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    Rogue
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    I have been going out with a young man for a year now. He wants to take things slowly, but I feel like I’m already so into him. I get angry when he doesn’t reply to my messages on time. I get angry when he doesn’t pick my call. I get angry when he changes his plan to come and spend time with me. I sometimes even doubt that he is going out with other girls, and get upset over that. I told him recently that I’m possessive about him, and he told me he doesn’t like it. I’m very confused on how I can change that in me. Please give me your suggestions

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    Inky
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    Hi Rogue,

    The way not to be possessive about him is to change your mind about him. It sounds like he has consistently blown you off. Once you stop texting, calling, hoping, talking, and wishing he might become better. Let him take the lead from now on.

    Best,

    Inky

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    Hi Rogue- I used to be the same way. My scenario was that my then boyfriend did not really want to rush things. As for me, I secretly wanted to get married before the age of thirty. I was 29, we were dating for three years and I felt it was finally time to tie the knot. He did not think so. As a last resort, I bought this book about how to get him to want to marry you. Basically what it involved was not answering all his phone calls, playing a little bit hard to get and also saying no if he asks you out the same day. Like, if it was Monday morning and at lunch he asked you out to dinner. Apparently, ‘having other plans’ will cause him to yearn for you better. Well, it worked and here I am today, married to him 🙂 P.S. very cool username..

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    Hi Rogue- I used to be the same way. My scenario was that my then boyfriend did not really want to rush things. As for me, I secretly wanted to get married before the age of thirty. I was 29, we were dating for three years and I felt it was finally time to tie the knot. He did not think so. As a last resort, I bought this book that someone on BetterHelp mentioned about how to get him to want to marry you. Basically what it involved was not answering all his phone calls, playing a little bit hard to get and also saying no if he asks you out the same day. Like, if it was Monday morning and at lunch he asked you out to dinner. Apparently, ‘having other plans’ will cause him to yearn for you better. Well, it worked and here I am today, married to him 🙂 P.S. very cool username..  By the way, I was feeling as if I was almost going to suffer from clinical depression when things turned around for me! lol

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