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Giveaway and Interview: Turning Dead Ends into Doorways by Staci Boden

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Especially when we’re going through challenging times, it can feel tempting to try to control the future—but this doesn’t change that much lies beyond our control. Try as we may to avoid the unknown, the future remains uncertain.

How do we navigate change knowing that nothing is guaranteed? How can we develop inner strength to grow, heal, and evolve?

Healer practitioner Staci Boden answers these questions in her new book, Turning Dead Ends into Doorways: How to Grow Through Whatever Life Throws Your Way.

From the book flap:

“With compassionate honesty and a practical sense of humor, healing practitioner Staci Boden shows her readers how to navigate change without clinging to false notions that if they just do this or think that they can determine what happens next. How to let go of false expectations and still make excellent choices. How to grow and heal no matter what life throws their way.”

I’m grateful that Staci has offered two free copies of Turning Dead Ends into Doorways for Tiny Buddha readers!

The Giveaway

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The Interview

1. What inspired you to write Turning Dead Ends into Doorways?

Someone once told me that writing a book is an opportunity to participate in a larger conversation about something that matters to you.

For a while, I’ve noticed how some spiritual beliefs equate healing with achieving a positive outcome. I’m all for positive outcomes. At the same time, I’ve seen people hurt by the message that learning a lesson or thinking a positive thought can create a specific reality.

I grew up with a legally blind mom, family living with chronic illness, and friends who survived sexual abuse. As a healing practitioner, many clients have arrived feeling stuck or overwhelmed regarding health, work, and relationships.

When we’re doing everything we can to heal and we don’t achieve a certain outcome, we feel like we’re doing something wrong. We feel like we’re wrong.

I wrote this book because the blame and shame and exhaustion that comes from trying to make life look a certain way only further cements pain. I wrote this book because even though we don’t always get what we want, healing belongs to everyone.

Healing can be a positive outcome and an inner quality we cultivate along the way, like strength or patience. My book explores how we might all grow through life so we feel more whole and capable inside, no matter what reality appears on our doorstep.

2. You refer to your healing work as Practical Spirituality. What does Practical Spirituality mean to you?

My training is in earth-based and women’s spirituality ways. I’m an energy worker. Practical Spirituality grew as a bridge for learning how to navigate the unknown in daily life for people unfamiliar with that world.

Practical Spirituality embraces the mystical with pragmatic arms. If we can’t embody peace while negotiating traffic, then we’re truly stuck. Through connecting with eight inner teachers and synchronicity, Practical Spirituality helps us develop our own unique healing ways.

3. What does it mean to grow a conscious relationship with the unknown in daily life?

The reality is, we can never predict what’s around the next corner. We may not know small things, like what’s for dinner, or big things, like if we will meet a soul mate or remain healthy. The unknown is a tangible yet mysterious force that permeates daily life.

Yet relying on control to deal with the unknown doesn’t always work, and often, control ends up controlling us.

If instead, we start developing a more conscious relationship within ourselves and with whatever part of everyday living is calling for our attention—health, finances, trust, relationships, strength, fertility—we can learn how to navigate the unknown of daily life in a more empowered way. 

4. Your book introduces eight teachers for navigating the unknown in daily life—fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, energy, intention, and surrender. Why eight, and how are these teachers?

Over the years, I noticed individuals and groups grappling with core issues around fear, awareness, body, intuition etc. As I sat with how a reader might learn to navigate the unknown in a book, core issues coalesced into eight areas of focus.

Each of these eight areas is a realm of wisdom. After awhile, I realized these eight areas are universal relationships we can connect with constantly. They teach us. Anything can be a teacher in our lives, and certainly, these eight aren’t meant to be definitive. They are relationships that I felt called to write about first.

5. You talk about the idea of “co-commitment” as a way to relate to people without competing for power in Chapter 5 about choice. Can you tell us a little about this?

Sure. We’ve been raised in an either/or view of the world where winner takes all. This forces us into prescribed roles of victim, persecutor, and rescuer. Check out a reality show, and you’ll see victims and persecutors everywhere!

If we can resist the temptation to make each other wrong and recognize that many realities exist at once, we create room for more authenticity. We can speak up and get creative about meeting needs. We shift out of victimhood and into empowerment.

For example, as a mother of two teenagers, I wash a lot of dishes. I can get resentful thinking I’m the only one doing dishes, my kids don’t appreciate me, and really, I do everything (hello, victim)!

Alternatively, I can tell my family that I’m feeling tired and I need some help with dishes. As we discuss options, I might even realize the kids have been contributing in other ways, like by taking out the trash and walking the dog. Recognizing multiple realities facilitates win-win resolution in relationships. 

