Dear afraidofeveryone:

I read your reply to me, seems like I misunderstood you in my first post to you: I wrongly assumed your resolution following your predicament was to continue to go to bars/ pick up or hookup places like bars without your boyfriend but to drink there less or more slowly. So my response was: not a good idea. But now I understand I assumed wrong. Well, then, your resolution is fine and dandy, I believe and I hope too that indeed you forgive yourself for what was a mistake. You may not repeat this exact mistakes but there will be other mistakes.

We all make mistakes and we never stop making mistakes. Same for your boyfriend. So when he makes a mistake (not an act of cruelty, just a ..mistake) you will pay his generosity back and forgive him.

Learn to live with the reality that there will be more mistakes on your part and on his… and on my part (my very misunderstanding of your post).

anita