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Choose Love Now

“Eventually you will come to realize that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” ~Gary Zukav

Growing up, I was lucky that my parents surrounded me with a strong and steady current of love, despite our family’s own little dysfunctions and a knowingness that I wasn’t like other kids.

In truth, once I got past my shyness, I was a pretty confident young girl who actually enjoyed being the “different” one, immersing myself in the creative outlet of dance and soothing my soul with frequent trips into nature.

Broken Bits

It wasn’t until I fell in love with the world of acting that my bubble of confidence burst and I started to question who I really was.

I was suddenly thrust into a world where image, judgment, and ego ruled, and my new identify as defined by others came through loud and clear:

My stomach and thighs could use some work, the gapped teeth I used to cherish no longer fit the bill, and my take on pretty was labeled “small-town,” falling short of Hollywood’s standards.

I began to believe the lies and little pieces broke inside of me.

Powerful Words

Of course it wasn’t all misery, and there were many moments of sheer joy where I seized opportunities to tell great stories and work on projects that fed me creatively.

I kept at it for several years, riding these highs and lows, until I awoke to the fact that life is not just a ride I’m strapped into, destined to be flung about wherever it takes me.

Indeed, I had a bigger choice when it came to how I handled the highs and lows and that, even though it would seem I was choosing the life I wanted by pursuing a career as an actress, I wasn’t choosing my most joyful life within the circumstances I had manifested.

Tuning in, my new mantra flowed through me:

Choose Love Now.

I was blown away by the power in these words.

Choose: Every moment is a choice…

Love: …to choose either love or fear 

Now: …and that choice is made in the only real time there is…the present moment

The broken bits became whole when I embraced each new moment as another opportunity to return to the most loving choice, over and over again. My mantra flowed through my career and into all areas of my life, lighting me up as it went.

Love absolutely healed me.

The Message Spreads

The truth also changed me, and I saw the need to share this message with the world more directly than I felt I could through my acting career. So I lovingly closed that chapter in my life, opening myself to my new path as a life coach, guiding my clients to choose love now in all that they do through the mind, body, and soul.

I’d love to leave you with this message that came to me during a free-write exercise I was guiding one of my coaching clients through recently.

The message felt like it came from the depths of the universe reminding us that we can heal, wherever we may be on the journey, if we only choose love now:

I know you.
You’re that person.
The one who seems so put together—but I see your pain.
I know that you are more than what is on the outside.
You are deep, full, complex.
Your pain comes from not knowing.
It’s not your fault. No one has told you. Or maybe they did but the noise was so loud in your head that you tuned it out.
You try to break free, but it always feels like a struggle.
You don’t have to struggle.
You have the freedom to choose love now.
In this moment, not a moment later.
“But,” you say, “I’m scared.”
I know, and that’s okay.
You’re okay.
You must start from there, that place of fear, and choose something now, something different.
Choose. Love. Now.
You are not alone now and you will never be alone.
I see you.
I know you.
I love you.
You are supported by so much more than you can see right now.
But you will. You will begin to see the support and love all around you—as soon as you choose.

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About Sabrina Bolin

Sabrina Bolin is a compassionate guide whose mission in life is to be a vessel for love. She currently manifests that mission through MyMiBoSo, her coaching practice focused on bringing intuitive awareness to the mind and body in order to create joy in the soul.

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  • http://awarewoolf.tumblr.com/ Awarewolf

    Thank you for that powerful last message. I think I’ll have it framed in my bedroom so I can remember it and like you say, choose love every day (or try at least)!

  • NKB

    you article was a good read especially the last part, but how do we ‘chose love now’?
    what do I need to do?

  • Kat of LA

    Love is everything and everywhere….when you are in love with life and yourself everything is possible….it’s a journey everyday…..we must be still and in silence to heard and follow our inner voice….Love&Peace Kat of LA

  • Tra

    Lovely – thank you.

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    Tra, thank you so much for reading my post today and for your kind, kind words.

    Sending you a warm virtual hug,

    Sabrina

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    NKB, thank you so much for reading the article and your feedback!

    Choose Love Now is a way of life that becomes easier with practice.

    So to begin you simply start in THIS moment by bringing conscious awareness to the choices you have in front of you because we always have choices (whether it’s in our actions, our words, or simply in our thoughts and feelings).

