Comments on: 40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/ simple wisdom for complex lives Mon, 21 May 2012 14:01:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Iknowwhy07 http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-43117 Iknowwhy07 Sat, 19 May 2012 14:01:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-43117 Beautiful way of expressing how to take a good direction in your life. Beautiful way of expressing how to take a good direction in your life.

]]> By: Lori Deschene http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-42942 Lori Deschene Thu, 17 May 2012 15:44:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-42942 Hi Donya, Has he told you that he can't accept your love, or is this your conclusion? Does he recognize he needs to work on forgiving himself? Does it seem he's willing to do that work? (You don't need to answer these questions for me; they're just for you to consider). If he is willing to help himself, perhaps you could suggest he speak with a therapist to work through his guilt.Ultimately, he needs to want to let go and forgive himself. No one else can do that for him. I know it can be frustrating when it seems like there's nothing you can do, but you can do something: Support him. Be a friend to him. This might help him be kinder to himself. I hope this helps! Lori Hi Donya,

Has he told you that he can’t accept your love, or is this your conclusion? Does he recognize he needs to work on forgiving himself? Does it seem he’s willing to do that work? (You don’t need to answer these questions for me; they’re just for you to consider).

If he is willing to help himself, perhaps you could suggest he speak with a therapist to work through his guilt.Ultimately, he needs to want to let go and forgive himself. No one else can do that for him. I know it can be frustrating when it seems like there’s nothing you can do, but you can do something: Support him. Be a friend to him. This might help him be kinder to himself.

I hope this helps!
Lori

]]> By: donya http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-42935 donya Thu, 17 May 2012 10:20:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-42935 Actually  I have a different angel of the story . 6 months ago I met someone who has anger issues against himself  and a huge regret   for what he did to his wife, He cheated on her and fell in love with another woman. he is divorced now. I feel sorry for him cause he lives in circles and dark thoughts.  He lives in pain since 2 years. He can’t let it go. My problem  that am  in love with him now . I tried my best to take him out of it. He made huge mistake those shaped him to be a much  better guy now . He deserve to forgive himself. Am  afraid my relation with him will complicate his life more.  He likes me but he can’t accept my love unless he forgive himself. I can see what type of person he is now. I feel like I know him very well, sometimes better than he does .  I want  your advice . do you think I should run away and leave him  or shall I keep supporting him and expect him to release his anger  and be mine. I love him so much.    Thanks Actually  I have a different angel of the story . 6 months ago I met someone who has anger issues against himself  and a huge regret   for what he did to his wife, He cheated on her and fell in love with another woman. he is divorced now. I feel sorry for him cause he lives in circles and dark thoughts.  He lives in pain since 2 years. He can’t let it go. My problem  that am  in love with him now . I tried my best to take him out of it. He made huge mistake those shaped him to be a much  better guy now . He deserve to forgive himself. Am  afraid my relation with him will complicate his life more.  He likes me but he can’t accept my love unless he forgive himself. I can see what type of person he is now. I feel like I know him very well, sometimes better than he does .
 I want  your advice . do you think I should run away and leave him  or shall I keep supporting him and expect him to release his anger  and be mine. I love him so much. 
 
Thanks

]]> By: have to let it go http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-42502 have to let it go Fri, 11 May 2012 20:30:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-42502 if something keeps other people arnd u happy u have to let it go, u r nt weak n u cn lket it go may be u find smthin gud fr urself. bcoz ppl who keep othr happy nvr evr god ll do injustice fr dm if something keeps other people arnd u happy u have to let it go, u r nt weak n u cn lket it go may be u find smthin gud fr urself. bcoz ppl who keep othr happy nvr evr god ll do injustice fr dm

