Hi hopeoverdespair,
When things go wrong, it’s common in our Culture to Blame the Victim. Here, it’s: “It didn’t work out, so that means I have to work on my self esteem and underlying intimacy issues and belief systems”. Yes, there is a Golden Path to what we want. It is possible to say The Right Words in The Right Way in The Right Time to The Right Person, and have it all work out. Well, most of us aren’t psychics or con artists. LOL!
And guess what? It’s his loss too!! I bet he himself has self esteem/intimacy/belief systems going on! So you can’t win! LOL
And guess what Part Two? You’re not SUPPOSED to show intimacy or your vulnerable side to just anyone/everyone etc. It’s OK to give these things TIME.
Keep going out on dates. Keep it light. Keep it fun. One day you will click with a special person! Warts and all!
Best,
Inky
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