Dear Csaba:

I think that a competent therapist is difficult to find. I didn’t get to see a competent therapist until I was 50 years old.

Your fear of relationship, which, I believe is in the core of “this ‘stress’ in relationships” (the title of your thread) has its origin in your past. I am not a therapist and even if I was, I couldn’t be here, on this website, as a therapist of any kind. Still, in the absence of a therapist (and a competent therapist!) in your life currently, we, that is you and I, can explore the origin of your fear. We can do it right here. If you are willing then, let’s communicate back and forth.

I read the above about the relationship you experienced by proxy, that is the one between your parents. If we move away from it for now, tell me about your relationship- as a child- with your mother? Your father? Just write whatever comes to mind (without analyzing your writing).

anita