Dear Sam:

About your journey of self discovery in the last year: what did you discover?

Regarding what you like about this love interest, what draws you to him: you wrote: ” I had never had a guy treat me the way that he did – cussed me out when he was drunk, blacked out, passed out and vomited in my purse at a concert we went to, obsessively called/texted me, tailed my car out of the parking lot and honked his horn”

Here are possible draws/ thoughts you may be thinking (I’ll use first person, and the thoughts of course, are not necessarily in my proposed choice of words). Please do let me know where I may be correct:

1) He is hurting so much. He needs my help. I can help him. I can make a difference in his life.
2) He cares about me, this is why he obsessively called and texted me and tailed my car. He needs me. He really needs me.
3) My job is not going anywhere. I am numb a lot of the time, bored. Being with this guy is going to be exciting, never a dull moment.
4) I didn’t like that purse anyway (this one is me joking).

anita