Dear Ravi:

It is interesting, your last line, wishing you could give your inner voice a big STFU- I read a psychotherapist online recommending just that on his website in one of his articles, to become angry and aggressive with that inner voice. He was referring to the Inner Critic, the voice that tells you negative things about yourself. I did that for a while. It may work.

I am glad to read your above post. I didn’t know where my posting of this morning will lead. I was quite emotional about it and before it. This is to show that the best way to operate is to stick to one’s truth. I stated the truth of my thinking and feeling just as it was, even made a mistake to correct on the second post to you today, and it works. It is one more evidence for the benefit of honest communication compared to manipulative communication.

When i stated to you my truth in my first post today, I did not have in mind the results I wanted to accomplish. I just told you sincerely what I believed at that time. Not all correct, but it doesn’t matter: when you have an honest communication with another person, you can correct yourself when less emotional and you can correct the other. I corrected myself and so did you, correct me in stating that you did become a better Ravi as a result of the relationship (just not a more assertive etc. Ravi).

Often unexpected good things happen in this kind of communication. From your last post, your attitude about not turning the good in what was there into a sickness is the kind of a good thing I am referring to.

And as you wrote in your last post, it is in the relationships that are still happening, relationships that are very real and happening in your life where your answers are. Evaluate the honesty there, in your relationships with your parents and grandmother: are they hones with you or manipulative?

I wish they were honest with you. If they were, we wouldn’t be here on this thread.

Be strong, Ravi. See reality for what it is and post anyime. I do open your message first whenever I am online.

ania