April 23, 2013 at 8:53 am #34403
Reading this tiny buddha post made me think a lot about love: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/you-have-to-know-what-kind-of-love-you-deserve-to-attract-it/
I wondered what other people here felt about it. I feel like I know what kind of love I would like, know the kind and degree of love I can give, but I haven’t attracted it into my life (romantically) in the way I have hoped, despite experiencing relationships. Is it just a matter of waiting for it? Or of being more careful in making sure that the person you’re with is the kind of person who is both willing and able to give the love you deserve and the love you will return?
April 25, 2013 at 8:54 pm #34826
I enjoy that post as well and I find this post http://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-tips-to-recognize-and-honor-your-needs-in-relationships/ is equally important.
I really think its a combination of being at that place in your life where you are balanced emotionally and finding that right guy as well. Its all about chance but change is for the ready!
Granted we can wait around for that love, we also have to actively put ourselves out there and search (I know…lol it seems contradicting to wait but to search as well).
I think as a women this day and age its very important to state our needs and if he is a honest worthy guy then he will tell you whether or not he can meet your needs/is on the same page and looking for the same thing. Maybe is not an answer, it really means no.
Just keep in mind that you deserve the best and he is out there waiting for you
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April 30, 2013 at 8:27 am #34977
It sounds like you are ready, have a close look at your circle of friends and extended friends…be yourself..be open to new opportunities and above all love yourself. I believe in fate and love will come and wrap its arms round you when you and they are ready.You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
April 30, 2013 at 9:14 am #34981
Wow I just stumbled upon Lori’s Wanderlust presentation and became intrigued. I just read her article, “How to Let Go of a Past Relationship…” and I joined this forum in hopes of making new connections online. I have been divorced twice and have 2 early-ten daughters. My latest divorce ended 3 years ago and since then I have consciously chosen to work on myself and put dating on hold. So now I feel like I’ve done the work, and I’m ready for the reward. I want to be loved again, and how do I get it?You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
May 7, 2013 at 8:05 am #35202
I agree with anne – its not just about waiting for that right person to come – we have to do stuff to meet people. E.g., I try new activities every time I have a chance for it (or willfully make chances for it), signed up on several dating sites a couple of days ago, and told everyone I know they should bear in mind I’m looking for a boyfriend.
And when atually meeting new people I suggest knowing your own worth and letting the people unfold: first dates are all about fun, then you do more examining whether YOU find that person interesting instead of putting effort to be liked, at the same keeping your good traits visible. What is most important is not to go chasing after love, cause that might get you into relationships you would not to be in (and believe me, I do know what I’m talking about:)).You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
October 5, 2013 at 8:07 pm #43284
I don’t know…From my experience, everytime I put forth the effort to look for a relationship (dating websites, etc.), it really never amount to anything. It is when I just let go and just focus on my life that someone pops up out of nowhere.You must be logged in to reply to this topic.