August 10, 2013 at 1:43 pm #40142
I’m having a hard time today. It is so gorgeous out and I’m getting ready to go to an Art’s and Wine Festival. I’m just depressed because I know my ex is talking to someone else and it has been four months now since we separated and I’m so heart broken. I just want to email him and tell him i miss him and break down obviously today I have fallen. I love him so much. I just want these feelings to go away. If I send him an email I know I’ll be making a fool of myself but it hurts feeling that he didn’t care. oh goodness. I just needed to vent.
August 10, 2013 at 1:47 pm #40144
I’m sorry that you are so sad. Relationship break downs are the worst.
There isn’t much I can say to help. Just try and take pleasure in the little things, the beauty of the art and the beauty of the wine. Some wine anyway, not too much
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August 10, 2013 at 2:31 pm #40150
So sorry. And not a lot I can say. But……if it any help at all…..and I know you are hurting…remember who is precious her…it is you……it is something I am learning at cost…but you need to be complete within yourself…..never let your feelings be completely hostage to the actions of another……..your beauty is in you.You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
August 10, 2013 at 2:39 pm #40152
Be happy that you know feelings like this.. they are not owned by him.. they are yours.. you create these feelings.. not the other person
Direct the feelings elsewhere.. most often towards yourself..
I do not know the separation story but from what I have learned about attachment I feel better when I stay focused on WHO is creating the emotions
How do I feel about this
How would I like to feel about this
How do I choose to feel about this
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August 10, 2013 at 3:13 pm #40154
It sounds like going to the festival was a trigger, reminding you of your loneliness. Consider just noting the emotion… “oh yes, I remember this feeling, this is the unsettled feeling of loneliness. I don’t need to do anything with it, or imagine my ex, just notice the feeling and breathe.” When you attune to your body in such a way, the emotions settle and we can appreciate the art and wine, after all, that’s where our body actually is!
I hope the beautiful day inspires a beautiful Jamie!
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August 10, 2013 at 9:21 pm #40167
My daughter married last year in September, her new husband came home six months after the wedding and announced he wasn’t happy and wanted a divorce. We don’t live in close proximity of each other so we talked on the phone a few times every day for quite a while and still do. I understand what you are going through. I just kept telling my daughter that when God closes one door he opens another. Not real helpful words at a time when you are hurting so much and it was a struggle for her too. After the divorce was final she met this wonderful young man that just adores her the way she should be adored, his marriage ended the same way, his was a few years ago so they aren’t on the rebound and it has taken her sometime to put her trust in a lot of things. I think what is most important is “you”..you will have days of struggle, your heart has been broken and you think it will never heal, but it will. If you have a good support system that also helps, staying busy and being kind to yourself, if you need to talk about how you are feeling reach out to someone you trust. We women tend to need to talk and talk until we are either exhausted of talking or figure something out and then sometimes we still don’t resolve the issue, but some how we feel a little better when we have someone to talk to. It is ok to feel sadness and lonely at times, try not to stay there though. Find a new hobby, do things that you might have always wanted to do but for some reason didn’t do them. Now is “your” time, spend it wisely and thoughtfully.
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