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  • #55180
    Albana
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    Dear Lunarforest,

    Thanks thanks thanks for finding your time to share your sincere opinions with me.

    i consider you a good friend from now and on…

    its funny because the link that i sent you,i read it everymorning to feel better and yes i do but you know we have our moments…

    i talked with my boss and actually he gave me 1 week off but i didnt because at home i wont do anything else than think about him.

    You live in Canada,lucky you. I come from a very small country( Albania) i live in the capital (Tirana) and i really do not have the opportunities that you have,and believe what im saying. I live in a city with poor mentality, the only entertainment that we have is only and only bars and clubs,and im bored with this kind of lifestyle.Within 2 hours you have visited Tirana.
    Good luck on your exams and please focus on your career.Im sorry because my english its not very good but i have i could speak in my language would be more easy to write and express my thoughts.
    Ive finished the faculty of Economy here and now im looking for a schoolarship to go abroad even for just one year,and start a new life.
    Emmmm,another advice i dont know if this may help to you:
    since i broke up with my ex befor i sleep i watch only cartoons,i like the colours and it makes me feel better and sleep better.
    For example you can watch: FROZEN,DESPICABLE ME,HOTEL TRANSYLVANIA ECT…
    And yes its my pleasure too talking with you
    Good luck on your exams,put a smile on your face and just be grateful(as in the link) that you have people around you closer friends or even friends like me who respect you for who you are.

    #55181
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Please help because I think we’re in same situation or mine is really worst. I’m 18 yrs old male
    Year ago, I have many problems. I have personal issues w/ my mother , my classmate and w/ my self bcus I was in a state of Identity crisis that time. I like her (my GF) and I love her and I tried everything for our relationship to be just OK. But my problems really interferes our relationship. We promise together that no matter what happened. We will fight for it. But she gave up. 🙁 I hate her for giving up on me. But I love her more than life itself! She never gave me a chance to make things right. She said she can’t take it anymore. She doesn’t love me and if I love her, I let her go. She blocked me on Facebook. She changed number and went somewhere far. I heard she’s OK now, happy and found new love. and it really broke my Heart. I love her so much and I need her! I tried to Let go, to move on and forget her but I can’t cus I need her. We promised that we Love each other forever.. what should I do??

    #55182
    Albana
    Participant

    Hey Jefferson,

    First please you need to calm down and be more positive and have a high esteem about yourself.

    Im really sorry about your situation in your family and of course with your Gf…

    Did you read the entire converstation of mine with the other friends here? You have tried to make your relationship work but still she is not with you right? She may love you now and forever but in this kind of situation i think that would be better to let her go for a period. What she did,to block you from fb and change the number for me its a little bit immature(sorry to say that) Maybe she did this because she is angry or maybe she find this way to go away because she knows you love her very much and she knows you are going to say that by messages or phone calls ect. Please try to not be weak and whats more important dont be in front of her because you will lose the chance to come back with her(if in the future) Try to respect her desicion,think that you have done everything you could but dont tread on yourself. See,when i broke up with my boyfriend and he says to me all those bad words,inside of me i was just crushed but in front of him i tried not to cry too much and be diplomat.He gave up on me too but what can i do? IF you force things everything will be worst,BELIEVE ME!!!!
    What you should do? hmmm,thats a very delicate question…1.DO NOT CONTACT HER(PLEASEEE DO THAT)
    2. DO NOT ASK ABOUT HER 3. FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE,SCHOOL,FRIENDS,FAMILY.
    When did you broke up with her??
    Courage,you are young,you will have other chances to meet the right person.
    In my first experience(your age) i have a 3 years relationship,i considered him love of my life the first and the last man but it turns out that he wasnt…He cheated on me,my friend told me that and do you know what i did??? we broke up by phone,i wished him all the best and neveeeeeeer contacted him. And do you know what happened? after a year he came to meet me,to see me though he was engaged with the same girl he cheated on me. He apologized and asked for a second chance but it was too late because i didnt feel nothing and i laughed because i knew that this would happened.So,you should do the same,LET HER GO AND MOVE ON,TIME HEALS EVERYTHING AND YOU ARE A VERY YOUNG BOY TO DESTROY YOURSELF.I know you are broken hearted and maybe my advices will not help you but if she moved on and found a new boyfriend what are you waiting for???