]]> By: Lv2terp http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-42496 Lv2terp Fri, 11 May 2012 19:48:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-42496 FANTASTIC!!!!!!!!!!!! FANTASTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: laszrot http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-42260 laszrot Wed, 09 May 2012 06:41:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-42260 The Messiah is really good with cases involving romance of making your lovely partner love you in your relationships. I should know. I went through two boyfriends with his help! The first time he told me to check under the bed and I found another girl's bra! So I knew he was cheating on me and I dumped him quick. After that I was single and alone so I bought a spell to bring someone into my life. I believed in psychics and Tarot cards before, but I had never tried a spell. I met my current boyfriend shortly after i finished the spell casting as he instruct me. We've been together a year now the messiah contact  freemercytemple@yahoo.com  is really,really great! The Messiah is really good with cases involving romance of making your lovely partner love you in your relationships. I should know. I went through two boyfriends with his help! The first time he told me to check under the bed and I found another girl’s bra! So I knew he was cheating on me and I dumped him quick. After that I was single and alone so I bought a spell to bring someone into my life. I believed in psychics and Tarot cards before, but I had never tried a spell. I met my current boyfriend shortly after i finished the spell casting as he instruct me. We’ve been together a year now the messiah contact  freemercytemple@yahoo.com  is really,really great!

]]> By: Lori Deschene http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-41089 Lori Deschene Thu, 26 Apr 2012 22:52:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-41089 Is there any way to have your mother in your life with stronger boundaries, so that she is not able to hurt you? I think that's the biggest challenge when it comes to forgiveness and relationships: It's much harder to do either if the relationship doesn't change. I actually wrote another post that may be helpful to you: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-maintain-a-relationship-with-a-loved-one-who-has-hurt-you/ I hope this helps! Lori Is there any way to have your mother in your life with stronger boundaries, so that she is not able to hurt you? I think that’s the biggest challenge when it comes to forgiveness and relationships: It’s much harder to do either if the relationship doesn’t change.

I actually wrote another post that may be helpful to you:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-maintain-a-relationship-with-a-loved-one-who-has-hurt-you/

I hope this helps!

Lori

]]> By: TomL http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-41071 TomL Thu, 26 Apr 2012 19:15:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-41071 I've had a lot of anger and resentment towards my family.  They've treated me with such disrespect over the years and then they want to get together for holidays and pretend like nothing has happened.  A couple of years ago, for my own salvation, I had to cut them out of my life as it was too painful to keep incurring their thoughtless acts and painful words.  Here's the thing, my mother is in her mid 80's and I know she doesn't have many years left.  I want to let go of all this hurt and anger, but it seems so hard to do.  I've tried some of the techniques listed above, but I find myself still thinking about the past.  I feel like if I just forgive them, it's another invite to them to walk all over me again. I’ve had a lot of anger and resentment towards my family.  They’ve treated me with such disrespect over the years and then they want to get together for holidays and pretend like nothing has happened.  A couple of years ago, for my own salvation, I had to cut them out of my life as it was too painful to keep incurring their thoughtless acts and painful words.  Here’s the thing, my mother is in her mid 80′s and I know she doesn’t have many years left.  I want to let go of all this hurt and anger, but it seems so hard to do.  I’ve tried some of the techniques listed above, but I find myself still thinking about the past.  I feel like if I just forgive them, it’s another invite to them to walk all over me again.

]]> By: Lori Deschene http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-40956 Lori Deschene Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:49:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-40956 I'm so glad you enjoyed it! I don't mind at all if you publish some of this list. I'd appreciate it if you'd mention this post is from Tiny Buddha, include my byline, and also include a link that reads "Read the rest of this post" so readers can find the whole post here. Thank you so much for asking! I’m so glad you enjoyed it! I don’t mind at all if you publish some of this list. I’d appreciate it if you’d mention this post is from Tiny Buddha, include my byline, and also include a link that reads “Read the rest of this post” so readers can find the whole post here. Thank you so much for asking!

]]> By: Devin http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/comment-page-6/#comment-40952 Devin Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:24:00 +0000 http://tinybuddha.com/?p=1485#comment-40952 Great list. Do you mind if I republish some/all of this post? If it's okay, let me know how to credit/linkback to you :) Great list. Do you mind if I republish some/all of this post? If it’s okay, let me know how to credit/linkback to you :)

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