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  • #96003
    Daniel C.
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    Hello all!
    Sorry to bother you, but this thought has been nagging at me for a while. It seems that whenever my parents (mother or father) walk into my room I get very tense and anxious. Especially if I’m doing something on my desktop. I was diagnosed with GAD, so I’m guessing this is a part of it. IS there some way I could help myself so I don’t feel as nervous?

    Thank you so much, you guys are the best.

    #96006
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Daniel C:

    You are not bothering me. The opposite is true: I am glad you posted and hope you will post again and again.

    You stated that you feel anxious when your mother or father walk into your room, especially if you are at your desktop. This means to me that in the past it happened that your mother or your father (or another care taker if let’s say you lived with a grandparent before you lived with your parents) entered your room and something bad happened, you felt you were in danger. It could be that a parent entered your room and asked you accusingly: “What are YOU doing?” Or something. In your brain a connection was made between a parent entering your room and a danger entering your room. This is the explanation to your fear.

    The fact that you were diagnosed with GAD means that you experience excess, ongoing fear. It does not mean you were born with excess, ongoing fear (anxiety), but that your life experiences lead to this being the case.

    Would you like to share about what happened in the past when a parent entered your room? And is the door to your room closed? Locked? Do they knock before entering?

    anita

    #96008
    Daniel C.
    Participant

    Hi Anita,
    Thank for responding, and I will be sure to keep you updated on what goes on with this in the future.

    Basically, my parents have walked in on me checking my Skype or social media when I was meant to be doing something else, homework mostly.

    As of right now my door is open, because my room gets quite cold. I prefer to leave it closed, but the lock doesn’t work. There is a bright yellow note on my door that says “Please Knock First”, however this is generally ignored.

    #96010
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Daniel:

    Why is your bright yellow note generally ignored? And what other assertions on your part get generally ignored?

    anita

    #96012
    Daniel C.
    Participant

    I think it’s because they’re both so used to seeing it there that they don’t even read it. Thats just a guess though. They’re generally pretty respectful when it comes to other things we talk about, so that’s why I say that.

    #96016
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Daniel C:

    In your original post on this thread you asked: “IS there some way I could help myself so I don’t feel as nervous?”

    My answer would be: yes, there is some way you can help yourself in the circumstance you described: make it clear to both your parents that it is very important to you that they knock and wait for your reply before entering your room, that they must get your permission to enter the room, ask for and wait for your permission.

    Tell each one (together or separately) that it makes you anxious when you see either one of them in your room not knowing or permitting them to be inside your room. And assert what I suggested.

    If your parents are interested in your well being, they will feel empathy for you and will be interested in respecting your assertion regarding entering your room.

    anita

    #96021
    Daniel C.
    Participant

    Alright then I’ll try that. Thank you so much.

    #96023
    Anonymous
    Guest

    You are welcome, Daniel C. And please do post again anytime!
    anita

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