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  • #419966
    doremi
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    how if your boss doesn’t like you?

    #382179
    doremi
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    Hi Anita, Pink, and Wind. Thank you so much for the respond. It helps me to see things more clearly.

    I have a lot of up and down, when I am happy usually I don’t go to forum and ask for help. That’s why you only see me once a while when I feel down, and sad.

    It was two different guys, I chatted with them at the same time. One told me about bitcoin, and another is like lottery app investment. I know that I am so stupid, I keep blaming myself how can I easily trust someone with their words. My uncle told me, it is not because of stupidity, but because they are professional scammers, they already know how to lie, persuade, manipulate, people. And I keep feeling sad.

    I know it is my fault as well, I was too naive, I thought everyone is good in this world. I never meet with evil people, even around me people can be annoying or disagree with me, but I never meet with someone who are trully very evil like robbers, scammers, killers, etc. People around me are usually good people, nice, and treat me well. Even when I travels, usually people out of nowhere help me. This incident made me realise people can be very evil, and I was very shock, and cried a lot.

    I didn’t know whether I should work harder, tried to make money on the side to pay all my debt. Or should I just give it up, meditate, and let my salary pay everything within time. I have tried both, but I keep feel sad most of the time.

    Btw, thank you so much for accompany me and hear my stories. I know it is my fault, I just want to find ways to be strong and successful again. Also, to forgive myself… and learn the lesson. Thank you.

    #294653
    doremi
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    Hi Anita, thanks for your reply. Yes, I worry so much about my work but my work has a big role on me, since I don’t know what else to do if not working. I mean I can do other activities but I still want to have job that pays the bill.

    i don’t know, but I can’t go back to the past and don’t regret it. I started some business but mostly aren’t working I feel very desperate. I really hope that I will get some insights and job offer soon in a good environment. Then I will just work hard without thinking too much.

    i believe everything is gonna be alright.

    #126926
    doremi
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    Hi Anita,
    Thanks for your reply. Yes, I am totally confused when thinking on should I stay or should I move. The frustation happen when I have to explain simple thing like we have to move to digital instead of using traditional way, or why I need the password access to the website to do my work. Previously I was getting blamed by a colleague because the website is down, when I tried to explain and I am correct. The supervisor of that colleague, protecting him and asked me to drop that matter to be “professional”. I was upset because how can you don’t take responsibility and blaming people like that.

    I am okay now, I have good friends here. But I am afraid that all that kind of misunderstanding, explaining basic things, etc. Happened again. So there are some opportunity opening in banks and my colleague asked me to apply together. We are waiting for interview. But I am not sure because I am afraid of risk in corporation like “slow-pace, corporate politics, long-hours etc.”

    What do you think? Should I stay or jump? Thank You 🙂

    #109075
    doremi
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    Hi Anita,
    Thanks for your feedback! You are still remembering me, yeah I waited until June and got my bonuses, finally! I don’t want to quit my job or move closer because I really like the benefits that I get now, and my current house is good. In fact, I think some people only are stressed, but some people are neutral, so I think I should focus and surround myself with neutral people that happy with their job.

    Yes, I have been thinking about that. I should help each other throughout the job. In fact, the more I do the more I understand how is the business doing and learn a lot. I guess everything is difficult because I am still adapting before I master it and everything become easy.

    I am questioning in TinyBuddha because I was confused just now, and wondering about my career. As I am still young, there are many options that come to my mind. But maybe I should just walk on it, for every decision I have, and believe for the best.

    Just wondering if anyone have the same experience maybe they can share.

    Thanks,
    Doremi.

    #103844
    doremi
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    Hi Sam,

    I am in the same situation with you, but I have to wait until June. Here are some tips that I have done that might be helping you. Pray often, ask your inner self to speak good words and telling you everything will be okay. Find your friends, you will have outside friends or family that are nice and understand what you are going through, spend time with them and don’t lock yourself in the room as it will drive you crazy. Do other focus, find your passion focus on that, it can be build online business, learn new skills and so on. Last but not least, you are going to leave anyway, just don’t speak or think too much, don’t be part of the drama, even if they put you inside the drama, become uninterested in it, only interested in your purpose and goals. This too shall pass.

    I believe you will stay sane in the next few months, and not only that, in July you will also become stronger person because all of those experience you have gone through. You are a beautiful human being that asked for help. You will get help and all the good thing will come to you because of your own effort.

    All the best 🙂

    #103843
    doremi
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    Thank You so much Anita, for your guidance. It helps me a lot, you are such an angel 🙂

    #103842
    doremi
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    Hi Anita and Anoniem,

    Thank You for the reply. Yes, I am trying to improve my people skills right now. But I do also believe it really depends on the company culture and environment you are working in. So instead of me keep going crazy by thinking how do I remain positive around people who always rushing me to get what they want and feel like get “unhappy”. I decided to just let it go for the remaining times. As I don’t want to care so much whether they are blaming me, etc. anymore, since I am going to leave, no matter what. I only hope I can be peaceful and comforting with myself in the remaining time. And find a great job that appreciate my occupation more soon.

