Now you are assuming two things that are both off-topic and untrue (in my case). One, I actually don’t desperately need their approval. I have the approval from my boyfriend and that’s enough for me. I also have approval from other sides, but I see that as irrelevant. As irrelevant as I see the approval from his family, but because of my feelings connected with the desire to be accepted as a person and accepted within a family, my feelings go haywire in this matter only because I “don’t get the double-helix striped ice cream I want”. Unlike the spoiled screaming child in the ice cream line who is used to always get his will through, I put the love in our relationship before this desire – I know that you shouldn’t neglect your desires too much either, but this particular desire is something that’s interfering with us having an elsewise magic relationship.

The other assumption you just made is that I expect relationship advise (“I would exit the relationship”), when I actually only ask for help with managing the emotion this topic causes me. I now realise this thread might be in the wrong forum since there’s nothing with the relationship I want to change, only my chemical response to one side-effect of this relationship. I’ll ask Admin to move it to Emotional Mastery.