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    Samsuddin M Zaved
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    After all these years as I tried to figure out why relationship failed. Finally, I have one answer figured out – it was easy to fall in love as we gazed into each others eyes but as the relationship matured we made a mistake by not looking ahead together in the same direction.

    One of us slipped away in most cases it was I who had the courage to risk it all than enduring an unhappy relationship. I do not know how to write me into this. It is that episode of my life that I do not take pride and how quickly I have forgotten a big chunk of it as my heart was not into it. I had emotional upheaval with breaking up, most of them were toxic in the end.
    Toxic relationship is a monster, it is a soul eater. It can destroy you from inside like a parasite. In a toxic or bad relationship both gets sick in the mind and soul, as it is highly contagious it can travel from one partner to another through the medium of insecurity, suspicion, financial weakness, ill temper and bad mouth. It begins when one partner is at the low end of life, has needs, self centered, and does or say sweet things to the other partner only for a purpose.

    Due to the financial weaknesses or instability all other perils pop up one after another, exhibiting various types of insecurity and suspicion regarding other partner’s activity ad ending up with vehement outcry and abusive languages. In a toxic love respect for each other goes out the window due to constant blaming and demeaning. Trying to satisfy the needs of other partner is pointless in toxic love as it is like a bottom-less basket, it will always remain empty however you may try to fill it in.

    Breaking away from such relationship as soon as possible is the only option, some just get too abusive to break free and walk out of it with relief. The aftermath of toxic love is less agonizing, as you can recover quicker without too much of emotional turmoil. The only part to regret is the time spent to fix it again and again. From my experience, I can help you to figure out whether you are the one in it too. You need to ask yourself these questions: do I feel at home, relaxed and oozing with confidence when I am with my partner OR do I feel anxious, unsure and dejected with my partner? If it is the second one, then it is definitely toxic.

    #126238
    Anonymous
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    Dear samsuddinzaved:

    I found your description of a toxic relationship valuable. It is indeed regrettable, the “time spent to fix it again and again.”- that is often the most wasteful part in term of Time wasted.

    It is a shame that financial troubles often lead to abuse, as any distress does. The key in a healthy, loving relationship is when feeling distressed, be it financial or otherwise, to NOT react abusively toward the other, to still and throughout treat each other with empathy and respect.

    anita

    #126315
    Inky
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    Hi samsuddinzaved,

    The rule I have for myself is to be 99% comfortable in a relationship. The 1% that’s uncomfortable? That’s the part that reminds me to say “please”, “thank you”, give hugs and be respectful. If I was 100% comfortable I’d shout, “Yo, Babe! Go wash my socks, would ya?!” That would NOT go over too well day after day!

    Also, if you’re respectful and the other is not, at least they can see the contrast!

    Best,

    Inky

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