Dear hantal:

Your situation is sad. I can see why you are in such despair. You asked for anything to make you feel better. I can only offer to you what is or can be the truth and reality of the situation. And it is not a good situation.

Since you pleaded with your husband to help you with this and he did not help you, I wouldn’t ask or plead with him anymore: what is the use of that?

I would focus on my relationship with the two grandchildren whom you love so dearly. Concentrate on them, make it a good relationship for you and for them. Have their well being as your highest priority.

About your husband’s adult daughters: do nothing at all for them. Don’t cook for them, serve them, clean for them.. nothing. Do not try any longer to make them like you or change their attitude about you.

Focus on the two grandchildren and yourself. And please post again with your struggles and hopefully, improvements

anita