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April 28, 2015 at 8:08 am #75918
Lost GirlParticipantI’ve been wanting to exteriorize what I was feeling a long time ago, but I never did and now I feel so lost and exhausted by my situation… I am living with my family, and my mother and siblings are always asking me what I’m doing with my life, they constantly give me ‘advices’ of the things I should do, what job I should be doing, etc. I don’t talk to my friends anymore for some reasons and I ended up by myself but I’m fine with that because I’m a loner and I love being with myself. Sometimes it’s too much and I feel lonely but I really don’t think it’s their problem and that they should make me feel bad about that because that’s what they do. Constantly. I have anxiety issues and sometimes I have panic attacks and they’re treating me like a kid. They talk about me in front of me as if I wasn’t here, my mum is constantly telling me I should be doing this or going there and I can feel they have pity for me.
The thing is that it’s been a year now that I’m working on a better version of myself, I’m learning from the people I look up to, I’m working on positivity and on my goals and what they don’t know (or they don’t believe I’m going to do) is that I’m planning my move to London within the next two months. I’m really working hard towards that goal because that’s what I want and I’m trying to focus on my plans and all that, I truly believe in my potential to overcome my anxiety, to be a better person and achive my goals, but they’re constantly bringing negativity to the picture when they point the situation I am in right now. I don’t know what to do anymore to push back their negativity because it’s affecting me. I used to brush it off but it’s getting hard since they’re so after me lately…
Please, what you do in this situation? It’s so important for my sanity that I find a way to protect me from their words and behavior until I move out.
Thank you so much.
April 29, 2015 at 3:51 pm #75956
Lela O.ParticipantI have never made a post on here before and even had to reset my password because I’d
I am so proud of you! I was on here feeling similarly when I saw the title of your post. The more I read the more I felt inspired and excited.
You are not at a dead-end. You’re in a cul-de-sac and you’re about to leave the neighborhood. You have worked diligently toward your goals, in an environment that has not been entirely supportive, but you have kept working towards your goals.
I’m impressed. As I said before, I’ve been feeling quite the same as your title, but I’ve not been putting in as much effort into changing my situation as you have.
Thank you for posting this. This is renewing my drive to create a life that I’m proud of and the feel fulfilled in. You have helped me. Thank you.
You said in the next two months you’ll be moving to London. I don’t know where you live now or if that’s close or far from you, but you’re going to make it happen. Even if it takes an extra week longer than expected, you will still do it.
You haven’t given up and you won’t give up and I’m so impressed. I admire you.
I hope you’re having a better day and that this message makes you smile it makes you feel loved because you are lovable and you are awesome. Keep up the good work!
May 3, 2015 at 4:58 am #76065Lost GirlParticipantHi Lela,
You have no idea how much I needed those kind of words. They really comforted me and indeed brought a huge smile to my face, thank you so much.
It’s a very hard situation to live mentally, and I don’t know if that’s what is making my anxiety worse some days or if it’s a natural part of the process.. but even if it’s scary sometimes, I’m trying to hang on to my positive thoughts and mindset the hardest I can, while I visualize myself reaching my goal.
I’m so glad that I inspired and helped you. It profoundly touches me to know that I inspired someone. I hope you’ll find everything you’re looking for. I know you will and you know it too.
My move to London has been somewhat postponed because I’m not receiving the help someone offered when I was going through a tough time, but it’s alright. I’ve been a little disappointed, but I realized it was an opportunity for me to achieve this by myself and in the end I will only be more proud. I didn’t want to let myself dwell on the disappointment because it just shows that we don’t control anything. We just have to go with what’s thrown at us, good or bad, do what we feel like doing about it and learn from it. I’m totally fine with that notion.
Thank you for believing in me, I also believe in your abilities to change your situation if you feel like it’s the best thing to do for you. If you believe in me, you believe in yourself. We all are capable of great things!
Thanks again for your help, support and encouragement, I wish you a great day and send you lots of positivity on your way to a better life!
May 3, 2015 at 11:49 pm #76108
MichelleParticipantEveryone follows a different life path, there is no set way to do things – though society and your family like to tell you so.
This isn’t always trying to be mean, some people just don’t know any other way to go about life, and project that onto others.
I reckon most of it is said from a place of love and worry, so maybe when it is said, just remind them that you’re getting there and that even though they might think it needs to be a certain way, they need to let you find your own.
Good luck with the move, I hope you find some good people to connect with on your travels – I’m sure you will. Travel is built for people like you, we’re not all meant to live our lives in the same place and I’m sure you’ll meet some amazing people to share your experiences with. 🙂May 4, 2015 at 3:29 am #76112Lost GirlParticipantI try to explain to them my vision of life and what I’m doing with it, but they’re always telling me that it’s not life, that it’s not safe, it’s not realistic and so on… that’s why I gave up on explanations, plus I live in a family where dialogue doesn’t exist, it’s just going on way, there’s no exchange.
I don’t know if it’s because of that but lately I’ve been questioning my motives and where I’m going etc. and some days, when I look at my reasoning through some family member’s eyes for example, I find it ridiculous.
Thanks for your encouraging words, I hope staying positive is the right approach and that I’ll find the way to pursue my goal.
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