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  • Dear anita,

    I’ve read your advice and, before replying to it, I’ve been thinking about it for several hours.

    As you said, the first thing I should do is to accept my feelings, that I can’t choose. That part is the one that helped me the most, it’s something that (even if I knew it) I needed to be said to me. I know that my bf would never accept…[Read more]

  • Dear anita,

    thank you, I’ll be also offline since here it’s already midnight. Regarding your questions:

    * By healing I mean forgetting about him. I really wouldn’t like to cut contact with Y (I’d prefer to use another way to call him but I can’t post other people´s names around), but as long as I keep talking to him I’ll miss him and feel de…[Read more]

  • Dear anita,

    thank you, I’ll be also offline since here it’s already midnight. Regarding your questions:

    * By healing I mean forgetting about him. I really wouldn’t like to cut contact with Y (I’d prefer to use another way to call him but I can’t post other people´s names around), but as long as I keep talking to him I’ll miss him and feel de…[Read more]

  • My question is:

    choose my boyfriend, cut contact with Y  and keep trying to forget him

    or

    break up with my boyfriend, cut contact with Y and heal. Start from zero, since all my early memories with my bf are linked to Y somehow.

    I know both option will hurt terribly, but I won’t be able to keep secretly texting or meeting Y forever. It hurts all of us.

  • My question is, should I

    A) choose my boyfriend, cut contact with Y  and keep trying to forget him

    or

    B) break up with my boyfriend, cut contact with Y and heal?  Start from zero, since all my early memories with my bf are linked to Y somehow.

    I know both options will hurt terribly, but I won’t be able to keep secretly texting or meeting Y for…[Read more]

  • My question is:

    choose my boyfriend, cut contact with Y  and keep trying to forget him

    or

    break up with my boyfriend, cut contact with Y and heal. Start from zero, since all my early memories with my bf are linked to Y somehow.

    I know both option will hurt terribly, but I won’t be able to keep secretly texting or meeting Y forever. It hurts both of us.

  • Yes, in fact I’ve never felt guilty because of my feelings but because of keeping secrets and telling lies. But just the idea of breaking contact with any of them makes me cry. I think about the future, being 90 years old and wondering if they are still alive.

    As you asked, my relationship would be much easier with my current boyfriend, sooner or…[Read more]

  • Yes, in fact I’ve never felt guilty because of my feelings but because of keeping secrets and telling lies. But just the idea of breaking contact with any of them makes me cry. I think about the future, being 90 years old and wondering if they are still alive.

    As you asked, my relationship would be much easier with my current boyfriend, sooner or…[Read more]

  • Dear anita,

    Thank yoh for your quick reply, is exactly as you said. But my relationship with my boyfriend is not cause of practicality, I truly love him. But still have strong feelings for this other guy.

    Ps: he doesn’t own the company, his boss met me once and he called me for working during summer.

  • Hello, I’ve been following these forum for months because you guys give such good advices and send so much peace it helps me to calm down a lot. I need help with this 2 years TV drama- story that is really driving me nuts. If someone could take their time to advice me I’d be really thankful. I apologize in advance for the length. I haven’t talk a…[Read more]

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