Der bigglasses:

You wrote above that you never voiced that your husband is irresponsible towards his children, but in your original post you wrote: “my DH has not supported me, rather created massive obstacles for us that have stretched me to breaking point many times. I have had several breakdowns, but have never been able to get help” and you wrote that you moved 20 times or more since married, that he announced in the last move, or one of the latest that he will be moving with or without you and the children. You also wrote that he moved out of your bedroom but visits you for his “sexual fulfillment”. You expressed lack of money and that if you moved back to the UK you’d have to work full time to support your children. This means to me he is not financially responsible for them.

All this indicates to me that he is an irresponsible as a father, husband and person.

You wrote above that your family is against you divorcing him, saying he is nice and it is you who is making him behave that way, if by “family” you mean your parents, then it is very sad and explains to me why it is definitely not a good idea that you live with your parents. If it is your parents who say that to you, I wonder if this has been their message all along, when you were growing up, that anything and everything is … your fault?

Seems to me that separating from the husband and living away from him and away from your parents/ non supportive extended family is still a good idea.

I hope you reply to this post.

anita