6. In Chapter 7, you explore intuition and offers suggestions to help us access it. Why do you think this is such a struggle, and what’s one thing we can do to overcome it?

We live in a fear-based culture where we’ve been taught to overdevelop our minds. Fear and mental chatter create static that interferes with accessing intuition.

One approach to accessing intuition would be to explore fear. As you start to identify different kinds of fear, you can sort through them. This will help relax mental chatter for intuition to emerge.

Another way to access intuition is to identify one strong sense (hear, see, smell, taste) and start noticing what it may be communicating throughout your day.

7. What does it mean to navigate and follow energy?

Learning how to consciously hold, follow, and navigate energy is a way of life. For me, it’s a wild, faith-restoring ride where I get to partner with the mystery and explore meaning every day.

By definition, following energy means staying behind it. This is easier said than done because being in control by getting ahead is our cultural ideal.

Learning to pull your attention back in order to follow something—a relationship, a project or even a wish—cannot be done through the mind alone. You learn to navigate energy by practicing navigating energy. That’s why I ask readers to focus on an intention throughout the book, as a beginning place. 

8. You’ve written that intention is the “root and the tip of a choice to love fiercely.” What do you mean by this?

An intention is a word or sentence that represents a heartfelt wish or meaningful inner quality. Contemplating an intention includes recognizing the root of something important in our lives. As if we’re having a conversation with our soul. An example might be “world peace” or “thrive.”

It’s not enough to just think about an intention. Fueling an intention with action is what awakens it as a guiding force in our lives. How will you support world peace or learn to thrive?

And so committing to an intention by relating with something deep inside that also feels bigger than yourself becomes a way to grow self-worth. Embodying the root and tip of an intention represents a choice, and an opportunity, to practice fierce love.

9. You wrote Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways in real time, sharing how the eight teachers informed the book through daily life happenings. Why? How was that? 

Synchronicity helps me navigate life, and since I ask readers to let go and engage the unknown, it also seemed only fair to join them there through book writing.

Within that, I was unprepared for what arrived with each chapter teacher in beautiful and shattering ways. An earthquake punctuated a point, birth made a surprise re-entrance into my life and in the last month of writing, my teenage daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of adolescent cancer.

I don’t know if noticing synchronicity while writing the book helped my daughter’s cancer come to light, but if so, I’m very grateful. Thankfully, my daughter has been in remission for over a year and a half now.

10. What’s the main message you hope readers take away from this book?

Personally, I’m ready for a (r)evolution where we take the blame and shame out of healing so we can all access it more freely. I hope people find the book to be a strong and loving guide for consciously navigating life.

But ultimately, it’s not about me. My intention is to get behind each reader’s intention. And so I’m really enjoying hearing from readers directly about what the book means to them.

Thank you, Tiny Buddha and Lori Deschene, for how you foster community and inspire us to grow in so many ways!

Learn more about Turning Dead Ends into Doorways on Amazon.


FTC Disclosure: I receive complimentary books for reviews and interviews on tinybuddha.com, but I am not compensated for writing or obligated to write anything specific. I am an Amazon affiliate, meaning I earn a percentage of all books purchased through the links I provide on this site. 

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About Lori Deschene

Tiny Buddha Founder Lori Deschene is the author of the Tiny Wisdom eBook series (which includes one free eBook) & co-founder of Recreate Your Life Story, an eCourse that helps you get unstuck & change your life. She's now seeking stories to include in her next book, 365 Tiny Love Challenges by Tiny Buddha. Click here to share your story! For inspiring posts and wisdom quotes, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter & Facebook.

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  • Suzanne

    Thank you for the chance to win what looks like a fantastic book!

  • Jenny L.

    Looks like an interesting book and a great read! Thanks for the drawing.

  • Hope

    Thanks for sharing.

  • Jeanne

    Hope is what we need to navigate negativity and loss in a world where happiness is celebrated as a commodity. Thank you for your book, I’m sure it will assist many on their life journey, including me.

  • Ro

    Looks like a book that would help a lot at this point in my life.

  • http://twitter.com/JoCaseyB JoCaseyB

    What a lovely interview -I’m definitely going to be checking out the book. Thanks for sharing such great stuff -just discovered your site & so glad I did!

  • friend forever

    Just loved the cover and the the interview! And also the 8 areas. I’d love to develop my intuition and access it. Guaranteed to be a great read. Thanks for informing us about it :)

  • finding inner peace

    This book looks so good! Can’t wait to read it!

