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  • #140541
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    Heartbrokengurl
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    Hi everyone. I’m really struggling at the moment.

    Its now been two months since my break up and two weeks since I moved into my new place.

    This weekend has been the hardest so far. I feel lonely and unlovable. I’m craving male attention like I haven’t in a long time.

    i joined a dating site and I will start to talk to someone then they will just dissapear. That makes me just want to find someone else to talk to right away to fill that hurt and rejection.

    I even tried calling my ex, but he text me and said he’s out.

    im feeling so alone and rejected and don’t know how to just love myself and let things happen as they should without getting anxious or upset about anything.

    #140545
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    Lea
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    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Sorry you find yourself so low at the moment. I don’t think you are ready for another relationship yet. I think you should use this time focusing on YOU and developing other interests.</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>You will meet someone when you are meant to and you will wonder why you worried so much and why you didn’t enjoy this time of your life instead.</p>
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>Read, exercise, visit new places. When you are doing the things you enjoy you will find yourself in a much healthier place and a better position to start a new relationship.</p>

    #140561
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    anita
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    Dear Heartbrokengurl:

    As far as the dating site: not a good idea to get attached to one respondent and to the conversation with him. Converse with multiple men on the site and expect nothing- expect no response from any one of them. Then when someone answers you, re-read the communication with him so far, to refresh your memory, and continue to converse with him. Still expect nothing.

    anita

    #140581
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    Heartbrokengurl
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    Thank you both.  I just wish I could be ok with myself…I just crave that bond and attention.

    I get so caught up in the conversation, and when they stop talking to me I take it so personally, and it makes me doubt myself and my worth.

    I will try to work on my expectations and keep myself busy.

    #140587
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    Lacienaga
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    Hi Heartbrokengirl,

    I think attaching yourself so quickly to people and conversations is causing you harm. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be around people or to be cared for, but you have to regulate your own void. Don’t fill it with people. Now is a great opportunity for you to get to know yourself better and to understand why you feel so lonely and what you absolutely need.

     

    Best of luck!

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