“Self love, self respect, self worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown
One day, somewhere around the age of twenty-seven, with a rich background of long-term relationships, dating, alone time, and searching for the man who would complete me, it hit me.… Read More
“It’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
Have you ever let your doubts get in the way of feeling happy?… Read More
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis
My wake-up call came at a friend’s wedding about seven years ago. Somebody asked me what I did for a living, and I answered truthfully: I’m a singer in a rock band. She thought it was cool, but I went into a rant about why it wasn’t.… Read More
“Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
There was a time when I lived almost completely inside myself. I couldn’t handle much of the outside world.
Yes, I am an introvert, but back then, I had such low self-esteem that the only place I felt safe was inside my own head.… Read More
“Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment.” ~Unknown
My biggest relationship fear used to be getting dumped for another woman.
If it actually happened, it was going to be the ultimate proof of my worthlessness.
It wasn’t easy to live with that fear. When it came to conjuring up scenarios of loss and pain, I was like a rag doll in the hands of my imagination.… Read More
“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” ~ Stephen Covey
I used to be a zombie.
I don’t mean that I died and was brought back to life; I mean I used to live on autopilot. Diligently doing the right thing.
Following one opportunity to the next, onward and upward.… Read More
When your mind is scattered, your head full of worries, and your heart full of fears and doubts, the world is a stressful, sometimes terrifying place.
When you take time to clear your mental space, suddenly everything feels easier. Without the heavy burden of anxiety and rumination, you’re free to simply be—and to see.… Read More
“Whatever the present moment contains, embrace it as if you had chosen it yourself.” ~Eckhart Tolle
The second hand on the clock ticked to 12 like a base runner returning home. It was 9:00AM on Monday morning.
Anxiety set in as I stared at the stack of papers on my desk.… Read More
“How pointless life could be, what a foolish business of inventing things to love, just so you could dread losing them.” ~Barbara Kingsolver
Approximately one month after graduating from a privileged institution on the East Coast, I was standing knee deep in rainforest on the Big Island of Hawaii cutting weeds with a small kama.… Read More
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” ~Josh Billings
Have you ever encountered a situation where you found yourself agreeing to do something that you had no interest in actually doing?
When we find ourselves saying yes when we mean no, we are essentially saying no to ourselves and giving our personal power away.… Read More
“Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever.” ~Nancy Lopez
You and I, we judge others. And they judge us. We all do it.… Read More
“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Years ago I found my self at a low point. It wasn’t a big, life-changing event that got me there; just a sudden realization that life sucked.… Read More
“Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.” ~Bernie S. Siegel
I’d been having mild pain for about a week—a consistent, dull ache in the center of my chest.
I’m thirty-nine years old with no personal history of heart disease, or of anything else for that matter. Worry hadn’t yet consumed me, but I was keeping an eye on the pain to see if it got better or worse.… Read More
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ~Buddha
Have you ever heard the phrase “your thoughts create your reality”? Have you ever wondered what this means?
Go back to your childhood and recall a time when you got into trouble.… Read More
“The danger is not that the soul should doubt whether there is any bread, but that, by a lie, it should persuade itself that it is not hungry.” ~Simone Weil
For most of my life, I was hungry all the time. My belly only ever felt full for a few precious seconds while eating the last few bites on my plate.… Read More
“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” ~Unknown
Heartbreak. I have never felt anything as torturous.
It’s been just over a year since my first real heartbreak, and finally, after more pain and tears than I can describe, I have started to move on.… Read More
“Tart words make no friends; a spoonful of honey will catch more flies than a gallon of vinegar.” ~Ben Franklin
While I was pregnant, a friend told me to prioritize, in this order: self, marriage, kids.
My priorities tend to be backward: kids above all else, maybe a date night once in a while, and self-care only when there’s an important meeting at work, so momma finally makes a point of grooming her eyebrows.… Read More
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” ~Brené Brown
Now that the fog of what everyone else wanted for me has lifted, it seems so clear to me that we need to be who we truly are—not what society expects us to be.… Read More
“When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor Frankl
Over the last two and a half years I have made some big changes in my life. And by big, I mean enormous.
First, I moved with my husband and our children from a home I loved for ten years.… Read More
“Calmness is the cradle of power.” ~Josiah Gilbert Holland
I was interested, recently, to find that our local supermarket had set up an area with ten self-service checkouts. For years I‘d accepted the normal method of bagging and paying for my stuff. No stress there. But they’d installed some new technology and I was keen to give it a try.… Read More