  • http://profiles.google.com/semayawi.toadcottage Beth Gallagher

    This book sounds great! The last couple of years has brought me hitherto unknown stress and grief. What I thought was my lifeline – control – exploded in my hands. I’m looking forward to using this book to help me reevaluate and renovate my “new” life – enjoying every next step of the way. Thanks for the chance to win a copy!

  • Lauren F.

    This book sounds like it would be helpful for me now as I navigate some life transitions!

  • http://www.facebook.com/dee.saldana.7 Dee Saldana

    Great interview! The book looks like a perfect read for someone like me or others who feel stuck in their lives. I’m 34, college educated but stuck in current circumstances due to temporary health issues. I feel like my life is literally upside down but I know there’s a good reason for this.It takes a lot of work to stay positive and being patient esp. when you’re in undesirable circumstances; and seek answers to the many questions of why?

  • Joy

    Life is filled with constant road blocks, doors and windows closing that make us feel trapped in and feel we have nowhere to go but down or in. This sounds like quite the inspiration to learn to navigate the rough waters we call life in a positive productive way. We all need that guidance. I would love this book for the many members of my family that are looking for a new way to do life when faced with the inevitable obstacles it constantly seems to present. Thanks for writing it!

  • http://twitter.com/MrShawnCruz Shawn Cruz

    I love this post. It couldn’t have came at a better time for me in my life. From this post alone, and the post from Tiny Buddha help me everyday. I really appreciate anyone that takes time to share wisdom with the masses. Hopefully I’ll be able to win one of the two books. Regardless I’ll support and buy a copy.

    Peace and Love
    Shawn Cruz

  • iky S

    I would love to read Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways.

  • tina

    Love to read everything on this blog.

  • Kathryn A

    I would love to win a copy of this book. Thanks!

  • Beth Mukai

    Another wonderful post, and what a very interesting and thought provoking book this appears to be. Would love to win a copy – either in hard copy or e-book to read and learn from. Life provides us many lessons, it is our opportunity to recognize these and grow. Many thanks!

  • Shami

    Seems like an amazing book; would love to have a copy of this book to refer to as i go through challenges and turning points in my life. thank you,

  • http://twitter.com/JenniferKalawur Jennifer Kalawur

    Looking forward to knowing more about this book and its messages!

  • stickwoman15

    This looks like a very interesting and amazing book. I don’t think many people realize the effects of the energy around us and within us. If we are able to channel our energy towards goodness then that influences others to channel their own inner happy energy. I would love to read this book, even if I do not winner a copy, I am planning on purchasing it! Thank you Tiny Buddha and Staci Boden for opening my eyes to another way of looking at life:)

  • Kristina

    It seems like a very inspiring book, would love to read it.

  • Michele

    I’m looking forward to absorbing and learning from Staci through her book…it would be great to win ….regardless I am going to read it.

  • swalia

    Seems interesting…looking forward to some new insights…thanks for the introduction to the book

  • Robb

    I could sure use this book. These last 3 years have been very tough for me and I’m trying to get out of this tunnel my life has gone into. I’m learning with other books and Tiny Buddha to keep going going toward the light. I have lost the job I cared about, my wife left me and I’m taking care of our three kids. We then divorced with me having to give everything up to keep the kids out of her bad choices. Shortly after that my parents died in a car wreck. I’m still looking to get back into a job I like and life. I have gotten off the antidepressants and I am eating natural foods to clean my system out, but I’m still depressed. Man I know it sounds like this is made up, but the Universe has poured some bad darkness on me. I keep going, but I’m getting tired and have no idea which way to go now. My life is really not the way I had hoped for. Maybe this book could help, don’t know. Thanks.

  • Strelka

    Dear Lori,
    thank you this post and the opportunity to win. It’ s always great to get inspired!

  • April S.

    Thank you, Staci, for sharing your expertise through this book. I, too, am in the middle of a series of major life transitions. I am slowly learning how to loosen my grip and approach things more positively. Reading the interview, I’m very interested in reading this book and think it will push me farther in understanding how. I appreciate the opportunity to win it!

  • Nathalie

    2012 has been a big turning point for me, on a personal level (divorce) and professional level… Even when I think I am fine, I still cannot shake old memories and feelings. thank you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001125468517 Vilma Vega

    I enjoy your articles daily. I love to read this. Looks inspiring!

  • Jeet

    The book looks fabulous from what I read on Amazon, and the interview here. I would LOVE to win a copy. :-)

  • Dianne

    Great interview. Staci’s book sounds like a “must read” for me. Thnaks for the post Lori.

