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    I’ve just come back from a holiday in New York as part of a university trip. I was quite down when I got there, struggling to comprehend why but I settled on thinking it was possibly a sense of underwhelming. I’d dreamed of going to New York forever and I felt like perhaps I hadn’t experienced the magic of it that I saw on screen.

    My life dream is to live and work in different places all over the world, so I guess the reason I was so down was because this had sort of shattered my dreams.

    So I was dealing with that. But on the third day I met a guy. He served me in the NY Public Library gift store and he complimented my shirt (‘Dundler Mifflin’ – The Office US). We started talking about the show and Community etc. and really hit it off. I left the shop blushing and in such a good mood and full of confidence, so decided to go back in and ask for his details. As I was visiting from the UK, I felt like I needed an excuse so I said I was thinking of moving out there (not a total lie). He gave me his Soundcloud and his number. I tried texting but my phone didn’t work so I called him (with another ‘excuse’ about finding a restaurant) but before I’d even asked, he invited me to a gig he was tech-ing at. He asked for my number and suggested I added his friend on Facebook to stay in touch. I later worked out how to text him and politely declined his offer as it was late and none of my friends could come with me. So I asked him if he wanted to meet for a cup of coffee the next day.

    Well, the next day, he took me all over NY. To parks, markets, record and book stores. And we even snuck up on the roof of one of the NYU buildings. And all this time, we really hit it off. He has hilarious and I had such a great time with him. That day was everything I felt I was missing in past relationships. I was beaming for the rest of the day and thanked him by text after getting his email. He told me to stay in touch.

    Since then, we’ve exchanged one or two emails, which is great. He seems interested to keep in touch and he’s gonna sort out his Skype, too.

    So my problem really is how I’m feeling. I have a mix. I feel like I should be 100% happy, and I kinda am. I’m really smitten and keep telling everyone but part of me keeps thinking I don’t like him (and I don’t like thinking that way). It feels like my brain telling me I don’t like him so I don’t get hurt. Is this possible? And I keep worrying I like him more than he likes me, which is an obvious worry for anyone. I’m not really worried about long-distance because it becomes what it becomes. I’m just not comfortable with my feelings towards him. Maybe it’s my rational mind vs. my romantic mind?

    There’s no real question but it’d be great to hear some general advice about how I handle my FEELINGS about the whole situation.

    Thanks,

    Daisy

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