“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~Anais Nin
There have been times when I’ve experienced pain when all I wanted was for its cessation.
I’m not sure whether I’m “unique” in my experience of pain or in how many times in my life I’ve had to deal with physical pain.… Read More
“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~Lori Deschene
There was a time in my life when I struggled to share my pain. I actually took great pride in how stubborn I had become. It wasn’t until I started looking within myself that these prideful attitudes started to shift.… Read More
“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~ Anais Nin
When I was eighteen, I got depressed and stayed depressed for a little over a year. For over a year, every single day was a battle with myself. For over a year, every single day felt heavy and pointless.… Read More
“The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.” ~C. C. Scott
It starts accidentally.
Addicts don’t plan to become addicted to a substance or behavior. It’s an invisible progression, a newly discovered way to feel peace, trust, and control.
You don’t remember the day you became addicted—the day your addiction became your identity.… Read More
“Fear has its use but cowardice has none.” ~Gandhi
On Monday, my boyfriend and I took a ferry to Catalina Island, where we planned to spend the night.
I knew the island would be quaint and charming, which was a big part of its appeal, but I was mostly looking forward to breathing in the salty ocean air.… Read More
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Frank
I have a confession to make: The last few weeks have been some of the hardest I’ve lived through in my entire life—but not for the reasons you’d think.
Thankfully, all of my family is safe and sound.… Read More
“Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.” ~Winston Churchill
We all fall down. And you’ve probably heard that getting back up is the key to moving forward.
But what do you do when disaster strikes? When a loved one is so injured, so debilitated that hope seems to have vanished?… Read More
“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.” ~Unknown
I was fired via email as my plane touched down at LAX.
I am not the kind of person who gets fired, who gets dismissed, who is asked to leave and is not welcomed back.
This was not my track record, no.… Read More
“There are no failures. Just experiences and your reactions to them.” ~Tom Krause
Ever found yourself working for a bad boss? I was shocked to learn recently that three out of every four people report that their boss is the most stressful part of their job; and that it takes most of us up to twenty-two months to free ourselves of them.… Read More
“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
In my youth, I strived to be “nice.” I tolerated a lot from others. I forgave easily and learned to “turn the other cheek.”
I made myself constantly available to other people and asked nothing in return. I remained loyal even if people mistreated me.… Read More
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” ~Yogi Bhajan
It took me a second to realize what was happening.
I was hanging onto a rope and headed straight for the sky.
I must have been around 100 feet in the air. I was looking at the ground and it kept getting smaller and smaller.… Read More
“The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without resentment.” ~Elbert Hubbard
My self-awareness grows while watching an eight-year-old boy navigate Sudoku.
He wants to be good at the game, but he doesn’t want to do the work. He wants to know the next right answer without having to think.… Read More
“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” ~Cicero
At one point or another, we all questions whether or not we are doing enough, making enough money, or if we are going to be “successful” enough. I know this firsthand, as I’ve spent long periods of my young adult life in a persistent state of fear and self-doubt.… Read More
“The journey is the reward.” ~Chinese Proverb
When you set goals, you naturally focus on the result. If you pay attention to the desired achievement, you will discover the path to get there. However, the value you gain from achieving the goal isn’t just about the reward of accomplishment.
Once you achieve a significant goal, you will not be the same person you were when you set out on the journey.… Read More
“All great changes are preceded by chaos.” ~Deepak Chopra
We live in an eternally pregnant present, full of possibilities for a bright future. I believe it has always been that way throughout the history of the world. That’s just how the universe works. Unfortunately, we haven’t always experienced our lives the way the universe intended, especially right now.… Read More
“Suffering is not caused by pain but by resisting pain.”~Unknown
Prior to my twenty-second birthday I was spiraling down a self-destructive path, partying at all hours of the morning and drinking excessively to numb my pain. I was a rebel with a cause, as the lure of the nightlife kept me away from my dysfunctional home.… Read More
“If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.” ~Lao Tzu
Long before health experts were telling us “You are what you eat,” some time after Buddha spoke his wisdom “What we think we become,” ancient Chinese sage Lao Tzu mused that we only need to change our way of thinking for our lives to fall into place.… Read More
“Take that first step. Bravely overcoming one small fear gives you the courage to take on the next.” ~Daisaku Ikeda
When I was younger I loved to climb trees, but I was always too scared to get myself down. Somehow, when standing at the base of a massive Oak, I’d forget how terrified I’d feel at the top.… Read More
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
This morning, I sat through my third fall semester orientation in my graduate school career. While most of the time I sat begrudgingly listening to my professors, there were a few things that stood out to me.… Read More
“He is able who thinks he is able.” ~Buddha
At any point of time every person has:
- A set of things s/he wants to change but cannot (plans)
- A set of things s/he tried to change but could not (helplessness)
- A set of things s/he could have changed and did not (guilt)
- A fear of the unknown, anxiety about the future, and worry about decisions to be taken (fear)
- Too many plans and associated what-ifs (anxiety)
I have experienced all of the feelings listed above and have tried hard to ease myself from what I went through.… Read More