  • Beth Beal

    This looks like a good read! Thanks for the opportunity to get a copy!

  • Nancy

    Looks like a book I could use right now. Thanks for the opportunity, and thanks for your site. I just found it the other day, and already it’s been a huge help. : )

  • http://twitter.com/KristaFarrell12 Krista Farrell

    Thanks for this chance to win a copy! This would be a great read for me as I transition from college to the “real world” and try to figure out where my life will take me.

  • Steph

    Definitely a book I could use. Thanks!

  • Courtney

    I would love to read-thank you for sharing :)

  • Ali

    Definitely in need a a doorway right now.

  • Amber K

    wow, this really spoke to me!”It’s not enough to just think about an intention. Fueling an intention with action is what awakens it as a guiding force in our lives. How will you support world peace or learn to thrive?” would love the chance to own a copy of your book, Staci!

  • Andy

    Beautiful book! Thank you so much!

  • Caren

    Amen to this! “When we’re doing everything we can to heal and we don’t achieve a certain outcome, we feel like we’re doing something wrong. We feel like we’re wrong.” Looking forward to reading this book.

  • http://www.facebook.com/LMISele Laurilie Plato

    A book perfect for my life right now. I will read it no matter how it comes into my life.

  • maggie

    Perfect fit for me! Wish this had been available years ago. I will have to get this book.

  • Faith Harper

    I would love to introduce this at my clinic!

  • Lisa

    I have been going through major life transitions over the past 2+ years – separation, moving (twice), leaving my job and only source of income… all the while I’ve also been learning about healing for myself and to help others. This book sounds like just what I need to read.

  • Erin

    Staci, I find that letting go of the need to control can be so freeing. I recently became very ill, and it let me become so present and aware of what my body needed in each moment. I carry this awareness with me now, in my healing stages, and it has helped me carry on. I’d love to learn more about your thoughts too and I am thankful for the chance to win your book!

  • http://twitter.com/dmfrabutt Danielle Frabutt

    Life is so beautiful in all stages. Thank you for sharing this, I look forward to reading it!

  • http://www.facebook.com/AngiesInspirations Angie Inspires

    The title and beautiful cover of this book caught my eye right away. How generous of you to offer this giveaway. I hope I am one of your lucky winners! Namaste my beautiful and inspiring friend! {{hugs}} ღ

  • Elena

    So many times I told myself “It’s a dead end!No way, I won’t be able to find any solution.” But there is always a way out. And here I am – still alive and kicking . What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!! All situations are our teachers and it’s up to us which approach to take – a positive or a negative , and result will be exactly according to our choice. Would love to have such book as an every-day-guide to my higher self to help me to feel more “whole and capable inside ,no matter what reality appears on our doorstep” like you said Staci. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us!! Your book is a real life savior!!!

  • will

    Looks interesting. Would love to read.

  • Zan

    This sounds like a wonderful book but you had me at the first sentence about writing a book to participate in a larger conversation bout something that is meaningful to you.♦ I had never thought of it in just that way. If the first sentence of the interview is that menaingful to me I can’t wait to see what the whole book has to say.

    Thank you for the opportunity to win a copy of this book!

  • Collin

    Looks great, i’m sick of dead ends!

  • tiff

    I am ready for the same (r)evolution! I can’t wait to read your book! I could really use this type of guidance right now as can someone very close to me. This sounds like just what I need to get me thinking straight again.

  • Elisa B

    Thank you for this generous giveaway! I read the interview and am very intrigued by your book– it speaks to many of the issues in my life that I am struggling with and feeling very stuck with. Your ideas on Practical Spirituality and eight teachers for daily living sound like they could surely help me open up some of my “dead ends.”

  • Rob

    Thanks Staci and Lori for the reminders! I’d love to read the book.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sally-Scott/1124907299 Sally Scott

    I love Staci’s message! Thank you for giving me an opprotunity to win her book.

  • Rosie P

    Sounds really interesting and very helpful in learning how better to approach the future in times of hardship.

  • Mimi R.

    The book sounds very interesting and just what I need right now. My coworkers and I are being displaced within a month. Management isn’t telling us anything about what will happen, if they even know. Every day is walking on eggshells waiting for the bomb to drop. The emotional chaos in the office is overwhelming and we all need some guidance. Thank you for the opportunity to win a book.

  • Monnica

    This is timely. I’m going through some major changes with my job at the moment and it has inspired a good deal of fear and a desire to bolt. Maybe this book can provide some good insights and pointers for dealing with this more effectively.

