“Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.” -Theophrastus
There are certain things I don’t want to do that I sometimes feel I should.
Case in point: A lot of people who run blogs similar to Tiny Buddha eventually begin coaching, running seminars, and offering eCourses on personal development.… Read More
“Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” -Theodore Roethke
Sometimes people submit posts and I swear I could have written them myself. In reading their stories—learning about the emotions they’re feeling and the pain they’re healing—I feel close to them; and I also develop a better understanding of myself and what I need to do to keep growing.… Read More
“Sometimes questions are more important than answers.” -Nancy Willard
A friend of mine once told me she frequently asked herself, “When is the other shoe going to drop?”
Whenever things were going well for her, she braced herself for an impending fall so that it wouldn’t be too devastating when things changed, as they often do.… Read More
“Man stands in his own shadow and wonders why it’s dark.” -Zen Proverb
I’ve recognized that I come to my computer to write for one of two reasons:
Either I feel the need to explore something that’s relevant to my life, and in doing so, start a conversation about it; or there’s something bothering me that I haven’t fully addressed, and I’m hoping the conversation will make me feel better about it.… Read More
“Your belief determines your action and your action determines your results, but first you have to believe.” -Mark Victor Hansen
In my early 20s, I got involved with a pyramid scheme that I mistook for an ethical company.
I didn’t realize it at first, but most people were only pretending to make money because they believed they eventually would.… Read More
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.” –Robert Gary Lee
In a college acting class, my teacher had my peers surround me in a circle so that I could toss my body in various directions, while improvising a scene based on my past. She did this because I had no access to my feelings about certain events.… Read More
“If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” -Oprah Winfrey
When I’m not working on Tiny Buddha, I write for ‘tween girls, both as a contributor for a magazine and a ghost writer for a website.
Recently, I wrote several blog posts about the holiday season.… Read More
“The use of money is all the advantage there is in having it.” –Benjamin Franklin
I just came back from the dentist where I learned I need $1,400 worth of dental work, and it’s largely because I failed to make a $100 investment last year.
My former dentist had informed me my teeth were worn down from me grinding them in my sleep.… Read More
“Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised.” -Denis Waitley
The other day I was watching reruns of a show I’ve recently found and now love. In one scene, the main character talked about the “perfect moment” that never came to be—an isolated point in time when things would have worked exactly as he imagined they would, and as a result, there would only be positive consequences to his choices.… Read More
“Anger always comes from frustrated expectations.” -Elliott Larson
Before I left for my two-week holiday family visit, I asked my boyfriend to wash our sheets before I returned. I hoped to come home to a clean, organized apartment, with everything as I left it. That is not, however, how things panned out.… Read More
“Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.” –Hausa Proverb
Last year, someone asked me in an interview what I’d say to myself, from 10 years ago, if I could meet that person now. I said something along the lines of, “Be good to yourself—you’re doing the best you can.”
She then asked what I’d say to myself 50 years in the future, if I could meet that version of me now.… Read More
“Suffering is not caused by pain but by resisting pain.” -Unknown
The other day I was watching TV when one of those pharmaceutical commercials came on.
You know, the kind that shows a blissful looking woman running through a field of flowers while a voiceover extols the virtues of some drug—and then concludes with a list of possible side effects, including tremors, agitation, drowsiness, nausea, diarrhea, hair loss, blurred vision, night sweats, blood clot, stroke, and in some cases, death.… Read More
“Never let your sense of morals prevent you from doing what’s right.” -Isaac Asimov
Last week a woman emailed me to let me know she holds the copyright for a photo someone submitted for the Life’s Hard Questions contest.
She told me she took the picture of an ex-friend, who we’ll call Tina, using Tina’s camera when they were on vacation, before they had a falling out—and now she wants the photo removed and Tina disqualified from the contest.… Read More
“Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.” -Voltaire
Last week I got sick. Really sick. Head-spinning, stomach-retching, body-trembling sick, and just before the holidays, while visiting my family.
I completed a radio interview for my book through a brain fog so thick my thoughts felt trapped in quick sand.… Read More
“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Recently, a blogger I admire wrote a long note on a social media site identifying blogging practices he finds annoying—and referring to bloggers who utilize them as “fundamentally wrong.” Some of them are things I also choose not to do, but not all of them.… Read More
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.” ~Carl Jung
The other day someone I love, who we’ll call Tania, got in a massive fight with her boyfriend. She called me to explain the situation, and ultimately got frustrated because I wouldn’t agree that he was not only wrong, but also a jerk.… Read More
“Don’t let the past hold you back; you’re missing the good stuff.” -Unknown
There have been times when I’ve regretted that I missed out on so much when I was younger.
Because I held onto pain so tightly, I missed out on countless opportunities for fun while sitting alone and feeling bad for myself.… Read More
“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today.” -Michelle C. Ustaszeski
Familiarity can sometimes seem like permanence. Oftentimes the more comfortable we are with someone, the less effort we put into our time with them.
As I’ve mentioned before, I visit my family on the east coast several times each year for two weeks at a time.… Read More
“Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it.” –Winston Churchill
Have you ever purposely chosen to do something you felt resistant to doing? I do this occasionally because I recognize I sometimes limit myself by being inflexible.
I can be a creature of habit, particularly when it comes to situations that make me feel in control.… Read More
“You are your choices.” -Seneca
It sounds like such a cliché to say that most of what we’re seeking is already within us, but nonetheless, it’s true.
Happiness doesn’t only exist in some perfect tomorrow when our circumstances look ideal. It’s a moment-to-moment choice that has to do with how we perceive and respond to what’s in front of us.… Read More