“Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.” ~H. Jackson Browne
I decided to have a homebirth late in my first pregnancy, well into the third trimester. All through the first six months I flip-flopped back and forth, first buying into the message that hospitals were safe for births and homes were not, and then feeling profoundly certain that the best environment in which to have my baby was at home.… Read More
“If you get up one more time than you fall, you will make it through.” ~Chinese Proverb
Last year I had emergency open heart surgery. Shortly after the procedure, two nurses entered my room and gave me terrible news: I had to walk.
That may not sound like a big deal, but open heart surgery is brutal.… Read More
“If we are not fully ourselves, truly in the present moment, we miss everything.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Today, out of the blue, I got two connection-request messages on LinkedIn from two children’s authors. I don’t know either one, personally. I’m not involved with children’s literature. Why was I receiving these requests?… Read More
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
“They” say things happen at the “right” time. For me hearing a presentation, live, by Jack Canfield, came at the perfect time.… Read More
“Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.” ~Benjamin Disraeli”
We often experience resentment toward other people when we find it hard to forgive them and hold onto unspoken pain.
Whenever we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, judged, or wronged, we have a very powerful internal reaction.… Read More
“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Bernice Johnson Reagon
My quarter-life crisis kicked into high gear about six months ago.
Take this as evidence: I quit my job. I quit my apartment and moved back home. I quit booze and boys.… Read More
“Put your future in good hands—your own.” ~Unknown
They say that in life, we are never given more than we can handle.
But sometimes it’s a matter of not accepting more than we can handle. Putting your foot down. Proclaiming, “That’s enough!”
Recently, a number of stressors confronted me simultaneously.… Read More
“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” ~Pericles
Life is full of challenges. These obstacles are the greatest teachers we can have.
As I’m sure is true for all of us, I have struggled with many things throughout my life.… Read More
“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” ~Gandhi
The next time I feel it urgent to text someone off Craigslist after 11pm, I may think twice.
I was obsessed with attaining the body of a fitness model. I had recently been laid off and when life gets tough, I go to work—on my abs.… Read More
Life has a tendency to become overly complicated and stressful, particularly because things change so quickly. I’ve identified seven problems that you can eliminate to make your life a whole lot simpler (which doesn’t mean boring or less interesting).
Problem #1 – Too Much Responsibility
Think back to a year or two ago.… Read More
“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” ~Unknown
It was the perfect storm.
In 2009 my best friend got married. At 48, having never been married, I once again caught the bouquet. Two months later, my mother’s home burned to the ground. At 70 years old, she lost everything, including a pet.… Read More
“What you are is what you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now.” ~Buddha
These words resonate for me in a deeply personal way. The importance of being in the here and now, of recognizing that every moment is an opportunity to wake up to what is happening and what is possible, saved my life.… Read More
“He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope has everything.” ~Thomas Carlyle
I grew up in a small town, Maysville, Kentucky, where I led the perfect, sheltered life. After graduating from high school, I pursued higher education at a local community college, and from there transferred to The University of Kentucky in Lexington.… Read More
“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.” ~Tony Robbins
We spend a lot of time in life not knowing.
There are a lot of things that we’re comfortable not knowing. Not knowing a stranger’s name. Not knowing our credit card number or a friend’s address.… Read More
“If you are never scared, embarrassed, or hurt, it means you never take chances.” ~Julia Soul
The moment comes when you are on your knees.
You are filled with a knowing that there is something better. There is a life for you that you are not living and you are ready to live it.… Read More
“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” ~Buddha
A decade or so ago, when I was 20, I was supposed to settle into an “arranged marriage,” a common concept in India. I would never have known what it means to be financially independent, to go after my passions, and to be true to myself.… Read More
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” ~Pema Chodron
I’ve been self-employed for many years now. This is no accident. I’ve always liked to do things my own way. I like to arrange my diary in exactly the way I want to, and make my own mind up about how I do things.… Read More
“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.” -Pema Chodron
Seven years ago, I packed everything I owned into my little red Honda Civic and sold, gave away, or tossed whatever didn’t fit. I was 24 years old and I was on my way from Florida to Los Angeles to pursue the American Dream.… Read More
“To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.” -Unknown
For many years I maintained a relationship that I was not happy with. I’m sure a lot of people have been there, or are there right now. I didn’t feel there was equality in the relationship; I always seemed to be the one giving, yet I consistently felt I was getting nothing out of it.… Read More
“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.” ~Erica Jong
I’ve received all kinds of advice in my life, both welcome and unwelcome. Most of this advice is easy to divide into two piles: “good” or “bad.”
“Good” advice: when somebody makes a suggestion and I think, “Oh, of course!” It might be advice about how to improve a poem, or how to peel a mango.… Read More