  • http://www.facebook.com/rrpichardo Rico Pichardo Abreu

    Thank you for sharing who you are with us.

  • http://www.facebook.com/marion.clarkowen Marion Clark-Owen

    A timely book as I am preparing for an interview for a new job that will change where I live and desire to live more in the moment

  • Jennifer T.

    Thank you Staci for sharing a glimpse of your book with me! I would greatly be honored if I could win your book!

  • Marybeth

    I feel stuck and increasingly uncomfortable in my current job. I want to switch to a type of service work which is fulfilling but steady income is not guaranteed… I don’t know what to do and fear is clouding my intuition and judgement. Maybe this book will strengthen my intention and help me move forward into the unknown, trusting that things will unfold in my best interest.

  • Mary

    I am a widowed, single mom of a teenager, and I will be turning 52 on Monday. Since my husband died 6 years ago, I have spent my time helping my daughter through this most difficult time of her life. She is almost 16 is doing very well now. I am very proud of her, but it does leave me at a loss. I have not done anything to help me become independent for myself! I could sure use some guidance to re-entering the world!

  • Gladys Nieves

    Staci thank you so much for sharing. I would love to win your book and learn more.

  • Kathleen

    The books sounds wonderful. Thank you both for this opportunity.

  • Beth

    I can’t even begin to say how much I think a book like this is needed! Thank you for the chance!

  • Stacey

    Expectations, guilt… Argh…

  • Maureen

    This sounds helpful and insightful. And very useful for my personal retreat later this month!!

  • Sophie

    Thank you for this opportunity. Sometimes its hard to find that perfect balance between our minds and daily life. I think a lot has to do with our attitude when we hit a brick wall. I’ve graduated with a bachelor degree for more than a year now, but have yet to find any direction or career goals. Its been frustrating and I can certainly see it affect my behavior more or less. I look forward to reading this inspiring book!

  • E.D.

    I can’t wait to get my hands on this. I’m at a very strange place in my life and I don’t know where I am going from here. I am very interested to see what this book has to offer.

  • Toast2U

    Your book sounds like a thought provoking way to initiate change. I am glad to hear about your daughter’s remission.

  • vernette

    pick me!

  • Karen

    Odd that I read this interview at this time. The reality is, we can never predict what’s around the next corner. My mom just told me this yesterday. I miraculously got pregnant for the first time at 46 and then miscarried. I don’t know if it will happen again for me yet now I am left dangling after this ‘teaser’ in my life, resurrecting my desire for my own child. Your book my have answers to all my confusion and despair.

  • Silvie

    Staci, your book sounds so empowering. Thank you for sharing and also for the interview to both of you. :) Silvie

  • Susan K

    I have been struggling with these issues for a long time – how to deal with situations out of my control and still find my own peace and happiness. I would love to gain the wisdom and insight from this book.

  • http://www.facebook.com/alane.deliaohagan Alane D’Elia O’Hagan

    great interview. would love to read this book. i don’t have a twitter account so i posted on FB instead. thank you lori for sharing this author & information. xo alane

  • Renee

    Beautiful hope I win:)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=833355299 Ashley Shott

    I would love to get my hands on this book! It sounds like something so positive. I strongly believe that we can turn most things into something positive, it’s all in how we direct our energy. <3

  • Sandra M

    This book sounds wonderful…it will fit right in with my studies in Polarity therapy, as well as other holistic modalities! The interview with Lori Deschene shared something very special about what you hope to accomplish with your writing…I believe it will help many people to achieve “presence” in their lives!

  • Heather K

    This book may be coming into my life at just the right time. I found out on Monday night (during the hurricane) that my husband of 11 year is cheating on me. We are separating and my 10 year old son is devastated, and so am I. I am looking for ways to heal and create our new normal.

  • barbie942

    I find your interview very inspiring… I totally believe i was to receive this message as i continue my journey

  • Pat

    I’m just learning to let go but I need to learn more.

  • Lydia B.

    This sounds like a great book and I’d love to read it!

  • Staci Boden

    Heather, I am so very sorry your life is being shattered in such a painful way. Clearly, the unknown has grabbed you by the nape of the neck to pull you into the unknown. I send gentleness to you and your son, as I imagine you’re both in quite a bit of shock. In creating a new normal, I encourage you to start with an intention. It will help calm your system and anchor you a bit inside the unknown. Loving travels, Staci

  • Staci Boden

    Hi Karen, yes, the challenge of not knowing is that we’re human and to be human is to be attached. I’ve worked with many women grappling with a heartfelt wish to become mothers. Such a tender place to encounter a firey initiation.

