s colon cancer surgery, my father was laid off from work.
I was 16 years old and felt silently helpless and terrified. My Mom had been attending church but, on this certain day, she didn’t feel well enough to attend.… Read More
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” ~Annie Dillard
Time. It is arguably our most valuable commodity.
Unlike treasured gems, precious metals and any other prized possessions, time can’t be hoarded, collected, earned, or bought with hard work, money, dignity or our soul. It slips away whether or not we choose to pack meaning into it.… Read More
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” ~Lao Tzu
Conventional wisdom suggests if you want to be happy you shouldn’t compare yourself to other people. Conventional wisdom isn’t always realistic.
Try as you may to completely stop making comparisons, you’ll likely come back to the instinct at least on occasion.… Read More
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” -Milton Berle
The people who are the most successful in life are the ones who create their own opportunities. Since I’m a work-from-home freelance writer who prefers beadworking to networking, I have to be ultra creative.
I’ve identified 7 simple ways to find opportunities in everyday situations.… Read More
“Care and diligence bring luck.” ~Proverb
When things aren’t going well for you, it’s easy to blame it on bad luck—to assume other people who are doing better had more help and advantages.
Nothing could be less empowering. This line of thinking just confirms that the world is unfair and you have limited control.… Read More
“What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.” ~Goethe
As a cynic, I’m unsurprisingly cynical about such a statement.
I’m a serial procrastinator—avoiding things is what I do, and I’m left wondering if good old Goethe was hiding the fact that he was potentially stumped with writer’s block, immersed in a bunch of chores he didn’t want to do and occasionally depressed.… Read More
“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” ~Gandhi
Both the industrial and digital revolutions promised increased productivity, meaning people could work less and live a more balanced life. We all know that’s not how history has played out.
Even as technology advances, we work longer hours than ever—and ironically, struggle financially and accrue more debt with each passing year.… Read More
When I lived in Santa Monica a few years back, I developed a friendship with a woman I learned a lot from. She was a yogini, writer and actress.
One day she asked if I wanted to take a ride to her dentist’s office with her. She said it was 15 minutes away but would take 45 minutes to get there.… Read More
“Living with the immediacy of death helps you sort out your priorities in life. It helps you to live a less trivial life.” ~Sogyal Rinpoche
Sitting in the ICU waiting rooms during recent months waiting to visit Mama, my life slowed down more than I can remember in recent memory.… Read More
“To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is: a dissatisfaction with self.” ~Joan Didion
I like to think of myself as a realist. I realize it sounds good to recommend fighting jealousy with gratitude. As in, “Don’t dwell on what you don’t have—just count your blessings!”
I recognize that this is a wise suggestion, and that we’d all be happy if we could just focus of the abundance in front of us.… Read More
“I am not what happens to me. I choose who I become.” ~Carl Jung
Recently I experienced a big shock—the kind that most of us don’t encounter very often.
I was with a friend when I discovered evidence of a physical disaster near my home. I did not, at that time, know any of the details, nor did I know what kind of impact it might have on my own life.… Read More
“It is better to travel well than to arrive.” ~Buddha
I have this thing about road trips. I love them, can’t get enough of them. I could never step on another airplane for as long as I live and be perfectly fine with that—but I love having all the experiences that can only happen on the road.… Read More