The evaluation thing is where I seem to have issues along with trying to stay optimistic. Hard to tell if I make bad evaluations or kill things later. This isn’t like zeroing in a rifle. How do you separate out bad selection from killing off something later?

Was this last woman a bad choice maybe? Did I kill it by forgetting that she had a child at one point or being wrong with the time initially? Did she give up due to my schedule? Is she just waiting for the paperwork to be filed, and maybe there is nothing wrong? Based on my last discussion, is she unhappy about being out here and may go back home? Does she feel guilty/bad about unloading some of her story on me, because she was apologizing about it the first time?

It is hard to know what to fix/adjust without knowing how one got to a situation.

I tried being optimistic, letting her talk about things, etc., and nada. While I am not as smitten by her as I was the other one, I see long term relationship potential if she were interested. I really think that she has a lot of good qualities. I would be very happy if she wanted to go out, but can understand with the pending divorce thing, might look bad.

Of course, I don’t know the specifics of the break up either, so maybe I am being an idiot.