“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard
Category “change & challenges”
“He is able who thinks he is able.” ~Buddha
I really needed to finish up a task. I’d already spent five more days than the one I’d estimated it would take. My boss was getting edgy; my co-workers were looking at me funny.
Every day I’d come in, have my plan-of-attack all thought out.… Read More
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance” ~Alan Watts
My obsession at an early age became to follow my heart—a life’s search for meaning, adventure, and enlightenment.
This search has been remarkable, a journey that has brought me to fascinating places for extended stays (Japan, the UK, Australia, you name the place) and has led me to relationships with some of the most interesting, loving people from around the globe.… Read More
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear” ~Ambrose Redmoon
I hear the words courage and boldness thrown around a lot in the self-growth world, often as the same thing.
Or that the notion of true courage and boldness only looks like this big, huge, daring action, like a hero out of a movie lunging into a fearful situation.… Read More
“In chaos, there is fertility.” ~Anais Nin
“You know you’re eating tongue tacos, right?” asked the slight Mexican hipster beside me. I choked, wide-eyed.
“I thought it was just beef,” I stuttered, surveying the thick slabs of juicy meat I’d just been scarfing down. He subtly rolled his wide brown eyes.… Read More
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Sunday started out with a panic attack.
It wasn’t little butterflies in the stomach like right before a first kiss. It wasn’t the feeling of anticipation as a roller coaster slowly climbs the big hill before the drop.
This panic attack felt like I was about to jump off a cliff while being chased by clowns.… Read More
“The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.” ~Thucydides
The society I was born in—urban, rich, conservative India—did not encourage women to make life choices for themselves. I was not given a vote in my own education, or in the choice of a husband when I turned twenty years old.… Read More
“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~Anais Nin
There have been times when I’ve experienced pain when all I wanted was for its cessation.
I’m not sure whether I’m “unique” in my experience of pain or in how many times in my life I’ve had to deal with physical pain.… Read More
“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~Lori Deschene
There was a time in my life when I struggled to share my pain. I actually took great pride in how stubborn I had become. It wasn’t until I started looking within myself that these prideful attitudes started to shift.… Read More
“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~ Anais Nin
When I was eighteen, I got depressed and stayed depressed for a little over a year. For over a year, every single day was a battle with myself. For over a year, every single day felt heavy and pointless.… Read More
“The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.” ~C. C. Scott
It starts accidentally.
Addicts don’t plan to become addicted to a substance or behavior. It’s an invisible progression, a newly discovered way to feel peace, trust, and control.
You don’t remember the day you became addicted—the day your addiction became your identity.… Read More
“Fear has its use but cowardice has none.” ~Gandhi
On Monday, my boyfriend and I took a ferry to Catalina Island, where we planned to spend the night.
I knew the island would be quaint and charming, which was a big part of its appeal, but I was mostly looking forward to breathing in the salty ocean air.… Read More
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Frank
I have a confession to make: The last few weeks have been some of the hardest I’ve lived through in my entire life—but not for the reasons you’d think.
Thankfully, all of my family is safe and sound.… Read More
“Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.” ~Winston Churchill
We all fall down. And you’ve probably heard that getting back up is the key to moving forward.
But what do you do when disaster strikes? When a loved one is so injured, so debilitated that hope seems to have vanished?… Read More
“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.” ~Unknown
I was fired via email as my plane touched down at LAX.
I am not the kind of person who gets fired, who gets dismissed, who is asked to leave and is not welcomed back.
This was not my track record, no.… Read More
“There are no failures. Just experiences and your reactions to them.” ~Tom Krause
Ever found yourself working for a bad boss? I was shocked to learn recently that three out of every four people report that their boss is the most stressful part of their job; and that it takes most of us up to twenty-two months to free ourselves of them.… Read More
“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
In my youth, I strived to be “nice.” I tolerated a lot from others. I forgave easily and learned to “turn the other cheek.”
I made myself constantly available to other people and asked nothing in return. I remained loyal even if people mistreated me.… Read More
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” ~Yogi Bhajan
It took me a second to realize what was happening.
I was hanging onto a rope and headed straight for the sky.
I must have been around 100 feet in the air. I was looking at the ground and it kept getting smaller and smaller.… Read More
“The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without resentment.” ~Elbert Hubbard
My self-awareness grows while watching an eight-year-old boy navigate Sudoku.
He wants to be good at the game, but he doesn’t want to do the work. He wants to know the next right answer without having to think.… Read More