    For example, as I’m reading this and replying to your comment, a dog started barking outside, distracting me from what I’m doing. I have the choice to allow that to be a distraction that bothers me or choose a more loving thought or action. Perhaps it means getting curious about why that dog is barking or even sending loving energy to the poor creature who might be alarmed by something.

    I make the choice and then bring myself to the NEW moment…right back here with you :). And then I encounter a new choice…and another…and another. I keep practicing this, allowing my intuition to guide me on the most loving choice in that moment, learn from the moments when I didn’t choose love, and then simply do it again and again and again.

    Does that make sense? I would love to help clarify it more if not, as it truly is one of the messages of my life’s work!

    So much love,

    Sabrina

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    Kat, your words hold such truth and I can sense that this knowing runs deeper for you than just a “head knowing” but is truly part of your “heart’s wisdom” – thank you for sharing your beautiful reflection and being such an affirmation of my message of love!

    So much love,

    Sabrina

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    You are absolutely welcome, and it warms my heart to know that I was able to vessel love in such a way that would move you to keep it with you!

    Remember that YOU ARE LOVE, so in choosing love, you’re also choosing you, each and every day.

    Much love to you,

    Sabrina

  • Angela

    I love Buddhas and your site is so peaceful and radiates peace and love. Great blog post, I LOVE it! What’s not to love about love. Thanks for spreading more love into the world.

  • Patrick

    I like your article, but how can I for example choose to love someone, who has killed someone? Do I have to love every moment, even if somebody is threatening me?

    Cheers,
    Patrick

  • GBL

    Thanks so much for this post. I am currently trying to come to terms with my feelings for someone who has been very important in my life, but who right now doesn’t want to know anything about me. When I read this, I got to the conclusion that of all the feelings I can choose, I should choose love. Love to respect the other, to understand even when you don’t agree, and to let the other be free to choose his own feelings. In this way, I also choose to love myself, so that I don’t have to be waiting for anybody’s love to feel better today. I definitely choose love now. Thank you!

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    I am so happy that my words have brought you such an amazing insight! You’re so welcome, and thank you truly for sharing your experience with me and the readers here at Tiny Buddha!

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    You bring up an excellent point Patrick, and so I invite you to ask your OWN intuition as well. If you have a meditation or prayer practice, tap into that, but if not, simply quieting your mind and asking “what feels better – to forgive (a shade of love) or resent (a shade of fear)?”

    Another thing to keep in mind is that choosing love doesn’t mean you have to agree with someone’s actions. Also, choosing love is not always the easy path. However, it ultimately brings the most freedom – that could even be freedom from the pain you inflict on yourself by carrying hate in your heart toward someone else because of actions you don’t agree with.

    When it comes to when someone is threatening your safety, choosing love is also a challenge, but I believe that you can still choose love by protecting your own life and defending yourself or even running from that which harms you. Stopping harm is not an unloving act in and of itself – it’s when that feeling goes from “protection” to revenge, malice, or hate that you’ve begun to choose the fear.

    Let me know if that makes sense, and I would love to hear what your own intuition leads you to as well!

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    So happy you’ve stumbled upon TinyBuddha and this post today Angela! So much LOVE right back to you!

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    Thank you again to all of the beautiful readers here and to Lori for allowing me to share these words with you!

    I think the link might be broken in my bio above so if you would like to know more about the work I do, please feel free to check out my website at http://www.MyMiBoSo.com :)

  • http://twitter.com/OrganicForLife Genevieve

    A beautiful article Sabrina. It really captures what you have taught me during our sessions together and what I now feel flowing throughout my life. At times where perhaps I would have felt resentment or anger, I feel forgiveness, empathy and absolute love. Thank you for this profound gift :)

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    Genevieve, you came to me with such an open loving heart to begin with, and it was my absolute honor to share those simple tools with you to let that heart shine through! Thank YOU for your kind words and for checking out this post!

  • Ellen

    Choosing to send YOU love mz sabrina!

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    Thank you Ellen! Reflected right back atcha! Don’t you love how love works like that?

  • DNS..

    Your articles are awespme.. I like it very much…. It gives me a new hope everyday…

    Thanxx Sabrina…

  • http://www.MyMiBoSo.com/ Sabrina

    I’m so happy to hear that you are creating the space to attract inspiration into your life! I’m honored to be a small part of that process for you :)