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    I met this guy on tinder a few months back. There was an instant connection on his end (secretly on mine too). I was incredibly closed off but still he was smitten and drawn to me. I knew I liked him from the beginning and that scared me.

    Anyway we finally met in person and I would say it was love at sight for me. Of course he didn’t know that. We had a great first date. I ended up at his place (classy I know lol) Nothing really happened except making out.

    Second date: We had sex. I knew we were. I really wanted to. I really liked him and he liked me. Before we had sex i disclosed that I have HSV2. He was okay with it.

    FYI- No condoms were ever used (Stupid)

    We started seeing each other every week. 1-2 times. I was still somewhat closed off but a tad bit more open. I met his daughter. She liked me. She would ask about me.

    I told him I wanted to see him more and he totally agreed.

    From one day to the next(LITERALLY), things were different. I brought it up and that’s when he told me that he experienced symptoms for HSV2. I was so upset for him. He wanted space. I took it sooo personal. I didn’t see him as much. But we were still in contact. I was super hot and cold about keeping contact. After a month or so I noticed things weren’t changing. So i broke up with him. It may seem insensitive because he thought he had gotten an STD but the communication on his end just wasn’t there. I am an understanding person, but i wasnt getting anything!

    I recently found out that he didn’t get HSV2 and that his being clean is NOT whats keeping him from me.

    We still stayed in contact. He wanted to stay friends, I was on the fence about that.

    We wouldn’t speak for a month and I would initiate contact. Then we would go another month without speaking and again I would initiate contact. That has been going on for months. I feel kind of stupid cause his behavior is clearly telling me he doesn’t care. But he will tell me that he misses me. That I’m great and terrific. I dont get it.

    I till this day am shocked and confused about what happened. He asked me to be his GF he wanted the relationship. I feel like he knocked on the door and when I opened no one was there. So when I initiate contact after some time its to see where his head is at, because I would like to be with him. When he isnt distant and aloof hes really a great guy. It’s not like me to chase after a man. It never has been. But this guy has me hooked.

    FYI, we broke up in April. I have NOT stopped living my life. I have dated/dating. Going to the gym and whatnot, but I cant get over him.

    I asked him out for drinks. Was that stupid of me? AM I WASTING MY TIME? DO I LOOK RIDICULOUS?

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    Lucinda
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    #116794
    Anonymous
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    Dear thissucks:

    If I understand correctly, he believed for a while that he caught the virus from you. Then he found out that he didn’t. Maybe he got very scared and since his scare, even though he was not infected, he associates you with the fear he experienced intensely. If this is so, fear is a strong motivational force keeping people away from perceived danger. If this is the case, I think you are wasting your time with him.

    anita

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