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May 27, 2016 at 8:53 pm #105824
AmberParticipanti dont even like this guy. i dont even wanta boyfriend. i have nothing else though. i have no family and because of him i lost my car because i put him in charge of everything financial. how we met is kind of messed up. i met him 6 months a go through a model i have never met and never spoke to never saw a picture of her and she texted me saying go pick up this guy and be with him forever. she left me a voicemail and i heard a video of her on youtube and its the same voice so i believe she is a real person. she told me she is psychic and so is he and that we are meant to be together. ummmmm. when i first met him i was like “OMG” he was nothing of what i expected. well, she told me he was the sweetest guy ever be his “number 1 do everything to be with him and impress him he can make your dreams come true” i literally messaged her over and over again kindly asking to send a photo and no she said “i dont have to omfg youre pissing me off” and then she blocked me and this guy is so uncaring he says he cares but then when something he said just hurt me he goes “oh” and goes to sleep i dont like him at all i want to be alone so bad but the thing that i had the only thing i had is gone. i was in a bad situation before and i feel like everyone just wants to take the little things that i have.around this guy i feel so lonely depressed and sad. i went on his facebook and saw messages to another woman calling her a latin queen and she was sexy and he took me off his facebook as his girlfriend and then told another girl he didnt have a girlfriend i was just a friend and i have no where to go so im stuck with him. he told me he was cheated on by his ex wife i wonder why. he smells and weighs 385 lbs and is 47 years old and im 19 years old. they told me that we are going to be millionaires one day and the things is i dont even want it i want my freedom but i lost my transportation. i dont trust this man at all he basically owns me. i dont know if i should find a way to leave or stay with him because everyone else tries to take what i have and use me and i feel he is doing the same.
May 28, 2016 at 9:37 am #105844
AnonymousGuestDear amber789:
This model/psychic should not be in your life and neither is this man. These two people harmed you. They are not decent people, so please remove them; remove the man from your life- no contact and no communication.
I am sorry you lost your car. Please do learn from this experience: learn to form your own evaluations of people and not trust anyone blindly, definitely not before you get to know them well.
You are 19 and did not have a good life so far. There is hope for you though, hope for a better and better life. I thing psychotherapy with a competent, caring therapist will help you a whole lot in the quest for a better life.
One of the first things I would like you to learn is the difference between abusive, disrespectful treatment and loving, respectful treatment by others. And then, I would like it very much if you chose the second and avoided the first.
Please do post anytime!
anita
May 28, 2016 at 2:23 pm #105851AmberParticipanti have no money no car no friends no family. no job but through him and we are still having money problems he is my best option. unfortunately
May 28, 2016 at 2:30 pm #105852AmberParticipantby the way thank you for answering. i feel he is the model/psychic because apparently she is a model who make 4-7 million dollars a year and is famous through a different name and they were together but they broke up because she was a lesbian and he didnt want to be with her. hes very dismissive and to him self and isnt a friendly guy. he says he cares because he is always worrying and thinking about me and putting me first and worries about my problems he shuts me off when i want to speak my mind. he thinks im 19 and dumb but i know something is wrong i just dont know how to go about it or what to believe. im trying to select my best option because if i dont be with him then i would have to honestly be a prostitute because i used to go on seekingarrangement to find men to pay me money. so i dont want to do that. he says he is not normally this way but things are stressful for him and when things get better financially he will too
May 28, 2016 at 2:42 pm #105853AmberParticipantmy father passed away when i was7 and my mother became an alcoholic my whole family abandoned me and my brother and sister followed my mothers footsteps. im still going through trauma of my childhood and to leave would cause me more stress because i would have to figure my way out in this world vs. being with someone who knows how to handle people and i think he is just my best option at the moment. im trying to figure him out and find out if brandy is who “they” say she is but they told me just drop it i have no reason to think this. brandy said i am crazy but then she told me she loves me and i am her friend.:/ i feel lost please help
May 28, 2016 at 2:49 pm #105854AmberParticipanti didnt trust them blindly and did form my own opinions of them and new something was wrong but i think they saw the position i was in and took advantage and pressured me to commit.
May 28, 2016 at 6:34 pm #105870AnonymousGuestDear amber789:
You feel that your choices are limited, that you either stay with this man, 30 years older than you, a man you are repulsed by or you will have to be a prostitute.
Someone reported your thread for “inappropriate content” – not me. Someone did because I assume he or she can’t believe this is real, that a young woman, 19, can in real life see only two options: living with a much older man OR be a prositute.
Unfortunately, and it is very unfortunate, this is not an unreal situation. Many women are in a similar situation. Your family of origin injured you and did not allow you to imagine life can be better than this, than the life you are living. Life becomes a compromise between bad and worse.
Is there, amber, a way for you to seek psychotherapy- are there shelters where you live, a place you can go and stay, without having to give your body for the use of a man, or men? A place where you can sleep in a clean bed, warm and fed without having to pay with your body? A shelter that will make psychological counseling available for you?
Life hasn’t been good for you so far, but there is hope. You must believe that you deserve better than this. Please post again here on this thread, or start a new one (if you don’t want the “inappropriate content” attached).
anita
May 28, 2016 at 7:04 pm #105876AmberParticipanti dont know if there is a shelter like that. my sister used to live in a group home. they put her on medication that “made her feel like a robot”. thats what she said i dont exactly remember. i know that getting into a shelter would not be an easy process. a lot of people put pressure on me about “hurting” this man because apparently his ex wife cheated on him and it broke him badly. she had sex with many different men. but im already used to him i have been from man to man to man. right when i leave one guy, another one comes along and i feel that people are just monsters i just want to be isolated from everybody and just do what is good for me (meditate, do yoga, and eat raw fruits and vegetables etc.) i tried to go to therapy but i dont like having someone help because they have to. the therapists i went to, i stopped going to them because i felt it was not genuine. i was really kind of curious to see where things can go with this guy and see what our future was like. i have many things i need taken care of and he is taking care of them. i KNOOOOW i deserve better, but for some reason everything in my life has been tragic and i do not know what i did! ive always been a sweet nice girl and everyone is so evil….
May 28, 2016 at 7:35 pm #105877AnonymousGuestDear amber789:
I hope you do find a genuine therapist. And i do hope you find a way to live by yourself, meditate, do yoga and eat raw, just what you want. Please do take care of yourself, protect yourself from people who abuse those who are weaker, or needier, or available to be taken advantage of. There are decent people out there and again, I do hope you meet decent, honest people.
anita
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