I understand the pressure to create an ideal physical appearance. But I’m curious: What makes you think people don’t concern themselves with how you treat them?

I think we feel a lot better about ourselves if we take of ourselves, both physically and mentally. So my advice to you is to focus less on being an ideal girl, and focus on doing what you can to feel good about yourself, whether that means exercising, expressing yourself through your clothes, or generally being kind to yourself. If *you* feel good about you, that will naturally show to other people.

I hope this helps!

Lori

I think ultimately we need to use our own good judgment. So if someone is treating you harshly or disrespectfully–and you recognize they do not feel any remorse or want to change that–then it might not be wise to simply forgive them and focus on their good qualities. In that case, it’s probably a good idea to reconsider the relationship.

As for the last one, I wasn’t referring to physical violence or anything that would require a police report. If someone is violated or victimized in that way, I would agree with your assessment about pursuing legal action!