Dear xenopustex:

I think that a 27 year old woman is not necessarily too young for a soon to be 40 year old man. Here is a possible rule of thumb: if the woman started aging (mid twenties, I think)- then maybe she is not too young. And then maturity level is far from being a product of age.

Regarding the burden around your neck, please do remove it. Your mother said she was going to live with you temporarily. Then she chose to not keep her word. Help her be a woman of her word and insist she keeps her promise, late but better than not at all. Let your yes be yes, your no be no and it-will-only-be-for-awhile be only for a while.

The fact that you are employed, a lawyer/ prosecutor, making a good living, with a reasonable future of earning more and more as time goes by, this is a big attraction for millions and millions of women world wide. I am not suggesting you open your heart and mind to a gold digger or to a woman otherwise desperate for a shelter, or that you use this fact to mistreat another. What I am suggesting is that you consider this reality of how attractive your financial/ professional position is to a lot of women.

I strongly recommend you clear your home from the presence of your mother, and pursue a true, loving relationship with a woman of your choosing, of your wise choosing.

anita