    #55183
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    So I read your Convo w/ Lunarforest and it helps me so much . I realized that I’ve never talked to anyone about this matter because I have no other bestfriends to talk to except her, and because I thought I can handle this alone. wow ! Thank God I found this site and your Discussion about this matter. It helped me so much and I learned a lot by just reading your discussion w/ Lunarforest. Thank you for making me realized that I am not alone. I’ve been too stupid about this but you made my Brain function. thank you so much !

    #55184
    Albana
    Participant

    Im very happy to read that you feel better,

    You are welcome to share and express your feeling here with all of us.

    Next time i want to read that you are happy and found a new beautiful and good girlfriend

    Now,put a smile on your face and live your life in the best way you can.

    We will have our moments,remind our ex g/b but day by day im sure and i hope that everything will be better.

    I wish that everyday to myself because i had a very horrible period but im trying really hard to be positive.

    #55185
    Ray
    Participant

    Hi Albana,
    Thanks for your advices. I also take you as my friend. I believe with the time goes by, both of us will feel better and better. I would be happy if we can gradually forget our past and embrace our new life in the future. You can also reach me on lunarforest@163.com. We can share some happy time in our life rather than drown in the breakup.:)

    #55187
    Ray
    Participant

    Hi Jefferson,
    I really can understand you feeling right now. If you have read my story, you will know that. You had faith in your relationship, you believed she also had, but she failed you. You wanted to do anything for her, but she just ignored you and blocked you. I was exactly in the same situation as yours. I was also blocked by my ex. But you can always find a way to reach her, but what’s the point?

    You’re so young. You’re only 18. I’m 100% sure that you will find a better one in your time. I know at this moment all you want is to get her back. But there’s simply nothing you can do that can change her mind. Focus on yourself! Try to forgive yourself. I know when things are worse, it usually become worse and worse. You have so many shitty things in your life and you just can’t get rid of them. But you should try to find a positive way to face the life. Take every frustration as an opportunity for growth. Have a bigger picture. In many years later, when you have got through all this and look back, you will be grateful that you have experience so much that makes you become a positive, strong and tough guy.

    Although I think you still have a chance to get her back, you should just move on this time. Don’t hold any hope. Fate will come eventually. No matter who’s the next one in your life, you should get ready for her. Improve yourself!

    #55224
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    I really feel better now . to be Fair for us. Someday , she’ll realize what she’d lost or I realize that I don’t need her.

    #55233
    Annie Le
    Participant

    Hi Albana
    I think we had the same situation. I am trying to how to get back my boy friends. I just broken up 2 months ago.
    We had 3 year for relationship but 1/2 time is a long distance.
    He is working in Japan, I am working in Shanghai, China. 2 months ago he suddently sent email to me and told me, he doen’t has feeling with me anymore. I am not the person he wants. But He is very like my personality. He taked with his best friend, I am a good girl. If he give up me, maybe he never can meet other girl looklike me. We are from a difference countries. I am from vietnam, he is from china, but now i am working and living in china. Because I am keep waiting he will back china someday. He is younger than me 3 years. Maybe because of age problem. I already bought a plane ticket and will go to his place on June of 21. Because his birthday on june of 21. I will take a plance come his place and trying how to get he back .
    I don’t know what happen when I am going to for looking him in japan. I can’t speak japanese, My English is very poor. I can speak vietnamese and chinese only. even I don’t know where he lives in okinawa, Japan….:(…but I still want to go there for looking him and want to talk with him. all of my friends said I am a crazy girl, because it’s dangerous for me.
    I don’t want to let him know I am going to for looking him until i come japan.
    I am waiting for my plane going to see him in Japan.

    I realy understand your feeling…I don’t know how to say because I has been read lunaforest’s comment. He already said everything.

