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  • My husband is not a talker and he doesn’t read or watch movies. I asked before why not and he says he struggles to understand them. I think this is because he is a very straightforward person and struggles with the imagination needed to get into a film, and doesn’t have the patience or interest for reading.

     

    I have tried to talk to him about…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita
    I think you have an interesting point about whether this issue will follow me into any future relationship, if I do leave.

    However I did have more of a connection with my ex husband, and subsequently my work colleague, than I do my current husband.</p>

    I wonder if it’s more that I married him unconsciously knowing he would never hurt me…[Read more]

  • <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Anita</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>I think you have an interesting point about whether this issue will follow me into any future relationship, if I do leave.</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>However I did have more of a connection with my ex husband, and subsequently my work colleague, than I do my current…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    I would like to be in a relationship with someone who values me and also I can really talk to. My husband and I find it difficult to communicate beyond the day to day simple things like ‘was your day OK?’ And ‘what shall we eat for dinner?’ Etc.

    I would like to be in a relationship where we shared more, whether that be plans for the…[Read more]

  • I’m not sure if ’emotional depth’ is the right phrase. I guess I mean that both my mother and husband do not strive for growth or self improvement or to do things with their lives, other than what society expects from them.

    My mother was content settling for a husband she didn’t love, in a job she didn’t enjoy. She wakes up, watches TV, goes to…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    I think you are right. It’s not something I have really considered until recently and since posting on here. I have always known I wanted ‘more’ in life, but it’s only since my mother told me recently that she felt I expected too much from life that I’ve really seen the differences between us.

    She thinks I should be happy with my lot…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    Yes I do. I don’t mean that negatively, just that my mother is content in her life so that’s good for her. I want to be content, but want to live in a different way to her. She is in her early 60s and has a progressive illness which is terminal and caused by smoking all her life.

    I guess this may have an impact on why I’m so keen to…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    I am very different to my parents. We have very different outlooks on life. My parents were satisfied working their manual labour jobs, one holiday a year, and spending all their free time watching TV. They also aren’t very happy together….they have ‘settled’ for each other. My mother said openly to me that my father was not the love…[Read more]

  • Lea replied to the topic Feel so lost in the forum Relationships 1 week, 1 day ago

    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Sorry you find yourself so low at the moment. I don’t think you are ready for another relationship yet. I think you should use this time focusing on YOU and developing other interests.</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>You will meet someone when you are meant to and you will wonder…[Read more]

  • Hi Donna

    Could you elaborate a bit more?

    It’s funny, my mother thinks I ‘expect too much from life’ and should accept my relationship with my husband for what it is and be grateful.

    Like I said earlier, my husband is a good man and he is very good at practical things. For example, the bills are paid on time, if the car needs maintenance or…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    I think you have summed it up perfectly. My husband is a very nice guy and I care for him deeply but I didn’t realise how much was lacking in our relationship until the interaction with my co worker. The only way I can describe it is its as if life was black and white before, but now I know it can be colour. I felt passion and alive .

    I…[Read more]

  • Hello Anita

    My relationship with my 1st husband was very good (if inexperienced as we started dating at 16) until 3 months after we married. He had a string of bad things happen to him (an issue at work which meant he nearly got fired, his mother got cancer, our dog died and then his parents very unexpectedly split) and this triggered a deep…[Read more]

  • Thank you for your reply.

    I don’t have a ‘passion’ in my life but I do keep myself with my own hobbies. I enjoy reading and have founded a book club where we live. I love to travel and see new places and do this as much as I can although I end up doing it on my own as my husband is not able to come with me due to his work.

    I also love music, TV…[Read more]

  • Hi Anita

    We have never really had any talks about ‘important ‘ stuff. Not even about whether or not to have children! I don’t think either of us have a massive urge to have kids but when I tried to talk to him about it I just got the reply ‘I’m not adverse to it’. And that was it.

    We don’t talk about things we want to do together, places we want…[Read more]

  • I feel like I’m at a massive fork in the road of my life and not sure which road to head down.
    Bit of background. I’m 35 and I’m married to my 2nd husband. My 1st husband was my childhood sweetheart and he had mental health problems  (which developed after we narried) and ultimately after a few years or trying to work through them and stay…[Read more]

  • I feel like I’m at a massive fork in the road of my life and not sure which road to head down.
    Bit of background. I’m 35 and I’m married to my 2nd husband. My 1st husband was my childhood sweetheart and he had mental health problems  (which developed after we narried) and ultimately after a few years or trying to work through them and stay…[Read more]

  • <p style=”text-align: left;”>I feel like I’m at a massive fork in the road of my life and not sure which road to head down.</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Bit of background. I’m 35 and I’m married to my 2nd husband. My 1st husband was my childhood sweetheart and he had mental health problems  (which developed after we narried) and ultimately…[Read more]

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