Hi, Last week we (my husband and I)  exchanged contracts to sell our house. We are now bitterly regretting this decision.

Quick background: we sold the house we’d lived in for 10 years and had children in 3 years ago, to move to a ‘dream’ house in the country. The house it beautiful, the village is lovely, we have wonderful neighbours but I haven’t settled since we got here. My mum has gone through two bouts of cancer (she lives 3 hours away), my husband’s mum has died, and the school situation has been pretty dire and as a result our children have been at three primary schools since we arrived.

I’ve been depressed for most of the time we have been here and take medication now. This was never me, but I have missed my old friends and old life so much. I have watched the children (9 and 11) lose their spark and miss all the people and activities they use to love. We are now pretty rural – closest town 25 minutes away, and all of these things, coupled with the fact that our eldest is about to move to secondary school (knowing no one) convinced us (me) to put our house on the market. It sold instantly and our buyers have patiently waited for 6 months while we find houses, then pull out of them, and finally as a last straw have found a place to rent that will mean we should get in to the secondary school for our daughter, back where we came from.

The decision to go or stay has felt impossible with both options seeming good/ bad/ neither perfect. But as it had gone on SO long last week it all came to a head and we had to make a decision. We decided to sell (although it was such a close call we almost went the other way) and now my husband is devastated. He has done it for me / the children and really doesn’t want to leave here. I was reasonably confident about it but seeing how he is and listening to all the reasons he thinks it’s wrong – he wasn’t so clear about these before – has put MAJOR seeds of doubt in my mind and I cannot help but think we will really regret this.

Can’t undo it now, but I can’t seem to be positive in any way and I don’t know how to move forward. I feel like I am in an nightmare.

Sorry this is so long, thank you to anyone that reads it!