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  • May 4, 2016 at 10:22 am #103557
    vidalevi
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    Long story short – this happened in a personal/,professional setting.
    Whenever I used to walk down to my office, I always passed one man( stranger) almost every day. We just look at each other n pass off.
    Never smiled or bothered to say Hi.
    Fast forward and I had some issues with my bank and when I went in, I saw the same man sitting there.since it was a professional setting, I told my issues and he replied. Now from then on, I had to go many a times to clear the issues. The thing was what he could have told me and helped me in a day, he sort of made me fo in 4- 5 days together.
    Now, I was thinking that he should at least help me properly not because he has seen me before, but as a customer.
    Also, he used to make me wait and would attend to other customers while talking to me. I was on the verge of complaining to the senior staff.
    Also, from the day he saw me in his office, he ignores me completely while we meet outside. And it is so evident in the way he tries to look away. When I wait for this person to give me solutions he will joke around with his colleagues. He appears very friendly to other customers but when he faces me he has this very serious attitude and he tries to find something wrong the way I do things.
    I would like to know whether I’m judging a person so soon on this behaviour or I expected my work to.be done sooner.

    May 4, 2016 at 6:21 pm #103578
    Anonymous
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    Dear vidalevi:

    I am guessing you are a woman? According to your story it is possible this man had made a negative judgment about you by your looks alone. A guess: something to do with the way you dress, your age, the way you walk perhaps and he made assumptions about you. This may explain his dismissive and hostile behavior toward you. What do you think?

    anita

    May 5, 2016 at 4:36 am #103620
    Inky
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    Hi vidalevi,

    Maybe he thought you were ignoring him when you’d pass by on the way to work. In our commute, we do see “regulars”. Maybe he thought you were snubbing him or didn’t like him. And now he’s taking it out on you at the bank! And sometimes, people just don’t dig each other.

    Yes, talk to his manager. I actually did that when I was a kid and the clerk was giving me a hard time (the bank machine ate my card). I was expected to come back at the end of the day (“Go shopping”) to get it. Meanwhile I had to drive up to college eight hours away. In a panic I complained, the manager snapped his fingers, three guys swept over to the machine and I got my card back in five minutes. The clerk’s face turned pale.

    What do you have to lose?

    Best,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 11 months ago by Inky.
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