“If we are not fully ourselves, truly in the present moment, we miss everything.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Have you ever had one of those days where you catch yourself rushing and not paying attention to the present moment?
I had one of those days a few years ago.
I had just ordered some coffee at a drive-thru and was waiting for the clerk to open the window.… Read More
“You think that the goal is to be over there, and we say the goal is the journey over there; the goal is the fun you have along the way on your way to over there.” ~Abraham
I have a clear memory of my mother looking at my bookshelves several years ago and commenting, “You’re always reading all these self-help books, and where has it gotten you?”
I responded with a quip about how I’ll always be working to align my personality with my soul, to which she scoffed and said, “When will you grow up and realize you have a great life, a great job, and great friends—and just enjoy it?!”
Of course, all I heard was “When are you going to grow up.” Her point, however, was a wise one: Just enjoy your life.… Read More
“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” ~Tom Robbins
Have you ever finally gotten something you longed for only to find that things didn’t work out as expected?
I know I have.
I firmly believed that having a dog was the answer to some of my desires, such as having more meaning in my life and receiving love on demand from another life.… Read More
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.” ~Helen Keller
It’s discouraging, isn’t it?
Walking around every day feeling as if you’re never enough?
Comparing yourself to others and continually coming up short?
You feel as if you’re not smart enough, talented enough, organized enough, or disciplined enough.… Read More
“The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar
Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you felt supported? When was the last time you felt safe, at home, encouraged, and able to be 100 percent yourself?… Read More
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
I’ve called it my “Epiphany Bubble,” and it might be hard to believe, but it’s my true experience.
I stood on the lawn of our city’s hospital.… Read More
“Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.” ~Unknown
I’ve been practicing yoga, on and off, for fifteen years.
It’s helped me through and out the other side of infertility, kept me company on the long and winding road of adoption, and helped walk me out of the shadows of depression.… Read More
“Kindness in words creates confidence.” ~Lao Tzu
Does your life feel like an endless experience of struggle and stress? That while you have moments of reprieve, they are transient and short lived?
It may be that the problem lies with your confidence—in your belief in your ability to bring about successful outcomes when you experience challenges.… Read More
“There is no need to reach high for the stars. They are already within you. Just reach deep into yourself!” ~Unknown
Bucket lists. One hundred things to do before you die. Twenty-five-before-twenty-five. Thirty-before-thirty. New Year’s Resolutions.
You name a goal-setting list, I’ve written it.
In fact, I can remember writing a list of yearly goals in my journal as young as nine years old.… Read More
“Displace the pain. Put it in a camera, in a story, in a poem, in a song, in a lover, in a canvas.” ~Unknown
As an aspiring mental health counselor, I am a huge advocate for self-care. I think it’s extremely important to educate people about the benefits of taking the time to nourish our souls and to give ourselves some TLC.… Read More
“Being who you are is another way of accepting yourself.” ~Unknown
Years ago, I struggled to be authentic. I was a consultant who worked with very senior people in big organizations. As a Black female fresh out of graduate school, I was frequently the youngest in the room, the only woman in the room, and the only minority in the room.… Read More
“Sincere apologies are for those that make them, not for those to whom they are made.” ~Greg LeMond
When I was growing up, every time I took my sister’s toy or called my brother names, my mother would grab me by the wrist and demanded that I offer an apology. What’s more, if the apology didn’t sound meaningful enough to her, I had to repeat it until my tone was genuine.… Read More
“In the end, who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely.” ~Robert Braul
I’ve been married to my wife for almost ten years, most of them involving struggle and drama.
I had two failed marriages before that.
This qualifies me to give relationship advice because, well, let’s just say I’ve made every mistake someone could possibly make while attempting to be in a relationship, so I’ve definitely figured out how not to do it.… Read More
“Joy comes not through possession or ownership but through a wise and loving heart.” ~Buddha
We all have these random little personal philosophies or rules that we live by. Oftentimes, these rules are hidden beneath the surface, not in a form that we are aware of or is easily expressible.… Read More
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
Ever felt down in the dumps, absolutely sure that you wanted to transform your life but no idea where to start?
About three years back I stood at that intersection.… Read More
“Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.” ~Unknown
It was an ordinary school morning in a busy European city. I seem to recall it was spring, as my memories store the feeling of awakening after a long winter.
I was seventeen and getting ready to go to school. Following my standard morning routine, which included eating my meticulously assembled breakfast, I walked to the tram station.… Read More
“Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos—the trees, the clouds, everything.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
It’s embarrassing, isn’t it?
You don’t want to make a fuss about tiny health annoyances.
But you feel lethargic for no apparent reason. You get constipated, especially when you travel. … Read More
“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” ~Unknown
There’s nothing like being one of the few black kids in your school to make you feel like the odd person out.
Well, that was my experience, anyway. I appreciate my parents’ desire to provide my brother and me with a safe neighborhood to live in and a good education, but growing up in a predominantly white area really affected me.… Read More
“When we are mindful, deeply in touch with the present moment, our understanding of what is going on deepens, and we begin to be filled with acceptance, joy, peace, and love.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
In January, what I desire most is to slow down.
My heart wants to use the New Year as a time to reflect on the year that has passed by—what felt right, what didn’t feel right, and areas of potential growth.… Read More
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” ~Confucius
I once worked for a big international consultancy firm (okay, it’s McKinsey, don’t tell anyone) and hated it.
Everyone told me how lucky I was to have that job. They went on and on about how prestigious it was, how I got to travel the world, work with executives on the big topics, and hang out with brilliant colleagues.… Read More