Dear Ravi:

You wrote that you need your well wishers to stand by you even if it’s a “seemingly fruitless venture”- Well, I am a well wisher, this is why I won’t be standing by you if I believed a venture was fruitless. Like you, I am not optimistic about the results of a message as far as a relationship with Jerry. I see a chance that there will be a relationship as a result and want to maximize the chance. The fruit of this venture would be the construction of the message itself- you expressing yourself truthfully, authentically, NOT in a self deprecating way (that will be edited by me!) And then, after you send it, and after the response- or lack of- will take it from there.

I see you feel vulnerable about putting out a message so true to you. This is why you want it private. On this site, there is one way I am thinking of having less people read it- you can post it as an “update”- but that won’t be private. Only less people go there, I believe. I am tempted to give you my email address although I am conflicted because I did give it away to members here on the past and regretted it. Not that it was misused, but I didn’t like it.

If you post it here and you are afraid someone else will comment on it, you can type such a personal request in the beginning of the post and then if someone other than me comments on that particular post, don’t read it, ignore it (because it would be a disrespectful act on the part of the person commenting, following your request). What do you think?

anita