    Hope can talk with u…and i very glad if can make friend with u…

    but by the way, U need to go hangout with friends everytime , pls don’t stay at home alone. If u can, I suggestion u should go to travel some where. welcome you go china…

    Take care by yourself and good luck to you.

    Annie

    #55241
    Ray
    Participant

    Hi Annie,
    I feel so sorry about your story. I think you’re a romantic and courageous girl. You must be deeply hurt, heartbroken and despaired now. You don’t know the reason for breakup. You can’t give up a relationship that took you 3 years to invest and keep. I Will share my story to you. My ex lives in another city 3 hrs away. She broke up with me just before Vday. So I made the full preparation to meet her in her place. But I didn’t tell her I would come. The valentine’s night, which was the worst in my life, I kept waiting for her at her place for the whole night and she didn’t show up. The next day she told me she was out of town…I didn’t get a chance to see her or even have a call with her.

    I really appreciate your courage to fly to Japan to visit your bf. However, the fact is that he won’t be moved by your action. If he decided to break up, there must be some reason. Since you’ve been together for 3 years, the reason must come from many issues in your life rather than just one simple thing. Another fact is that you can not change his mind by doing something. Only he can decide his mind. If he feels regret in the future, he will contact you and come back. Otherwise, it’s just you are hurting yourself.

    Birthdays or anniversaries are so terrible after breakup. You will always think that it is supposed to be a splendid day. But now the day becomes painful. I know the feeling. I’m also afraid of my ex’s birthday in just less than 2 weeks. Last year it was so good and so memorable. But this year, it can’t be worse. Since you still have 2 months time, I would suggest you just move on. After 2 months, you won’t have the pain today. Time heals all wounds. But if you still decide to visit him, there’s a big chance that your wound will open again. If you love him, set him free. If he loves you back, he will back. Otherwise, just move on.

    BTW, I come from Shanghai. Welcome to Shanghai. I think at this moment you know what to do. Your suggestions to Albana are also the suggestions to yourself. hangout with friends, travel to somewhere and don’t stay at home alone. Hope you will get better soon.

    #55250
    Albana
    Participant

    Dear Annie,

    Im very sorry about your hurt feelings:(
    You just shouldnt go,you wont change anything believe me. You just remember excatly my relationship because after we fighted and he decided by message(whatsapp) that he dont feels anything,that its over. I had already booked the ticket to Rome because i wanted to make him a surprise,to say to him
    That i was sorry and start all over again from the beginning but in that situation i told him that i booked the ticket to see him and he just said that i shouldnt go,because he is convinced that its over.Though i went and he waited for me in the airport buuuuuut it was horrible,staying at his home saying to him i was sorry all the time,feeling weak,he was cold,sleeping in the same bed and it was just like i was sleeping alone.He didnt touch even a hair. I felt like i was dead. So,dont do it! Move on,dont write anything to him,dont go there(im sorry that you spent your money because its not the right time) Give time to him if he change his mind,but the most important thing,give time to yourself.Dont stay and think how to get him back but think about yourself,you will find very soon someone else.Im very happy that you go out with friends,i will do the same because its been 3 months,crying,staying at home,panic,headache,being looser and stuff like that. So,tomorrow i’ll go to work,after work going for a drink and on weekend im going out at night. Enough,cant take it anymore. If he does not want you one time,you wont want him 10 times. You did everything you could but dont tread on yourself. Pleaseeeee! Stay calm. And if you have those bad feelings in weak moments, read this conversation or a link that i posted on Lunarforest,it will help you.
    Looking forward to get your answer my friend.
    Love Albana

    #64689
    Lilia
    Participant

    Hi everyone,

    I know this thread had been started 5 months ago already. I just want to see how you are coping this post break up period. My LDR of 3 years ended 2 months ago. I feel a lot better now than I initially did. But I still feel the slow burn of heartache at times and miss him terribly(even when I know he broke up with me for someone else). I stumbled across this thread and realized how many similarities we all share. It’d be nice to gain some insights into how your recovery journey has evolved. How are you feeling now? are you friends with your ex? got back together? or finally let go and feel indifferent towards him/her?

