Hey Tiny Buddha,

So I could use some advice. I am currently in college and graduated high school three years ago now. Two of my old high school friends (we’ll call them Evan and Kate) began dating a few months back, and I was very happy for them, especially since Kate was one of my best friends in high school. I had been meaning to set up a get together with both of them, but never was able to get around to it since I live out of town and have school on the weekends. Yesterday, I got on facebook and found out incredibly sad news. Evan passed away a couple of weeks back, and I had no idea. I have already missed the funeral, and would still really like to reach out to Kate since I had fully meant to even before Evan’s passing, but it has been at least a year since we talked. My question is how do I go about this? Do I give my condolences? Should I just wait until more time has passed? I really want to at least say I’m here for her, but I have no idea what she is going through and don’t want to be intrusive either. Please help.