    It’s easy for me to write and difficult to practice, but loosening your grip on how you can arrive somewhere (motherhood), creates room for choice and possibility to help sort through confusion.

    Blessings to you,
    Staci

  • Staci Boden

    Mary, clearly, grief has been a huge doorway for developing awareness in your life. As a mother of teenagers when tragedy hits, we need to focus on our children’s well being. It sounds like a ripe time for you to embrace self-care. A beginning place in healing is to say yes, ask for help and then allow yourself to wonder what you need. What do you need in your life at this very moment, Mary? Hugs, Staci

  • Staci Boden

    Hi Marybeth, from where I sit, you’re in a fortunate place in that you can take time to grow your sea legs in navigating the unknown. I can tell by how quickly you’re discussing fear, intuition, intention, that these teachers would be a strong fit for you. If you want to stay in touch about other giveaways, you can find me on facebook. I would encourage you to start by inviting a conversation with some of your fears, that will help them simmer down and may lead to accessing intuition. Good luck! Staci

  • christine

    My whole life has been a transition, thanks for the encouragement.

  • StaciBoden

    Monnica, don’t bolt! Whatever fear you’re experiencing is equal to the healing waiting for you on the other side of resistance. The desire to escape actually means you’re right on track. Start with identifying one fear and then create an intention to work with it. Take care. Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Thank you, Rico. Always a risk, always a risk worth taking.

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Sophie, if you’re feeling stuck I encourage you to explore letting go. If you’re spinning with too many ideas, I suggest learning how to bring your attention down further into your body. I offer a free downloadable grounding guided visualization on website at http://www.dancing-tree.com/book. Take care, Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Thanks, Zan. I was also thrilled when I heard this wisdom. Isn’t it amazing how we can have aha moments at any time!

  • StaciBoden

    Thanks, Elena. And sometimes the only way out is through!!!! It’s amazing how casting ourselves as a victim in our lives makes us feel powerless, eh? And my skeptical husband also lives by “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” Take care, Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Erin, I’m so sorry you’re being initiated in such a challenging way. Body, letting go/surrender, awareness…it sounds like you’re already growing a relationship with these teachers in your own way. And yes, especially when you know in your bones that control is an illusion, learning to navigate and follow your own healing energy can lead to developing many beautiful gifts. Many blessings to you, Erin. Take care, Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Faith, I’d love to talk with you more about what that can look like. Please feel free to contact me at staci@dancing-tree.com. Or maybe I’ll find you:).

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Lisa, it seems like life is giving you a crash course (aka an initiation) in how to navigate the unknown! Often the healing we do around our own life and wounds becomes the doorway for our next new beginning. May you come through the other side of all this learning with grace and wisdom. Staci

  • Nancy

    I appreciate the giveaway. Fear is an issue for me.

  • StaciBoden

    Viva la (r)evolution tiff! You didn’t finish your sentence about someone close to you, but I wish you both all the best.

  • StaciBoden

    Hah! The only thing that’s constant in life, Christine, is change, eh? So the better we get at navigating change, the more it can become a joyous (and wild) ride. When the energy of something shows up, we can face it consciously or unconsciously. As a practical woman, I’d rather just get real, and get empowered.

  • StaciBoden

    Thank you, and yes, this book is life inspiring way to practice change :)!

  • http://twitter.com/Beeclef Bonnie Pruitt

    This book sounds like just what I need right about now. Thank you for the opportunity to win one!

  • Amanda

    Great Interview and excited to read this book. I really like the quote from the article about control in our lives, “Yet relying on control to deal with the unknown doesn’t always work, and often, control ends up controlling us.”

    I have personally dealing with/ recognizing my control issues with dealing with the future this year and how I always needed plans. To make myself so busy in controlling things down to know what I was going to every weekend for the next month or so instead of just having time to relax from my work week. With 2012, I stopped planning my weekends/life A LOT less and I feel much more relaxed. I’m still learning to “go with the flow” because at times I do not like where the flow goes/ used to just fighting against it to make my own path thinking thats the only way to my path.

    The need for control still comes up in my relationships with others and in other areas as well. Even when I was younger, I wanted to control my own wisdom to become wiser faster…. Really? I’m only 26 years old and I know I don’t know everything but having less fear about the unknown everyday has continued to change my life everyday.

    Thanks again for this interview and give way! Good luck to everyone and we all add this to our reading list :)

  • Valerie

    I’d like to read this book. I think it would help me through a currently difficult period.

