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Never apologize for how you feel. No one can control how they feel. The sun doesn’t apologize for being the sun. The rain doesn’t say sorry for falling. Feelings just are.

Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.

We are all wounded people dealing with messy emotions in a confusing, uncertain, sometimes scary world. That doesn’t give anyone the right to be mean, thoughtless, or disrespectful. But remembering this makes it a little easier to think, ‘I hope you heal from your pain’ instead of ‘I hope you hurt like you hurt me.’

It’s okay if you don’t feel grateful in this moment, even if you know you have a lot to be grateful for. Let yourself feel whatever you feel. It will be a lot easier to focus on your blessings after you let the pain run through you.

Thoughts fuel emotions. If you don’t like what you’re feeling, step back and example what you’re thinking. Pain is inevitable, but you’ll suffer a lot less if you disengage from your thoughts.

Never think you are weak if you cry. Every tear is replaced with wisdom and strength.

Whatever you’re feeling, it will eventually pass. You won’t feel sad forever. At some point, you will feel happy again. You won’t feel anxious forever. In time, you will feel calm again. You don’t have to fight your feelings or feel guilty for having them. You just have to accept them and be good to yourself while you ride this out. Resisting your emotions and shaming yourself will only cause you more pain, and you don’t deserve that. You deserve your own love, acceptance, and compassion.

Can’t just ‘let it go’? That’s because emotions aren’t like rocks we can drop and throw. They’re more like drops of water that need to run through us. So don’t let it go, let it flow.

You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a ‘negative person.’ It makes you human.

 

You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective—it just means you’re human.

Don’t assume, ask. Be kind. Tell the truth. Don’t say anything you can’t stand behind fully. Have integrity. Tell people how you feel.

We not not our feelings. We are not our moods. We not even our thoughts.

You feel what you feel, and whatever you feel is valid; it doesn’t have to make sense. Feelings happen. Only when you believe your feelings are truth and feel an urgency to act on them do irrational feelings become bad decisions.

Your emotions are meant to fluctuate, just like your blood pressure is meant to fluctuate. It’s a system that’s supposed to move back and forth, between happy and unhappy. That’s how the system guides you through the world.

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.

Emotions are temporary states of mind. Don’t let them permanently destroy you.

Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.

When you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel.

Feelings are like waves. You cannot stop them from coming but you can decide which ones to surf.

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