June 24, 2013 at 5:48 am #37405
Just a short while ago, I completed my very own 30 day Sexy, Fit & Fabulous challenge.
At the end of it, I came to realise that I was redefining what sexy meant to me. Most people [media etc.] will relate it to outside appearances: looks, make-up, clothes, weight, shape etc.
The only problem with going along with their beliefs is that you end up miserable trying to keep up because something will always be ‘off': not slim enough, not enough curves, skin isn’t smooth enough, not toned enough, hair not shiny enough; make up not perfect enough; the list goes on…
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong in wanting to wear nice clothes, be a certain weight, wear makeup that looks good , put on nice perfume, get your hair done etc. – I like a lot of that stuff myself but the important thing is to do it because you want to, not because you feel pressured by outside influences. For example, I can’t remember the last time I wore make-up. That doesn’t mean I never will, but if I do, it will be because I just want to.
For me, my new sexy is a woman who bigs herself up, befriends herself, is compassionate and patient towards herself, practices responding as opposed to reacting, listens to her intuition, treats others the way she wishes to be treated, takes more care of herself instead of feeling as though she has to run herself ragged putting every one else first – the happier she is, the more everyone else benefits too, it’s win-win-win for all. Overall, she practices self love and acceptance. By no means easy and not even I have theses things ‘down’ perfectly and probably never will but it’s something I make an effort to practice and if It all goes a bit pear-shaped, I get back on track – no beating myself up allowed.
The outside stuff now comes secondary because i’m fed up with having to try and keep up with being ‘their’ kind of sexy. I now have my own new sexy and it fits me perfectly.
How would you redefine sexy to suit you?
June 24, 2013 at 7:19 am #37410
- This topic was modified 1 year, 8 months ago by Denise.
I’m also very skeptical of how the media pushes beauty ideals, especially for women. When the most beautiful women in the world (actresses and models) are criticized in magazines for wearing something “ugly” or having puffy eyes, what chance do the rest of us have?! We can never be perfect because we are imperfectly human, and perfection is the enemy of greatness anyway.
The pursuit of beauty perfection can consume a person, but in the end beauty fades. I’d rather spend my time and energy in cultivating my mind and soul and health.June 24, 2013 at 1:06 pm #37422
I appreciate your description of the “new sexy”—I can befriend myself, be compassionate and patient, respond instead of react, listen to my intuition, treat others with compassion and kindness, and take good care of myself.
I can also take care of the rest in my own good time. I’m going to think on this some more.
I accept and appreciate and care for my body and mind. And that’s quite sexy!
Many thanks for great discussion topic—you’ve got me thinking!June 28, 2013 at 12:43 am #37535
I agree, drop the idea of being or doing everything perfectly; it just leads to misery.
Thanks for you coment Jade!June 28, 2013 at 12:45 am #37536
Fabulous Midge, you’ve already recognised your own sexiness!