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Chelsea Clary

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  • #76133
    Chelsea Clary
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    Thank you Nicole. I tell my story for the exact response that you gave me. I want others to know that even when life seems horrible, that there is something better awaiting you at the end. I applaud you for having the strength to escape an abusive relationship, I know how hard they are to get out of. You will get through your trials and come out on the other side stronger and wiser, that I can promise because your reply shows strength. I wish you many blessings and a life filled with miracles and inner peace.

    #75990
    Chelsea Clary
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    Hi Pamela,
    Your replies are so kind, thank you. I’m very happy that my story has helped you. Keeping an open and appreciative heart is the way I live now and I encourage others to do the same. I feel that you are a wonderful and beautiful person, I hope you continue to thrive and hope the best for you. Just don’t ever give up on yourself, you are more precious than you know. Have a wonderful day!!

    #75989
    Chelsea Clary
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    Hi Moongal,
    Thank you for your incredibly kind words. When I wrote this post it wasn’t for me, it was for other people, so that others could know that life can be difficult, but it can and does go on. It’s the trials that I am now so appreciative of because it has left me so happy and grateful for the life I live today. Please try to remember that enduring darkness will make the light that much more rewarding and wonderful. Thank you again for your kindness, I wish you much peace and love.

    #75870
    Chelsea Clary
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    Hi Jadegoalie-

    I encourage you to read my post “when pain becomes strength”. To summarize, I spent three long years going through job loss, RN licensure lost, drug dependence, divorce, home foreclosure, physical illness, suicide attempts, psychiatric hospitalization, abusive relationships, poverty, homelessness, and far more. It was hard to go through the darkness of those three years. I tried killing myself three times. I know how it feels when your world completely dissolves. Two things I want to tell you. First, this isn’t for nothing. You are enduring this dark time so that you can emerge a stronger person. I know it’s hard to see that from where you are at this moment, stuck in the midst of it, but it’s true. Not long from now, you will be able to look back and see that you survived. The other thing I would like to tell you is that life is never perfect. I encourage you to take a step back and look at your life as a whole and find what there is that you can still be grateful for. I know it sounds contrite, but it will give you the opportunity to see that not everything is bad at this moment. I made it my personal goal when I came out of the storm that I went through to not let it have been for nothing. I didn’t want the scars on my arm, my time in the psychiatric hospital, the abusive relationships, all of it, to have happened to me for nothing. I decided that I would use what I had endured to help others see that they can overcome their trials and thrive. The best part is that when you get through it, you know how strong you are. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if you need to. Remember, no one is perfect, there is amazing beauty in things that are flawed, wabi sabi. I hope this helps give you some solace and you will be in my thoughts.

    #75869
    Chelsea Clary
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    Bluelupines-

    My heart hurts for you. First thing I want to say to you is that nothing you have done or could have done could have altered the twisted desire of another person. You have been victimized. Here is the truth that I have learned for myself having been raped in highschool and being made to do things through coercion and manipulation by an ex boyfriend. While it is true that you have been victimized, only you can make yourself a victim. I don’t mean this to sound cold or preachy, please hear me out. In this instance, what I am reading is a dreadful story in which you survived and were strong enough to seek help both with your family and here in these forums. You did not let it happen to you, stay quiet and in all likelihood have it happen over and over again. You sought to help yourself through counsel of others. That’s a wonderful first step. By doing so, you have not allowed yourself to stay a passive participant, you have not allowed yourself to be a victim. In my opinion, and it is only my opinion and by no means gospel, you need to take this a step further and report this to the police. If not for you, then for any other women this disgusting individual may seek to violate. You must stop him from doing this again. People like this look for people that are trusting and vulnerable and then use that to their sick advantage. If you take it a step further, not only are you not allowing yourself to be a victim, you are doing a great service to future individuals, which will give you a sense of it not having been for nothing. I understand that this person is close to you, but that doesn’t excuse the behavior. View them as a sick individual that needs help if that helps you take the next steps. If you report him, he will be forced to get the help he needs. In that way, you are helping him, not having him punished. I usually don’t try to give advice, but your story compelled me to do just that. On a side note, this situation will soon be nothing more than a bad memory, it will be over and in your past. You are incredibly strong for sharing your story and I encourage you to become involved in support groups for people who are struggling with similar issues. Personal turmoil gives you the power to help others from a stance of having been there and showing others that they can get through it and thrive. You can be a beacon of hope for others. I strongly encourage you to use your situation to strengthen you and help others. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, I wish you the best of luck.

    #75868
    Chelsea Clary
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    Hi Pamela. Thank you for your reply. I hope everything gets better for you. What I’ve learned through my journey is that things aren’t always going to be easy but it’s the difficult times that mold and form you. You need to have faith that even the worst of circumstances will pass and you will emerge a stronger and wiser person for having gone through it. Even today things are not a picture of perfection in my life, but they aren’t even a fraction of how bad they’ve been, so for that alone I am grateful. I encourage you to take a deep breath and try to take notice of what you have going on at this moment for which you can be grateful. When your heart is full of gratitude and appreciation, it can’t have fear or anger in it. I hope you emerge from your difficulties soon and realize that it wasn’t for nothing. Have a wonderful day and good luck!!!

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