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Should I Accept Being Single Forever at age 23?

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  • #122793
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    Aiyana Henderson
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    Thank you, Nina! I love your support.

    #124234
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    Shelly
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    23 is still too young to accept a relationship status in my opinion. Society expects you to do certain things like go to college, get a job, get married, have kids but the one thing I’ve learned is to love yourself and the rest will follow. I’m not a poster child for relationships but I will say I am not afraid to keep trying either. Yes you will get hurt in a relationship but the pain of loneliness seems so much greater. Just my two cents on this. Love yourself enough to try.

    #124360
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    Aiyana Henderson
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    Hey, everyone. Thank you for your responses. On December 30th, 2016, I started a social media detox. It hasn’t been easy, which isn’t surprising since I’ve had a habit of always checking my phone. However, I can have the belief that this will benefit me in the long run. I can’t keep comparing myself to other people’s lives. The past 3 days, I have gotten on social media, so that’s why this is still a process. As far as day 4 goes, it was actually better. I haven’t done two things at once with watching TV, and going on my phone today. Being true to myself is important for me in 2017. I did have a great new years eve celebration. I didn’t go anywhere. But it was great to be with family.

    Please take care of yourselves and I’ll keep you all updated. Idk how long this detox will last, but I know it will benefit me in the long run.

    #125057
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    Aiyana Henderson
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    Hey, everyone it’s me again. What’s going on? I hope your January has been lovely. My detox, needless to say, only lasted about a few days, to a week. Shmurr (Superwoman reference.) I did read my book Lisette’s List for 45 minutes in total silence, so that was great progress. I’m not quite ready yet to go completely off the grid, but I’m taking baby steps. The only rules I have for my detox is if I need to call and text someone for personal reasons. Anything else is off limits, i.e., Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and the like. Thanks again for being there for me in this thread! You all take care.

    #125073
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    Nina Sakura
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    Hey Aiyanna

    Good idea. It actually improved my concentration to turn off the internet on my phone and put it away in a drawer. Then there was a new practise of taking a walk for a few minutes a day outside without the phone with me. It felt a bit uncomfortable at first but then it felt rather nice to enjoy my surroundings for a change. But I still love my phone 😛

    Facebook has been off for almost 2 months, had to reinstall whatsapp to avoid actual inconvienience. Fb had just turned into a useless activity – realised I was calling people more and texting less as a result of deactivating things. Rather glad about this cuz phone calls with most people make me nervous.

    Thanks for reading and good luck to you.

    Regards
    Nina

    #125075
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    Nina Sakura
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    PS – did you refer to Lily Singh, superwoman by any chance? 😀

    #125077
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    Aiyana Henderson
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    Hi Nina, I DID. Lilly is so amazing. If you don’t watch her on YouTube, you should. How have you been?

    #125094
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    Nina Sakura
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    Hi Aiyanna,

    Yes she is remarkable. I have seen her videos before as well. Nowadays not so much due to lack of time. Well I have been good, it’s been mostly pretty hectic and I hope to make some time to get exercise. What about you?

    #125367
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    Sara
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    Hi! It’s always fun to run across a fellow Asperger’s person! Asperger’s means I have a hard time trying to make what I see fit with what other’s WANT me to see. I didn’t always know how much autism can make it easy for con artists and abusers to manipulate me. I’ve had to learn some HARD lessons. I’d like to recommend to you the book “Aspergirls” by Rudy Simone. This book is an amazing reference to consider any time you are autistic and questioning where to go next with your life. You have an exceptional gift that will attract people to you in time (Asperger people tend to bloom a little later than neurotypicals). Twenty-three is still a few years before your “prime”. But once you get a few years older, it will be surprising how quickly your world will change. Hold off on any permanent decisions about your fate. Asperger’s means you get to take your time and step forth with a unique mind that people will find youthful and attractive for your entire life.

    #125384
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    Aiyana Henderson
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    @nina, I’m hanging in there. I still have to ask my job coach about my job. My cousin says I might be good at technology, so maybe I’ll read up coding. Unfortunately, when you’re not physically disabled, the government doesn’t give you any work as easily. Since my autism is intellectually disabled, it’s harder for people to see that. Oh, and don’t take this the wrong way, but my name only has 1 N, not 2.

    @sara, you don’t have to worry because I actually own that book. I should read it again. I also owe Safety Skills For Asperger’s Women by Liane Holliday Willey. Did you read that one? It would teach you not to be gullible with others.

    #125609
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    Sara
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    Thanks for the book recommendation! I hadn’t heard of it before. I sure could have used something like that twenty years ago. But it’s never too late for good information.

    #125619
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    Brav3
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    Should you accept being single forever at age 23? It depends solely on you and you only.

    This is your journey. You should discover it. Why do you care what people say? Let them say what they want to say. Being single is something and being in relationship is something. Nothing is better or worse.

    So, enjoy your journey and be ready for whatever it brings. If its with someone, great ! If its being single, superb !

    Words of a famous monk ” You were born alone, you will die alone. Yes, there might be people by your side, but in the end you will be closing your eyes and taking your last breath by yourself only ”

    So, why to feel fear from being alone or single? ( just a question for people who are afraid and seek relationship)

    Brav3

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