Dear jb1996:

When we are scared, we panic- our thinking is in a rush, going many steps ahead when we didn’t take the first step in real life. You didn’t ask a girl out, correct? Yet you fear how she will react seeing you naked.

One step at a time: ask a girl for a light date, nothing late into the night or expensive.. maybe coffee in a coffee place, in public, during day time when the place is not too busy, for a short date. Then you go your own way and she goes her own way. You relax, it is over… wasn’t too bad, most likely and you gain a bit of courage to take another small step, another short date, maybe a walk together, sitting in a park during the day time, watching people walk by and talking.

No need to worry about being seen naked yet or spending a lifetime lonely.

This is the key- take small steps and relax in between those steps. Keep your breathing slow and deep, do aerobic exercise so to relax and set those easier to execute small steps.

Somewhere along the execution of those small steps, you can talk about your fears and her fears (they exist too)- and how you can help each other with those fears. When you build good communication with an empathetic young woman, for the benefit of the two of you, you no longer have to be afraid alone. Together, your fear- and hers- will diminish.

One little step at a time, breathe and slow down the rushing/ panicking brain.

anita

You are welcome, jb1996. Two points about approaching a future relationship with a woman: one small step at a time and do it together, both of you sharing your fears and helping each other through.

anita