“Appreciation is an excellent thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us, as well.” -Voltaire There’s work to do. And things to accomplish. And places to get to. And people to please. There’s futures to create. And pasts to forget. And an endless string of days full of hours to be filled. We often spend then running, fantasizing, or waiting, hoping it eventually turns into something good enough. Something worth valuing, something worth appreciating, something worth enjoying. If we’re not deliberate, we can easily live life hopping from distraction to distraction, biding our time for something better.
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“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~Paul Boese Sometimes resentment and anger may seem involuntary, like reactions you have to indulge for a length of time proportionate to how badly you were wronged. It might even feel like your anger is a justified retaliation, and you’d be weak if you let it go. The irony is that after we’ve been hurt, we choose to continue hurting ourselves. Bitterness never feels good, no matter where it’s rooted. Psychologists suggest that when other people make mistakes, we tend to assign them character flaws (i.e.: he’s selfish,
“We must never forget that it is through our actions, words, and thoughts that we have a choice.” -Sogyal Rinpoche Nothing is as discouraging as feeling you don’t have a choice—that you’re trapped in a situation you can’t change, with a person who won’t change, or with feelings about yourself that you’ve stopped believing you can change. We’ve all been there before. We’ve accepted thankless jobs just to make ends meet. We’ve hurt or watched friends hurting, feeling powerless to end the pain. We’ve waited for love, or mourned unrequited love, or wondered if it was really better to have
“What matters is the value we’ve created in our lives, the people we’ve made happy and how much we’ve grown as people.” ~Daisaku Ikeda We spend so much of our lives looking for meaning—a sense that it all makes sense or will in the end—that we sometimes drive ourselves crazy trying to make the moment good enough. To do the right work, have the right relationships, make the right decisions, make the right impact so hopefully our lives will matter. We’ll matter. All that struggling, striving, and racing toward something better can make the moment feel like something to escape
“Love is loving things that sometimes you don’t like.” ~Ajahn Brahm The most challenging part of relationships is learning to accept people for who they are—knowing all their quirks, insecurities, and weaknesses and choosing to simply let them be. Psychologists suggest that once we form an idea, we develop an emotional attachment that makes it extremely difficult to abandon it. We feel convinced that our way is the right way and feel an imperative to sway other people accordingly, particularly people who are close to us. The irony is that this tends to push people further away. It’s hard to
“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” ~Buddha One of the greatest misconceptions in life is that we are somehow powerless to let go of what’s behind us. That we have to carry regret, shame, or disappointment, and that is has to dictate how today will unfold, at least on some level. It doesn’t. At any moment, you can let go of who you’ve been and decide to be someone new—to do something differently. It won’t always be easy, but it is always a choice you can make. You can either dwell and stay stuck, or