Hello Anyone 🙂
First of all its really nice to hear that you are happy with your life right now not a lot of people are content with themselves:) When it comes to wanting your ex to call it is very normal since from (i ignored so many times) I’m guessing she calls a lot and you are so used to it that it makes you feel weird that she has stopped. But just remember that she too has feelings and probably is sick of feeling like she is throwing herself on you. And since you are so happy with your new life , you must let go of the old one completely!
When it comes to your mind wandering just remember that nothing can enter your mind without you letting it ! So everytime some unwanted thought comes into your mind analyze it and move on from it. Or you can do the old trick where everytime you thought of her or something you didnt want to think of , you can entertain yourself with something else like a game or a movie or anything like that. But I would prefer if you would analyze the thought as that is much more useful at stopping the thought completely . For example; “I wish she would call, where is she?” When this thought comes to mind (just guessing) you should ask yourself , why you care? So what if she called? Would it benefit me at all or just put me back where I used to be? At first the question will keep coming back to your mind but later on you will get bored and sick of it and you will stop thinking of her as your brain and yourself will notice that it is not helping you or even harming you at all.
Hope I could help, take care and let me know if u have any questions:)

Hi Anyone,

So you had to break up, and you don’t want to get back together, but you keep thinking about her.

You were subconsciously torn about your decision. Somewhere in you she is good; after all you were together, right?

You may miss her – even for drama as Inky asks. If you are like me, you might recall her scent, her hugs, quiet times, fun times out and about. If I were in love I would see her eyes, her smile. It’s in your nature as a person to feel and see these memories of love and connection. We are meant to connect. It’s in our blood to be together. So, as you heard from Inky above, you asked for this space, and you will have these thoughts. What to do with these thoughts? Alpal offers good ideas.

What to do? My take on this having been there: It takes forgiveness, gratitude, time and other connections to lessen thoughts of her.

Say to yourself, “We are both good people who tried but could not stay together. I forgive myself. I forgive her.”

“I am grateful for her being in my life, but things did not work.”

Be patient during this time.

Open your mind and your heart to new experiences, people and places.

Good luck on your exam!

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