    I’d be really grateful if you can share how your life has been unfolding and what you’ve learned from this lesson.

    Lilia

    #120107
    Ethan Olivia
    Participant

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    #198135
    Liz
    Participant

    Hello,
    What do I do?

    So I have been dating my current ex now for a short period of 2 months and it was long distance. We were hooked up by close friends in hopes of finding a lifetime partner. My understanding of that was that, we were both searching for marriage type of commitment. Within the first month of our courtship, he mentioned he wanted to be exclusive. I was happy to hear that. The following month, he asked me to be his girlfriend. Immediately after, that we broke up. I called things off because I stumbled upon a message from another woman pouring out her heart to him the first month we were together. I thought nothing of it because our relationship was something still very new. Maybe he hadn’t quite figured out what to do about that situation yet. I figured that eventually he would dismiss it since he didn’t seem to be paying much attention to her.

    When he came to visit me, I noticed that the same person was still messaging him. Oppose to confronting him out right away, I asked for his phone (never ever again!) He kept saying it wasn’t an issue to see his phone but when he noticed how serious I was about seeing his phone, he changed his tone. I ended up dropping him off at the airport in a rude way and broke things off. Within 24 hours, he called to apologize for not allowing me see his phone but I wasn’t having that apology because he was apologizing for the wrong thing. After a few calls back and forth, he finally came clean about the other woman. I was willing to overlook simply because it was a new relationship, sometimes people have it harder letting go of their past. (At least that was my thought).

    After he came clean, he disappeared on me. He barely called and now he’s completely stopped calling. I’ve reached out to him multiple times. He finally called me two weeks later after we broke up to say I wanted the apology in my own words. I tried to reason with him but whenever I tried, he shunned the conversation. I eventually told myself to stop calling him. He reached out to me a few days back but I was playing hard to get. I tried calling him the following day, we spoke briefly but he had to go stating he’d call back which he never did. Its been a month since we broke up and its been 3 days since we’ve had any dialogue with each other. What do i do? I can’t stop thinking about him..

    #198141
    Liz
    Participant

    Hello,

    What do I do?

    So I have been dating my current ex now for a short period of 2 months and it was long distance. We were hooked up by close friends in hopes of finding a lifetime partner. My understanding of that was that, we were both searching for marriage type of commitment. Within the first month of our courtship, he mentioned he wanted to be exclusive. I was happy to hear that. The following month, he asked me to be his girlfriend. Immediately after, that we broke up. I called things off because I stumbled upon a message from another woman pouring out her heart to him the first month we were together. I thought nothing of it because our relationship was something still very new. Maybe he hadn’t quite figured out what to do about that situation yet. I figured that eventually he would dismiss it since he didn’t seem to be paying much attention to her.

    When he came to visit me, I noticed that the same person was still messaging him. Oppose to confronting him out right away, I asked for his phone (never ever again!) He kept saying it wasn’t an issue to see his phone but when he noticed how serious I was about seeing his phone, he changed his tone. I ended up dropping him off at the airport in a rude way and broke things off. Within 24 hours, he called to apologize for not allowing me see his phone but I wasn’t having that apology because he was apologizing for the wrong thing. After a few calls back and forth, he finally came clean about the other woman. I was willing to overlook simply because it was a new relationship, sometimes people have it harder letting go of their past. (At least that was my thought).

    After he came clean, he disappeared on me. He barely called and now he’s completely stopped calling. I’ve reached out to him multiple times. He finally called me two weeks later after we broke up to say I wanted the apology in my own words. I tried to reason with him but whenever I tried, he shunned the conversation. I eventually told myself to stop calling him. He reached out to me a few days back but I was playing hard to get. I tried calling him the following day, we spoke briefly but he had to go stating he’d call back which he never did. Its been a month since we broke up and its been 3 days since we’ve had any dialogue with each other. What do i do? I can’t stop thinking about him..

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