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Robb,

    I’m so sorry for all the loss you’ve experienced, not only the loss of your family as you once knew it but the loss about what you imagined your life would be like.

    As the mother of a teenager in remission from cancer, grieving becomes necessary for us to learn how to thrive. Maybe even a soul-screaming, really God?, feeling bloodied from life, type of grieving.

    And yet, as a father, how you’re already modeling healing step-by-step is a great gift only you can provide to your children. Grief is an amazing journey, certainly not linear, asking us to move through deep waters while remembering our power so we don’t get lost.

    It may sound trite but part of rebuilding your life is to start with your foundation and place one brick at a time. It can feel slow but something like eating healthier will help you develop awareness, awaken your body (and intuition). Really, working with food as medicine can be life changing. Step by step, you are already doing it. I hope you can remember to be kind to yourself.

    Thanks for commenting,

    Staci

  • Mary

    Funny you should say that I should ask for help because that is exactly what I have not been able to do. I have been able to ask for help on account of my daughter over these years, but not for myself. I have no close friends and my family has not been at all helpful to me. My sister especially has been a big disappointment. Noone ever asks if I need anything or how I am doing. What do I need? I need someone to talk to more than anything. Someone that could give me advice, someone to help me make decisions. I guess I could really use a good friend!

  • Claudia C.

    I could so use a book like this right now in my life. I’m unemployed for the second time in a year, and I fear a career dead end. Still, I do have a faint glimmer of hope!

  • http://twitter.com/quirkofnature Kate Powe

    As a Capricorn, I love the concept of Practical Spirituality :-) What good is an awakening of consciousness if it’s left as a peak state only experienced in a retreat, or after reading a page in a book that speaks to us, and then promptly forgotten the moment we’re held up in a queue in the supermarket or some other event which pushes our buttons? It’s a constant discipline to remember to bring the ‘lovely’ spiritual stuff into the realm of the everyday, and to be aware of the intuitive and synchronicity in life as a navigation tool. Love the theme of your book x

  • Helen

    Being at a major crossroads in my life your words have really resonated with me. Sometimes the uncertainty of life can become one of our greatest fears.

  • Michele

    This book looks fascinating. I’m going through major changes in my life regarding my health, career, and a possible move. This book sounds like it could be so helpful! It already has me thinking.

  • Diane

    I would love to read this book.

  • Guest

    Thank you, Kate. I’m with you here, of course. Staying grounded and balanced while parenting teenagers or dealing with Sunday afternoon food shopping at Trader Joe’s (hello!) is how spirituality helps me navigate life. And try “manifesting” a parking spot in San Francisco!!! Talk about a s

  • Guest

    Thank you, Kate. And yes, if you have any doubts, try finding a parking spot in San Francisco, it’s a spiritual quest unto itself :-)! Or mothering toddlers and teenagers where grounding helps calm frayed nerves. I love mysticism, and how it helps me navigate the ups and downs of life, well, that what turns spirituality into a healing tool for me. Thanks for writing, and I love Capricorns :)!

  • StaciBoden

    Glad to hear that Michele. Really, the eight teachers are a natural part of daily life (fear, awareness, choice, body) and working with them can help bridge change.

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Amanda, as a recovering type A personality, I’m with you on learning how to let go. It’s a worthwhile practice because when we can loosen our grip, not give up on having intentions or goals, just loosen, then we create room for a different kind of conversation with life. One that’s more open to receiving which often leads to expansion. Congratulations on clearing space to slow down, it’s all part of it! Take care, Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Mary,
    I am so sorry you’re feeling alone. And I’m glad to hear that you’re noticing what you need, that’s an important step. Start living into what steps you might take to meet that need. Is it a friend or perhaps someone who can hold space for your feelings, your grief, your needs? Perhaps the answer is both. What kind of intention might help you move forward? Anyway, feel free to email me private at staci@dancing-tree.com if you’d like more ideas.

    Again, I know from personal experience that when we go through loss it’s easy to become isolated. And at some point, it’s up to us to decide whether we’re going to allow those understandable disappointments to dictate where we focus our energy next in our lives.

    Wishing you all the best.

    Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Thank you so much, may the book serve you well, however it arrives.

