Dear sonyablade:

It is your anxiety that needs to be attended to more. If your relationship with your boyfriend is good, then he can be a source of comfort to you. Express your fear to him, in moderation (so not to overwhelm him), take responsibility for it (so you don’t blame him for anxiety that predated him), and let him soothe you.

Anxiety is very common and your boyfriend probably can relate to it. Maybe not to the particular obsession you have, but other ways his anxiety manifests itself, at least sometimes.

Help each other. There is a line from a poem that I like: “Every one of us has to live with fear.” Help each other live with it better.

anita