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By: 5 Steps to Push through Fear | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In

Mon, 22 Aug 2011 02:52:12 +0000

[...] thought form after all, and as the old adage goes: “What we fear most is fear itself.” When we drop the story we build up around our fear and meet the present where we are now, we open ourselves to new [...]

By: How to Open Yourself to Love When You Didn’t Grow Up with It | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In

Thu, 02 Jun 2011 16:46:23 +0000

[...] you stop telling the story, it has less power over [...]

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5 Steps to Be Selfless When It’s Hard | tinybuddha.com — Wed, 05 May 2010 05:21:19 +0000

[...] you read Rachel Whalley’s post Letting Go of Stories About Other People, you know what I’m getting at here. So the guy in the aisle seat wasn’t very nice to me. (His [...]

By: On Catching Thoughts Before They Become Emotional Reactions | tinybuddha.com

Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:53:46 +0000

[...] by Rachel Whalley [...]

By: rachelwhalley

rachelwhalley — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:32:45 +0000

Hey Henry,

Yes, it is amazing how fast we dream up negative stories. But what is also amazing is our brain's capacity to transform. The more often I practice alternative stories, the easier they come to me. Where it used to be 10-20 minutes to think about it, now it's a matter of seconds--my negative assumption is immediately followed by other possibilities.

Brains are amazing and so is our imagination.

By: rachelwhalley

rachelwhalley — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:32:45 +0000

By: HenryBM

HenryBM — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:14:08 +0000

“In so many places in our lives, we see a behavior and automatically make a meaning out of it”

I do this WAY too much. And it's often a negative story that upsets me. What is strange is how automatic the reflex is – how difficult to stop, and how destructive to your happiness it can be.

I find I have to imagine the alternative scenario as clearly as I can – really get into it. As a way of forgetting ones own emotional mess, partly. But also for just switching on your imagination again.

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October 13, 2009 | tinybuddha.com — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:32:23 +0000

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By: rachelwhalley

rachelwhalley — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:04:11 +0000

Awesome. I enjoy reaching mutual understanding.

Thanks for taking the time to come back, read my comment and reply!

By: apsyd

apsyd — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:21:58 +0000

I do understand what you're getting at now. I wasn't looking at it within the context of this specific situation. What I was trying to get across was the idea that one shouldn't perform this exercise 100% of the time. In this case, yes, one should use it. But in other cases, a foot must come down in order to hold your own. So I understand what you're saying now that you've explained it.