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Beth, I’m sorry to hear about control exploding. One of the main reasons I’m interested in loosening control is because when it fails, it can feel shattering. Control isn’t so good at generating resilience or creativity. As a recovering type A personality myself, learning how to let go happens step by step and at some point becomes enjoyable. It can be faith restoring to allow life to surprise us with possibility. Thanks for commenting. Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Sorry, as you can see from the above, I had difficulty posting a response, thank you Mercury Retrograde! Blessings, Staci

  • Marc B

    Thank you Staci. I very much look forward to reading more…

  • Amy

    I would really love to be able to read this book. Not only have I gone through some difficult times over the last year, but I am here specifically looking for ways to support someone in my life who is walking through a completely devastating situation. This book looks like a great resource for those who need hope.

  • http://twitter.com/ngolos Natalia Goloskokova

    Surrender is the most unclear teacher for me, but i am sure it will be well explained in the book. As well as never met before “navigate energy” (manage-yes), as a boat lover sounds like a really great concept

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1463056527 Michelle Read

    I needed this today. Thank you for the insight. As a survivor of childhood sexual and emotional abuse, I have many things to learn still at my age of 43. Wisdom is imparted very rarely nowadays, but I am glad to have found Buddhism. It’s never too late to rewire your brain and start thinking in ways that you were never taught. Every day I strive to grow and learn. Even though I have been unemployed for almost 2 years and have lost everything, I still have hope. Hope that tomorrow will be a better day. Hope and faith that kindness in mankind still exists and hope that my future is bright.

  • rosereturns

    The timing of this book and giveaway couldn’t be more serendipitous for me…ending a relationship, a living situation, and massive professional changes have me excited about finding new ways to deal with old obstacles. Thanks so much for putting this out there!

  • StaciBoden

    Dear Michelle,

    Thanks for leaving a comment. I’m also glad you’ve found meaning in Buddhism. It sounds like you’ve done a lot of letting go in the past couple of years and I wish you all the best in moving into the other part of surrender, from letting go to allowing where you align with the energy of re-birth.

    It also seems like your relationship with hope is strong. Hope can be experienced as a heartfelt wish. And an intention is a heartfelt wish that you can focus on and fuel with everyday action. A teacher of mine, Jyoti from the Center for Sacred Studies, told me, “Without an intention, energy is random.”

    So focusing your hope in a particular direction, whether you’d like to call it an intention or another practice that has meaning for you, can help. I hope you will consider creating something like an intention to help your life take flight in a beautiful way.

    Wishing you all the best,
    Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Natalia,

    We often call surrender “the big mama” teacher, because of how powerful that force is in our lives, so I understand the confusion. I’ll tell you a secret (shhh), a relationship with surrender develops through getting to know fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, basically the other seven teachers in the book. So by the time you get there, surrender won’t feel so confusing.

    Hah about managing versus navigating energy, glad you noticed the difference because there is one, at least in my book :). For me, managing is more about control and manipulation where navigating combines relationship and choice. We may not be able to control our reality, but we can learn how to navigate life. At least, that’s my belief and experience.

    Take care,

    Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Amy,
    I’m sorry to hear about you and the person in your life who is dealing with devastation. It’s just so hard when everything we think we know is shattered, eh? I actually wrote the book in part as a love letter to anyone feeling lost and surrounded by challenging life circumstances. If a paragraph or a story or a teacher helps someone feel less alone, I will be content.
    Blessings to you and yours,
    Staci

  • StaciBoden

    Hi Helen, and sometimes paying attention to our (understandable) fears around uncertainty can help us grow strength, patience, a sense of humor, or something else we might need. If you think about it, fear is just waving a red flag of awareness about something important in your life. The question is, what? Hugs, Staci

  • http://twitter.com/threadphoto Laura

    Loved the article! I’m putting this book on my “to read” list!

  • Amanda

    Thanks Staci! And it’s definitely a worthwhile practice to loosen without letting go/ giving up our intentions or goals. :) Nice to hear from a fellow recovering type A personality.

  • still_learning_and_growing

    I was at a frightening and harrowing ‘dead end’ the year I turned 40. I was laid off by a company where I stayed for 19 years, and released into a hopeless job market already filled with thousands of others like me. I didn’t know it at the time, but I had somehow ‘intentionally’ decided to be open about the experience, to learn from others, to go wherever the journey might lead me. Three months after the layoff, I found a senior position, and became a hiring manager for 9 people. My career has taken flight since my layoff, and I thank all the people I’ve met along the way for being my ‘teachers’.

  • still_learning_and_growing

    Confidence. Tenacity. A sense of humor. A strong belief that you are destined for something bigger. Aim for these intangibles everyday. And try to help others — even as you are seeking a job. You never know when you might bump into a hiring manager…. As someone who’s experienced quiet, dark nights staring at job boards, I am sending positive thoughts and energy your way, Claudia. Your next job is an interview away.