    Hi Anoniem,

    I understand your feeling with uncertainty, as I am in the same position now, but I believe it will soon change. However the word “CHANGE” can only be happen if we are trying, if it doesn’t work try again, if it is stressful try again, as you keep trying you also find your mistake and try to improve it. Treat it as a self education, real-life experience education. I am also very stressful and uncertain sometimes, but if the heart (and your head) already know something is wrong, staying longer without purpose has no meaning either. Don’t quit your job now, but never lose hope, think what interest you, and what dream job that you want. You are courageous person, the fact that you are asking for advice means you are trying to do something. I believe in you and hope you all the best.

    #101769
    doremi
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you for your kindness. I am the only designer in my team, so if there is anything wrong or doesn’t workout, all will look for me. “Why this, why that, I don’t feel the design.” and a lot of other nonsense. I have been feeling burn out lately with no passion of what I am doing, together with so much work pile I have to do and also so much feedback I have to receive. I have been three years in this company with accomplishments, but recently my team has a huge change and now I feel my work is very meaningless.

    On top of that, I have trying for prayers, feel happy, become positive, etc. But all this drained emotion bring me down again and again. They just want it fast, cheap, and good as much as they can. My team consist of 8 people, including me. The problem is I become very quiet and can’t show poker face at work, pretending like this is the best jobs ever.

    I don’t know if I have to look for jobs probably in May, since now is still mid April, and I have to wait my bonuses on June. I received paycut when I accepted this jobs, and now I am afraid it will be hard to jump because recruiters keep asking me my existing salary. However I do believe in my skills and experience as I have won a lot of awards and achievement.

    It’s just I can’t stand with unreasonable demand and meaningless feeling at work like this.

    Thank You Anita, God Bless You.

    #99328
    doremi
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    Thank You Anita. I think I’ve too much expectation for myself. Reading your reply makes me understand to stay calm and not expect quick clarity straight away.

    I have been very fortunate for everything I do right now, I just realise I keep looking up without realizing how far I have walked.

    Thank You Again, I will try to keep exploring and contributing in my life.

    Doremi 😀

    #98920
    doremi
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    Thank You for the insight M. Greatly Appreciated that. I will start to look at my passion and brainstorm my ideal career. Thank You So Much 🙂

    #98917
    doremi
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank You for your reply. The feeling of unfulfilled has been around for quite sometimes, but I don’t know what to do with it. I know that I can’t quit my job because I have no plan whatsoever. I started making blog, writing articles, giving knowledge for free. One and two people respond it with interest, “Great Post”, “Good Work”. But that’s it. I don’t know what’s next on how should I monetize it or make it something I really become passionate about.

    On the other hand, I remember when I was a child I immersed myself to read a lot of comic books, such as manga, disney, etc. Everything that full of illustration and stories. After I grow up, I went overseas and found a digital illustration book belong to my friend, totally captivated by it. I am not perfect, but I when I did my own illustration, I won award, admiration, etc.
    However, that path of being illustrator comic book is totally out of the line with my current work. I am a web designer now.

    So again, I am very stress. I want to join big company such as google, facebook, etc. so that I have bigger experience, financial freedom, feeling more respected and acknowledged, etc. That’s my parent’s dream as well. But on the other hand, I am very worried, worried that I am stuck in my life. Can I actually do something? My purpose in life…

    Thank You Anita 🙂

    #72804
    doremi
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    Thank You So Much Inky and Pink24,

    Yes, I hope that one day I will get whatever I want. I am afraid that I am trying to seek his approval, it sounds like a child seeking attention, which can be bothersome to some. I prefer quietly work in the back stage but I also hope that I can be a better worker and rewarded well. Maybe I should not ask for reward..

    Thank You so much for a generous advice from both of you. I hope I can keep working without thinking too much 🙂

    Thank You,
    Doremi

    #69630
    doremi
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    Thank You So Much Adam, Jonathan, Nida!

    All replies give me a lot of perspective to think of. Maybe I was very naive at the start and people see me young and don’t know the real thing. However, I’ve raised this concern to my head department (cried), he said mine one is already high compare to my peers same level. But I think he forget my skill is different with people who the same age with me, I don’t mean to become arrogant. But I learn very hard to have a lot of skill and I hope people appreciates it.

    Thank You so much for the guidance, I will see what happen 😀

    All the best,
    Doremi

    #69589
    doremi
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    Hi Jonathan,

    Thank You so much for your reply.

    Yeah, I have put so much into my work and feel unhappy to just leave like that. Furthermore, this company give me working visa which is probably difficult to get, I am working in another country. But I feel discouraged with things happening and I am not sure which path to take.

    I am afraid if I go to another company, it will be the same case again. They pay you A pay but asked you work double and start prove yourself again or starting from zero. I am so confused. Feel sad.

    Thank You,
    Doremi

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