“If pleasures are greatest in anticipation, just remember that this is also true of troubles.” ~Elbert Hubbard
The other day I had to get some moles removed after a biopsy showed they were “severely atypical.” Since they were both on my back, I laid on my stomach while the doctor’s assistant numbed the areas with lidocaine.… Read More
“An unhurried sense of time is in itself a form of wealth.” ~Bonnie Friedman
Have you ever felt controlled by time?
This has been a lifelong challenge for me. Sometimes it can be difficult for me to truly immerse myself in the present, because I can feel constricted by imaginary strings, tethered to an invisible clock.… Read More
“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” ~Henry David Thoreau
Every now and then, I get an email from someone telling me I should attend or speak at some conference that attracts lots of passionate bloggers, or inspiring people interested in personal development.… Read More
“Get out of your head and get into your heart. Think less, feel more.” ~Osho
Have you ever felt attached to your thoughts—like you knew you were thinking yourself in circles, but a part of you wanted to keep getting dizzy?
Now that I’m healthy and energized, three months after my surgery, I’m developing a consistent yoga practice again—and I’m feeling better mentally and physically as a result of doing that.… Read More
“Joy in looking and comprehending is nature’s most beautiful gift.” ~Albert Einstein
As I was walking to my apartment just now, I heard the voice of a child who was walking in the same direction with an adult across the street.
With his enthusiastic, high-pitched voice he asked, “Remember we went on a plane?… Read More
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
Growing up I often heard the phrase “You shouldn’t care so much.”
Derivatives of this idea included: So what if they’re talking about you. Who cares what they think? He’s a jerk; why do you care about him? You’re your own person; why do you care about what she’s doing?… Read More
“Never underestimate the power of passion.” ~Eve Sawyer
Last week, I began writing my second book. I originally intended to start a month ago, but life got in the way, as it often does.
In order to make my September deadline, I’ll need to maintain a high level of output and adhere to a fairly rigid schedule.… Read More
“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” ~Cicero
Since I write about overcoming adversity, I receive a lot of emails and blog comments from readers seeking advice.
When I first started this site, I promised myself I’d never tell readers not to email seeking feedback. I’d seen this type of disclaimer on other blogs, and I decided I wanted to do things differently.… Read More
“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~from my book, Tiny Buddha
A while back, my friends and I dealt with a challenging situation that profoundly affected all of us, including one friend who struggles with intense anxiety.
While I’m usually a proponent of giving specifics, I’d rather not call her out publicly, so suffice it to say it was a hard time, and everyone felt the weight of it.… Read More
“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments.” ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
There was a time when I was full of angst, and desperate to unleash it.
Since I felt misunderstood in some of my relationships, I’d fight battles I knew I wouldn’t win and then only consider letting go after a mini emotional break down.… Read More
“Actions speak louder than words, but not nearly as often.” ~Mark Twain
A while back, I wrote a blog post about giving people the benefit the doubt, and suggested, as I often do, that people rarely intend to be hurtful.
Someone wrote in the comments that I’ve obviously never encountered a sociopath.… Read More
“If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” ~Lyndon Johnson
A while back, I told a friend that I try to follow the old adage “Treat people how you wanted to be treated.” He responded that he tries to treat people how they want to be treated.… Read More
“When mistrust comes in, love goes out.” ~Irish saying
An old friend of mine felt betrayed by her boyfriend, but chose not to leave him. Instead, she made him pay for it over and over again.
Through subtle digs and less subtle slights, she repeatedly expressed that she felt contempt for him.… Read More
“Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are.” ~Jose Ortega y Gassett
Have you ever suddenly stopped yourself after realizing you’d been dwelling on something insignificant for way too long?
Maybe it was something that didn’t go right in your day, or something mildly offensive that someone said.… Read More
“If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.” ~Lau Tzu
In the Pixar movie Up, Carl and Ellie save all their lives to visit Paradise Falls, only to realize they’re never able to save enough. Every time they build a substantial nest egg, life happens and they need to spend it.… Read More
“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown
In the past, whenever I heard someone say that relationships take effort, I assumed it was a person who wasn’t in a happy one.
When it’s right, it shouldn’t feel like work; it should be effortless—or so I thought, ironically, in a time when I had few relationships.… Read More
“When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better.” ~Unknown
There are certain relationships that we don’t want to end; we just want them to improve.
Sometimes it might seem like that will only happen if someone else starts acting differently—with more kindness, respect, thoughtfulness, compassion, understanding, or consideration.… Read More
“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today.” ~Michelle C. Ustaszeski
Most of us are really good at finding reasons to wait.
We wait to call good friends we miss because we assume we’ll have plenty of time.
We wait to tell people how we really feel because we hope it will someday feel safer.… Read More
“I’ve discovered that you can’t change people. They can change themselves.” ~Jim Rohn
We all want to be loved and accepted, just as we are. We want people to honor our interests, value our needs, and respect our choices in life.
So why, then, do we expect other people to sacrifice theirs for us?… Read More
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.” ~Unknown
At the end of my first long-term relationship in college, when it was clear there was nothing left to salvage, I told a mutual friend that I “had to make it work.”
The idea of moving on seemed incomprehensible.… Read More