April 10, 2017 at 4:19 pm #144461
I don’t know if this helps, but when I met my partner he was just out of a long relationship and after a few months it was obvious he was not ready to be involved again. I let him go. I asked him not to contact me. We both dated other people. After two years he came back to me. We have now been together for 12 years in a wonderful relationship. He is the love of my life. Of course I’m not saying you will have the exact same experience, but letting him go was one of the best decisions I ever made.April 11, 2017 at 3:49 am #144513
You should give him space. Act confidently or just fake it. Confidence is the new beauty. When he ask for you guys to hang out , if you are busy tell him you are busy. And anytime you decide to hang out dont talk about the relationship just act normal. He will talk about i assure you. Then and there give him your conditions. Just give him space and dont talk about any relationship. Just be calm
#YouDerserveABetterLifeApril 11, 2017 at 8:33 am #144545
DAVID ROGER KATESParticipant
Absolutely talk to him about that relationship whenever he should bring the subject up. If he is n`t quite over her running away fro that/being in denial of that fact always makes it far worse. Provision of support where it is most needed is the route to enduring relationships, and it is also the place of genuine love.April 13, 2017 at 6:36 pm #144959
His honesty is an evidence that he truly loves you. Give him freedom to do his responsibility of his job. Long distance relationship may not ruin your relationship, just have a constant communication and always show that you trust him.April 15, 2017 at 4:20 am #145207
Think of it like the Markets. The less there is, the more value it gets. The more there is of something, the less value.
Right now, you want to have more value in his eyes so make less of yourself to him and get on with your life so he can see that you aren’t clinging to him.
One thing about a man is that if he wants you, he will make a move towards you. Running after him in any way will just lower your value to him.
I know it all sounds horrible that we are like this but it is true. Especially, if he is on the fence. A man wants to capture his women. Let him do it. Good luck!April 15, 2017 at 9:30 am #145249
DAVID ROGER KATESParticipant
m male and I function reverse wise so Im not sure I
d quite consider such a tactic as being a philosophical affirmation. I believe it is both dependant upon the individual male, and his/their actual circumstances. Younger men taking an interest in you often does no harm in the right hands. Training harder, and living healthier, this tends to be positive. Ignore him too much and he might even lose interest/decide that your relationship is nt satisfactory, so it`s high risk playing around there.April 27, 2017 at 3:08 pm #147037
“His honesty is an evidence that he truly loves you. Give him freedom to do his responsibility of his job. Long distance relationship may not ruin your relationship, just have a constant communication and always show that you trust him.” -Merriegold
I agree with Merriegold and from what I can tell of your story it shows all the signs of care, and him saying that you’re free to choose someone else if you like is just him being extremely respectful, from what I can tell he doesn’t want to let you go though I could be wrong.
Alongside giving him the time he needs make sure to assure him you understand and that if he ever needs you that he can contact you. Also if you’re able to (but that’s just my way of doing things talking) try to get to the bottom of it. Maybe if you seem interested in knowing what he’s been through he’ll be more than happy to let you in, who knows.